Coming out as trans

alex k · 02-18-2010, 02:46 PM

I waited til I was thirty seven before coming out to my family as trans tho most of my partners have known since i was seventeen. Only told mum and my brothers so far and they've all been great. One of my brothers said the only time he would have an issue is if i get hairier than he is

Allison W · 02-18-2010, 11:21 PM

I got lucky. When I came out, my family didn't approve at all, but they didn't outright reject me or throw me out or anything of the sort, and that I appreciate.

Though there was initial resistance--misunderstanding, anger, lack of concern, attempts to keep me from going through with it, etc.--when I actually did it, and my family was able to see that it really was for the better, they came around.

I can't say how your sister will take it (especially given her stated disability and difficulty with change), but I rather feared the reactions of my own younger brothers, whom I didn't get along with the best at the time. Strangely, they seemed to have the least trouble of anyone with it. Or, if they did, they didn't express it.

Good luck, Braedon. I hope your family is open-minded, and that any initial difficulty they have will be resolved once they see you come out the other side, new and improved.

Jet · 02-18-2010, 11:32 PM

Good luck Braedon. I know it's hard. I've already been in a fist fight with a bio male family member and disinherited just for my sexuality—let alone transition. I'll be glad to hear that your family receives this well—if not now—later. Keep us posted.

Allison W · 02-19-2010, 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I've already been in a fist fight with a bio male family member

I hope you kicked his ass.

Jet · 02-19-2010, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Allison W

I hope you kicked his ass.

I started it because I punched him in the stomach for a remark he made. Then we ended up on the floor kicking and punching each other. This lasted for about 10 minutes until my aunt came home and broke it up. I have a terrible temper when it comes to these matters, and I will never go back home because of being TG. A couple of months ago, I came out to another aunt about being male. She was amazingly supportive and didn't bat an eye. I haven't decided how I will break things to the rest of my family.

Allison W · 02-19-2010, 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I started it because I punched him in the stomach for a remark he made. Then we ended up on the floor kicking and punching each other. This lasted for about 10 minutes until my aunt came home and broke it up. I have a terrible temper when it comes to these matters, I will never go back home because of being TG.

I don't blame you. I can be rather temperamental about these matters, too--which is problematic, because some people think it's fair game for "friendly ribbing" when they really need to not go there.

Jet · 02-19-2010, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Allison W

I don't blame you. I can be rather temperamental about these matters, too--which is problematic, because some people think it's fair game for "friendly ribbing" when they really need to not go there.

I know. I've been known to start fights in restaurants because of some shitty comment or look. I've simmered down a lot in public now being older. But trust me when I tell you i dumped chili omelets on laps and grabbed one guy by the back of his hair so he would choke on his eggs. i am sick and tired of assholes.

02-18-2010, 02:46 PM	#1
alex k Junior Member How Do You Identify?: trans male Preferred Pronoun?: anything other than she Relationship Status: well and truly caught Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: uk Posts: 15 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12 Thanked 17 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 16	I waited til I was thirty seven before coming out to my family as trans tho most of my partners have known since i was seventeen. Only told mum and my brothers so far and they've all been great. One of my brothers said the only time he would have an issue is if i get hairier than he is

02-18-2010, 11:21 PM	#2
Allison W Member How Do You Identify?: TG Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Loner Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,414 Thanked 1,195 Times in 319 Posts Rep Power: 12203815	I got lucky. When I came out, my family didn't approve at all, but they didn't outright reject me or throw me out or anything of the sort, and that I appreciate. Though there was initial resistance--misunderstanding, anger, lack of concern, attempts to keep me from going through with it, etc.--when I actually did it, and my family was able to see that it really was for the better, they came around. I can't say how your sister will take it (especially given her stated disability and difficulty with change), but I rather feared the reactions of my own younger brothers, whom I didn't get along with the best at the time. Strangely, they seemed to have the least trouble of anyone with it. Or, if they did, they didn't express it. Good luck, Braedon. I hope your family is open-minded, and that any initial difficulty they have will be resolved once they see you come out the other side, new and improved.

02-18-2010, 11:32 PM	#3
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Good luck Braedon. I know it's hard. I've already been in a fist fight with a bio male family member and disinherited just for my sexuality—let alone transition. I'll be glad to hear that your family receives this well—if not now—later. Keep us posted.