What TO DO in a relationship.....

*Anya* · 02-13-2012, 07:39 AM

Recognize when your defenses are up out of fear or past baggage.

Admit it and talk about it.

Allow yourself the vulnerability that comes from such openness.

It fosters love and closeness.

I work on this daily.

❤

girl_dee · 02-13-2012, 08:16 AM

Talk, sometimes it's hard as hell but not talking just causes things to fester then they come out way too emotional.

Working on this now.

1QuirkyKiwi · 02-13-2012, 08:22 AM

Always show appreciation for the things your partner does not matter how small.

When you are busy and cannot talk on the phone; explain politely you will call them back when you are free and say you are thinking of them; it does make a difference to your partner. They will feel wanted even if you can’t spend time with them until later.

When doing things together; like reading, smile, blow a kiss or wink at your partner if you’re not snuggling together.

02-13-2012, 07:39 AM	#1
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02-13-2012, 08:16 AM	#2
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