The Fat Positive Lounge

Spirit Dancer · 03-05-2012, 08:09 PM

Spirit Dancer · 03-05-2012, 08:17 PM

Her swagger is a beauty of untold dimensions
She holds her head high, walks tall and proud
Her swagger draws attention for the confidence she exudes
Who you ask is that beauty? Why that beauty is you!
RG©

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 10:55 AM

oh my gracious! I SO want to do this on the wall of my store!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 11:02 AM

I have been rather busy putting the store together. Today a shipment of shoes came in that are to DIE for. I had posted some of them on the web and actually were asked by a few of my thinner friends if they were reserved only for the "fatties" because they were so pretty. Really? You calling my customers and me "fatties"?

I am not amused by how people are feeling adventurous in the use of slang terms for fat around me. Its like they have been given permission to use words maybe they always thought but never dared to say out loud in front of me. And they say it with an activist twist but a prejudist smirk. I did not give them permission to have fun saying "naughties".

I have to literally hold my breath in to keep myself from reacting. I count..one, two, three, four, five....then i respond with "still not acceptable, try a different tone or word".

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 11:06 AM

Even tho I have lost alot of weight, I am still overweight by standards of the Cultural Norm. However, this is exactly where my body feels the most at ease and normal. So this is where I want to stay. I am somewhere between a 16 and an 18.

I have been told my surgery was a failure because I didnt get skinny.

even tho my surgery was NOT for weight loss, but to correct a life threatening hernia that compromised my lungs and my heart.

I can breath and I have much more stamina now and I am not getting chest pains and even my back issues are better because my body is not exhausted. I sleep better, and no longer have hallucinations (usually, lol) when i sleep. So...

my surgery was a failure?

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 11:11 AM

My store opens May 1st. I have purchased my racks, all my ticket guns, registers, signages, etc. Well, BVR has and I have kicked in as much as I can. (Bureau of Vocational Rehab).

An extraordinary thing is happening. I am able to pick up the smaller store next to me. I am considering putting in a men's resale shop.

Immediately I am asked if its going to be for pudgy men. (I told you, i am hearing ALL the damn words)

I havent decided yet but I know I will carry larger clothes for men. My sub is a larger man. WAY larger. So yes, I will.

I get giggles over that. People have said they want to come and sit so they can see the customers come in.

Seriously?

Good lord, I had no idea what lurked in people's minds! I am seeing people that I thought I knew, in whole other lights! I will say most of the people saying these things are not close friends of mine but more acquaintances. But still, my one eyebrow goes up and my mouth twists sideways and i feel like a momma about to scold her bad child, when I hear shit like this...

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 11:17 AM

I was going to do a modeling event, with several women wearing clothes from my shop. However, I had to cancel that because I am able to move my fixtures and the clothing into the store that week. It will be chaos. And i wont have the energy nor the focus to do both.

But while I was looking for models, I had people turn me down because they were not ok having people look at their bodies. It made me realize it wasnt the clothes that they thought were going to be featured, but their size.

In runways, models are suppose to be invisible, literally human hangers for the fashion.

but my models were saying THEY were the focus, and not the fashion.

Interesting...

and painful...

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2012, 12:18 PM

I hope I am allowed to do this..if not, please just delete this post. I dont want to break policy but I was hoping to offer my FB page for the store to those on BFP.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003486122806

Soft*Silver · 03-29-2012, 01:47 PM

I finally got it! He steamed my rugs and is putting in a whole new toilet and has moved most of his stuff out of there...thank heavens! LOL. Now I need to focus on moving in and this sign!

So the measurements are 90" long and 50" high for where this sign goes. Do not try to match colors. Do as you will for whatever you sign up for. I know Claybaby wants to do the letter BEAU. So the rest are up for grabs. Who else would like to do this? I will be posting this in the Scrapbook and crafting thread and would like to organize it there if thats ok with everyone. So please join me there if you would like to do this project for the ladies of my store!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Bad_boi · 04-02-2012, 12:26 AM

Big girls make me happy. That is all.

1QuirkyKiwi · 04-02-2012, 02:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bad_boi

Big girls make me happy. That is all.

Welcome to the Lounge! Will you be joining us more often?

1QuirkyKiwi · 04-02-2012, 02:05 PM

I am one very Happy’n’Fat Kiwi! LOL!

I met one of my new GPs today; she seems very nice and very thorough. She’s a former Neurology Consultant and wanted to see me for a routine check-up and examination as she’s new…

She’s over ridden my Spinal Orthopaedic Consultant’s decision to send me to a Neurologist he recommended that I be referred to for my other back issues. She feels, in her medical opinion, that I’d be better suited with another Neurologist who specialises in SB and other inherited Spinal problems and who also deal with other issues of the Spine in people with SB, etc.

She wasn’t bothered about my weight and knew it isn’t a problem for me and my Blood Pressure is normal. So, with this and my annual blood test results being excellent, I’m Fat and Healthy! LOL!

Bad_boi · 04-02-2012, 10:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

Welcome to the Lounge! Will you be joining us more often?

It is always possible.

1QuirkyKiwi · 04-03-2012, 07:09 AM

I came across this article on one of the UK’s online newspapers and had to share it after reading it…

The article starts with the headline; 'I love the word FAT': The larger-than-life fashion bloggers, celebrating plus-size style in a big way.”

The article also has links to a handful of Fat Positive Blogs…

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...e-big-way.html

nycfem · 04-08-2012, 05:06 PM

Check out this funky plus size website for puffy grrls:

http://www.dominodollhouse.com/index.php

03-05-2012, 08:09 PM	#1
Spirit Dancer Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Complex but Tender Preferred Pronoun?: ~Ma`am~ Relationship Status: Shotgun Rider Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Following the red road Posts: 4,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,304 Thanked 12,904 Times in 3,466 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Always remember, no matter what __________________ “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Judy Garland

03-05-2012, 08:17 PM	#2
Spirit Dancer Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Complex but Tender Preferred Pronoun?: ~Ma`am~ Relationship Status: Shotgun Rider Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Following the red road Posts: 4,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,304 Thanked 12,904 Times in 3,466 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	For each of us Her swagger is a beauty of untold dimensions She holds her head high, walks tall and proud Her swagger draws attention for the confidence she exudes Who you ask is that beauty? Why that beauty is you! RG© __________________ “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Judy Garland

03-12-2012, 11:02 AM	#4
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I have been rather busy putting the store together. Today a shipment of shoes came in that are to DIE for. I had posted some of them on the web and actually were asked by a few of my thinner friends if they were reserved only for the "fatties" because they were so pretty. Really? You calling my customers and me "fatties"? I am not amused by how people are feeling adventurous in the use of slang terms for fat around me. Its like they have been given permission to use words maybe they always thought but never dared to say out loud in front of me. And they say it with an activist twist but a prejudist smirk. I did not give them permission to have fun saying "naughties". I have to literally hold my breath in to keep myself from reacting. I count..one, two, three, four, five....then i respond with "still not acceptable, try a different tone or word". __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-12-2012, 11:06 AM	#5
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	Even tho I have lost alot of weight, I am still overweight by standards of the Cultural Norm. However, this is exactly where my body feels the most at ease and normal. So this is where I want to stay. I am somewhere between a 16 and an 18. I have been told my surgery was a failure because I didnt get skinny. even tho my surgery was NOT for weight loss, but to correct a life threatening hernia that compromised my lungs and my heart. I can breath and I have much more stamina now and I am not getting chest pains and even my back issues are better because my body is not exhausted. I sleep better, and no longer have hallucinations (usually, lol) when i sleep. So... my surgery was a failure? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-12-2012, 11:11 AM	#6
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	My store opens May 1st. I have purchased my racks, all my ticket guns, registers, signages, etc. Well, BVR has and I have kicked in as much as I can. (Bureau of Vocational Rehab). An extraordinary thing is happening. I am able to pick up the smaller store next to me. I am considering putting in a men's resale shop. Immediately I am asked if its going to be for pudgy men. (I told you, i am hearing ALL the damn words) I havent decided yet but I know I will carry larger clothes for men. My sub is a larger man. WAY larger. So yes, I will. I get giggles over that. People have said they want to come and sit so they can see the customers come in. Seriously? Good lord, I had no idea what lurked in people's minds! I am seeing people that I thought I knew, in whole other lights! I will say most of the people saying these things are not close friends of mine but more acquaintances. But still, my one eyebrow goes up and my mouth twists sideways and i feel like a momma about to scold her bad child, when I hear shit like this... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-12-2012, 11:17 AM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I was going to do a modeling event, with several women wearing clothes from my shop. However, I had to cancel that because I am able to move my fixtures and the clothing into the store that week. It will be chaos. And i wont have the energy nor the focus to do both. But while I was looking for models, I had people turn me down because they were not ok having people look at their bodies. It made me realize it wasnt the clothes that they thought were going to be featured, but their size. In runways, models are suppose to be invisible, literally human hangers for the fashion. but my models were saying THEY were the focus, and not the fashion. Interesting... and painful... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

03-12-2012, 12:18 PM	#8
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,896 Times in 4,063 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I hope I am allowed to do this..if not, please just delete this post. I dont want to break policy but I was hoping to offer my FB page for the store to those on BFP. http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003486122806 __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

04-02-2012, 12:26 AM	#10
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	Big girls make me happy. That is all.

04-02-2012, 02:05 PM	#12
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I am one very Happy’n’Fat Kiwi! LOL! I met one of my new GPs today; she seems very nice and very thorough. She’s a former Neurology Consultant and wanted to see me for a routine check-up and examination as she’s new… She’s over ridden my Spinal Orthopaedic Consultant’s decision to send me to a Neurologist he recommended that I be referred to for my other back issues. She feels, in her medical opinion, that I’d be better suited with another Neurologist who specialises in SB and other inherited Spinal problems and who also deal with other issues of the Spine in people with SB, etc. She wasn’t bothered about my weight and knew it isn’t a problem for me *and* my Blood Pressure is normal. So, with this and my annual blood test results being excellent, I’m Fat and Healthy! LOL! __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

04-03-2012, 07:09 AM	#14
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I came across this article on one of the UK’s online newspapers and had to share it after reading it… The article starts with the headline; 'I love the word FAT': The larger-than-life fashion bloggers, celebrating plus-size style in a big way.” The article also has links to a handful of Fat Positive Blogs… http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...e-big-way.html __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

04-08-2012, 05:06 PM	#15
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Check out this funky plus size website for puffy grrls: http://www.dominodollhouse.com/index.php