only another butch would understand

[blush]

Originally Posted by Kam

Jet - I think part of what it is ... is human psychology. During our courtship our women learn what it is that drives us, inspires us, what are pleasures are, our intimate thoughts, our favorite movies, music, food to eat... and so forth. When it come to the nastiness of a bad argument or break-up, some of them start pushing buttons, they find the thing that insults, shocks, tears us down, etc. the most - and go for the jugular vein...

Stating the obvious...

It strikes me that people who pull this trick (finding weak spots and exploiting them in a fight) are not limited to any gender, sexuality, or identity.

They're simply assholes.

To say "our women" do this or that is gets my hackles up. It implies femmes and this type of asshole behavior go hand-in-hand. They don't.

[Milly]

Jet, only a femme that is in need of making her own self appear more important to herself, would say such things to a butch. Any woman, worth her salt, would never say such cruelties to someone she supposedly loves. For me to say these things to my spouse, would mean that I am less of a human for being with someone I apparently think so little of. I'm sorry for any hurtful words that a femme has said to you. I can imagine how very hurtful this would be for you or any other buth.

[Jet]

Originally Posted by Milly

Jet, only a femme that is in need of making her own self appear more important to herself, would say such things to a butch. Any woman, worth her salt, would never say such cruelties to someone she supposedly loves. For me to say these things to my spouse, would mean that I am less of a human for being with someone I apparently think so little of. I'm sorry for any hurtful words that a femme has said to you. I can imagine how very hurtful this would be for you or any other buth.

Milly, thank you for posting this. I was surprised when I saw this; I haven't been in this thread for some time. Christmas is nearing—for me— alone. You know, it wasn't the words...it was the betrayal. All I ever wanted was to love and be loved. It just....you know...wasn't meant to be. Thank you again, I wish you a great holiday.

[nytangel]

Originally Posted by Jet

The pain of hearing emasculating things from a woman because she's pissed. Is there anything more hurtful short of a breakup? *Opening a brewski waiting to see thoughts on this*

I've been through hell and back w/ my girl. When things were pretty bad I told her she was just trying to bust my balls. To which she replied I wasn't a genetic male and didn't have any. Took a bit to get past all that. We didn't talk for about a month.

Metro is so right that when peeps get pissed they will say really nasty things. She understand now my duality both male and female in one body.

I'm truly glad that we could work past all that and I'm even more proud to say that not only are we back together we're under 1 roof and more committed than ever to each other.