The Fat Positive Lounge

Soft*Silver · 02-17-2012, 01:50 PM

I secured my store site today! Its on the MAIN corner of the downtown area of the town next to mine. It is catty corner to two very popular and busy restaurants and is in an 100 year old building with high ceilings that have those precious molded forms! The landlord's last tenant destroyed the place so he has to repair and remodel it. He is now doing it to my specifications! It has a HUGE store window front! I was quivering how excited I was!

When i got home i had an email from a gal who said she hated herself. She gained 100 lbs since she was married. She only wore sweats and felt like a worthless unlovable being. Yet her husband adores her. She was so glad there was going to be a shop where she could go and not feel bad about herself when trying to buy clothes. She is exactly why i want to do this store. I saw photos of her and she is STUNNING. I am not kidding you! As beautiful as they come, could be a plus size model! And she hates herself.
Mirror mirror on the wall, why do I see someone I dont like at all?

Licious · 02-17-2012, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss_Tia

I secured my store site today! Its on the MAIN corner of the downtown area of the town next to mine. It is catty corner to two very popular and busy restaurants and is in an 100 year old building with high ceilings that have those precious molded forms! The landlord's last tenant destroyed the place so he has to repair and remodel it. He is now doing it to my specifications! It has a HUGE store window front! I was quivering how excited I was!

When i got home i had an email from a gal who said she hated herself. She gained 100 lbs since she was married. She only wore sweats and felt like a worthless unlovable being. Yet her husband adores her. She was so glad there was going to be a shop where she could go and not feel bad about herself when trying to buy clothes. She is exactly why i want to do this store. I saw photos of her and she is STUNNING. I am not kidding you! As beautiful as they come, could be a plus size model! And she hates herself.
Mirror mirror on the wall, why do I see someone I dont like at all?

This is great news! I am happy to read it, and so glad you can provide pretty clothes to nice, larger, pretty ladies.

oblivia · 02-19-2012, 02:30 PM

Just wanted to send out a big ol squishy hug to nycfembbw for starting this thread!!

I subscribed. Love myself some fat-positivity!!

Soft*Silver · 02-19-2012, 03:04 PM

and never wear stripes, esp horizontal ones

prints are bad.

so are loud colors

dont draw attention to yourself

keep your hair short and off your face. You have such a pretty face

smile....fat people are jolly

eat before you go out so you wont eat alot when you do go out

no one wants to see a fat person clean their plate publicly

be obsessed with your hygiene because ya know, we smell

control top pantyhose was invented by a baker..for it creates muffin tops

which by the way, are anything but slimming....

Soft*Silver · 02-19-2012, 04:30 PM

I dont listen to any of the above...anymore...lol...thank goddess!

nycfem · 02-24-2012, 10:36 AM

There are certain words or phrases that I find oppressive and fat-negative. They are words that I may nod along with but am cringing inside. They are words that I even use at times when talking to people because I know it's their language. Here's my list. Do you have a list of words or phrases that you find to be fat negative?

1) "Overweight." Over WHAT weight? Some ideal determined by insurance companies and patriarchal doctors?

2) "War on Obesity." This is so literally negative and easily morphs into "war on fat people." How about something positive, especially for a phrase that is so often applied to children, like, "Team for Healthiness."

3) "Obese" and "Morbidly obese." When I hear these words, I immediately think of how cold and clinical they are. They are never a compliment, and that says a lot.

And how about fat positive words that we love hearing? Here's my list, and I'd love to know yours:

1) fat (direct, can be used negatively but also down-to-earth)

2) full-figured (feels direct and respectful- of course, as all fat phrases in our culture, can be used negatively)

3) voluptuous (sensual, complimentary, a "feel good" word)

Gemme · 02-24-2012, 07:56 PM

Rubenesque!!!!!

02-17-2012, 01:50 PM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I secured my store site today! Its on the MAIN corner of the downtown area of the town next to mine. It is catty corner to two very popular and busy restaurants and is in an 100 year old building with high ceilings that have those precious molded forms! The landlord's last tenant destroyed the place so he has to repair and remodel it. He is now doing it to my specifications! It has a HUGE store window front! I was quivering how excited I was! When i got home i had an email from a gal who said she hated herself. She gained 100 lbs since she was married. She only wore sweats and felt like a worthless unlovable being. Yet her husband adores her. She was so glad there was going to be a shop where she could go and not feel bad about herself when trying to buy clothes. She is exactly why i want to do this store. I saw photos of her and she is STUNNING. I am not kidding you! As beautiful as they come, could be a plus size model! And she hates herself. Mirror mirror on the wall, why do I see someone I dont like at all? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

02-19-2012, 02:30 PM	#3
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02-19-2012, 03:04 PM	#4
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	always wear dark blue and black and never wear stripes, esp horizontal ones prints are bad. so are loud colors dont draw attention to yourself keep your hair short and off your face. You have such a pretty face smile....fat people are jolly eat before you go out so you wont eat alot when you do go out no one wants to see a fat person clean their plate publicly be obsessed with your hygiene because ya know, we smell control top pantyhose was invented by a baker..for it creates muffin tops which by the way, are anything but slimming.... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

02-19-2012, 04:30 PM	#5
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I dont listen to any of the above...anymore...lol...thank goddess! __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

02-24-2012, 07:56 PM	#7
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02-24-2012, 10:36 AM	#6
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,794 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	There are certain words or phrases that I find oppressive and fat-negative. They are words that I may nod along with but am cringing inside. They are words that I even use at times when talking to people because I know it's their language. Here's my list. Do you have a list of words or phrases that you find to be fat negative? 1) "Overweight." Over WHAT weight? Some ideal determined by insurance companies and patriarchal doctors? 2) "War on Obesity." This is so literally negative and easily morphs into "war on fat people." How about something positive, especially for a phrase that is so often applied to children, like, "Team for Healthiness." 3) "Obese" and "Morbidly obese." When I hear these words, I immediately think of how cold and clinical they are. They are never a compliment, and that says a lot. And how about fat positive words that we love hearing? Here's my list, and I'd love to know yours: 1) fat (direct, can be used negatively but also down-to-earth) 2) full-figured (feels direct and respectful- of course, as all fat phrases in our culture, can be used negatively) 3) voluptuous (sensual, complimentary, a "feel good" word)