What every Femme should know...

starryeyes · 02-23-2012, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

Yup, very stereotypical, so I'm glad you put the "all in fun" disclaimer on there. Although I do kinda wonder what the purpose of this post was, especially being purposely stereotypical in the midst of a conversation in which the general topic has become about how NOT to lump all folks into one of those one-size-fits-all categories.

And yes, this is just my own personal thought upon reading this post.

I dunno... just posting stuff

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

I dunno... just posting stuff

"just in fun" disclaimer isn't really an excuse to be purposely stereotypical. You surely know this by reading most of the posts in this thread.

People of my heritage are often stereotyped into movies and *just in fun* makes fun of us.

They think it's ok because it's "just in fun". It's not funny to us.

The fact that you capitalized the word ALL , added a *lol* then a *just in fun* sounds to me like you knew you were about to piss off a bunch of people.

Nothing on your list applies to this femme, just so you know.

dixie · 02-23-2012, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

"just in fun" disclaimer isn't really an excuse to be purposely stereotypical. You surely know this by reading most of the posts in this thread.

People of my heritage are often stereotyped into movies and *just in fun* makes fun of us.

They think it's ok because it's "just in fun". It's not funny to us.

The fact that you capitalized the word ALL , added a *lol* then a *just in fun* sounds to me like you knew you were about to piss off a bunch of people.

Nothing on your list applies to this femme, just so you know.

I think that's what bothered me as well. That, and the fact that I am not one to be lumped into that "stereotypical" femme category either.

grenade · 02-23-2012, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

"just in fun" disclaimer isn't really an excuse to be purposely stereotypical. You surely know this by reading most of the posts in this thread.

People of my heritage are often stereotyped into movies and *just in fun* makes fun of us.

They think it's ok because it's "just in fun". It's not funny to us.

The fact that you capitalized the word ALL , added a *lol* then a *just in fun* sounds to me like you knew you were about to piss off a bunch of people.

Nothing on your list applies to this femme, just so you know.

Everything in her list applies to me, just so you all know. I've decided to follow suit and talk about myself and because I'm certain you all care.

Right? You know you do!

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by grenade

Everything in her list applies to me, just so you all know. I've decided to follow suit and talk about myself and because I'm certain you all care.

Right? You know you do!

i DO! i actually love the diversity and want to hear more!!

i love to weed eat the yard wearing my glittery sneakers....

dixie · 02-23-2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

I dunno... just posting stuff

And from this...I can't help but wonder if you had even read any posts in this thread?

starryeyes · 02-23-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

And from this...I can't help but wonder if you had even read any posts in this thread?

It was just in fun... can we lighten up? It too scary to post around here **runs away

Corkey · 02-23-2012, 05:25 PM

Good grief. People are allowed to post their opinion, we don't have to agree with it, but running away is passive aggressive and if you didn't think about what you posted just say so. OY!

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 05:26 PM

like causing a 10 car pile up and keep going.

dixie · 02-23-2012, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

It was just in fun... can we lighten up? It too scary to post around here **runs away

Seriously? If someone attempting to start a calm dialogue with you in hopes of understanding the meaning of a slightly confusing statement you make is "too scary" then I would like to live in that bubble as well, because your reality seems to be much different than mine.

And I am also sorry, but I am the kind of femme who would literally go insane if the most important worry in my life was the "right" hair, makeup, and nails. Therefore, it's not very "fun" for me to be stereotyped in jest.

starryeyes · 02-23-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

Seriously? If someone attempting to start a calm dialogue with you in hopes of understanding the meaning of a slightly confusing statement you make is "too scary" then I would like to live in that bubble as well, because your reality seems to be much different than mine.

And I am also sorry, but I am the kind of femme who would literally go insane if the most important worry in my life was the "right" hair, makeup, and nails. Therefore, it's not very "fun" for me to be stereotyped in jest.

This was not about you in any way shape or form. I don't even know you.

And your comment "And I am also sorry, but I am the kind of femme who would literally go insane if the most important worry in my life was the "right" hair, makeup, and nails"... where was this insinuated?

I am a Girly Femme to the T, but it is not the most important worry in my life... I guess you have some stereotypes yourself coming out. Maybe you need to look at that.

Have a nice day

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 05:39 PM

i sometimes feel that the world has been stereotypical for so long, and especially in the name of comedy that people are shocked when someone says. "hey, that's not ok"

Corkey · 02-23-2012, 05:40 PM

My Femme is not obsessed with her hair or nails or looks or lipstick.
She is a capable warm intelligent funny talented wonderful human being.
She is awesome and I am a lucky guy to be married to her.

starryeyes · 02-23-2012, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

My Femme is not obsessed with her hair or nails or looks or lipstick.
She is a capable warm intelligent funny talented wonderful human being.
She is awesome and I am a lucky guy to be married to her.

That's awesome! I AM into my looks, clothes, make-up, hair, nails. whatever. But, I also am a warm, caring person, I am very successful in my career, I am a awesome friend, and know the people who have come and gone in my life have appreciated me and felt lucky also to be with me, and I was with them. Hair and Makeup do not dictate that. It also does not make you any less than other people.

Other people have posted funny little things in here... and I was doing the same.. and YES what I posted is important to me! Please don't take that away or make it about yourself. It is mine, and I love it.

Thank you :-)

Corkey · 02-23-2012, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

That's awesome! I AM into my looks, clothes, make-up, hair, nails. whatever. But, I also am a warm, caring person, I am very successful in my career, I am a awesome friend, and know the people who have come and gone in my life have appreciated me and felt lucky also to be with me, and I was with them. Hair and Makeup do not dictate that. It also does not make you any less than other people.

Other people have posted funny little things in here... and I was doing the same.. and YES what I posted is important to me! Please don't take that away or make it about yourself. It is mine, and I love it.

Thank you :-)

Now see this is an "I" post. Voila'.
Your welcome.

girl_dee · 02-23-2012, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

That's awesome! I AM into my looks, clothes, make-up, hair, nails. whatever. But, I also am a warm, caring person, I am very successful in my career, I am a awesome friend, and know the people who have come and gone in my life have appreciated me and felt lucky also to be with me, and I was with them. Hair and Makeup do not dictate that. It also does not make you any less than other people.

Other people have posted funny little things in here... and I was doing the same.. and YES what I posted is important to me! Please don't take that away or make it about yourself. It is mine, and I love it.

Thank you :-)

And what a wonderful list this is! i feel it's fabulous that all of us femmes are different and unique, what a boring world we would live in if we were all the same.

You directed your list to ALL Femmes and maybe would have been better if you posted from you *me* place.

02-23-2012, 05:25 PM	#8
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02-23-2012, 05:40 PM	#13
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	My Femme is not obsessed with her hair or nails or looks or lipstick. She is a capable warm intelligent funny talented wonderful human being. She is awesome and I am a lucky guy to be married to her. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

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02-23-2012, 05:39 PM	#12
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i sometimes feel that the world has been stereotypical for so long, and especially in the name of comedy that people are shocked when someone says. "hey, that's not ok"