Important things I learned from past relationships

girl_dee · 03-07-2012, 10:21 AM

i am worthy, yes !

WolfyOne · 03-07-2012, 10:31 AM

With the last one, I've learned to open my eyes, so I can really hear with my ears

I'm relearning the independence I once had and lost being in a relationship

I'm still working on confidence and worthiness

Learning that being single the last 2 years was good for me as it helped me clean out cobwebs that have been there way too long

girl_dee · 03-07-2012, 10:33 AM

i also hope people from my past learned from our experience together

what to do, what not to do and all in between!

JustJo · 03-24-2012, 05:58 PM

That what people say is never as important as what they do....watch their actions and priorities, and they will show you who they truly are better than their words ever will.

JJWinks · 03-24-2012, 06:17 PM

I learned that I have a fearless heart and no matter how may times it gets torn apart I can mend it and open it again eventually. Actions speak louder than words. I learned to back up and look a situation objectively and not take everything personally. I learned to set my boundries within my relationships and still be sensitive to my partners needs. I learned to fight fair and never hit below the belt. Somethings you say just can't be taken back. I learned that it's OK to say..." I'll get back to you on that" giving you time to process. I learned It's very important to make time and stay present with you partner without distractions especially if she needs to vent. I learned not to solve her problems and just really listen to her, sometimes that's all she needs.
I learned not to blame myself if things don't workout.

firegal · 03-24-2012, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

That what people say is never as important as what they do....watch their actions and priorities, and they will show you who they truly are better than their words ever will.

STANDING OVATION!

Rocket · 03-24-2012, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by firegal

STANDING OVATION!

nycbutch · 03-24-2012, 06:28 PM

when someone shows you who they are, believe them!!!

communicate----communicate----communicate

you don't have to have everything in common, but it certainly helps to have some things

respect each others differences and make compromises

above all, NEVER lose sight of who YOU are to try and keep someone....be true to yourself!!!

DeviantDaddy · 03-24-2012, 06:50 PM

I thought that the happily ever after dream wasn't what Disney portrayed.
Sometimes the very best thing you can do for someone, is walk away for their own good.
Being in a great and healthy relationship, does not mean everything is always perfect.
That I am capable and strong enough to truly forgive.
That I can love deeply and can truly love with no reservations.
Love does not go hand in hand with happiness.
Sharing everything should be done slowly and carefully.
That if you ever find yourself thinking... "she can change".. then you are likely better off ending it.

That although happily ever after isn't Disney's portrayal, it can still happen

girl_dee · 03-24-2012, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

That what people say is never as important as what they do....watch their actions and priorities, and they will show you who they truly are better than their words ever will.

This is SO true.

03-07-2012, 10:31 AM	#2
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,392 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	With the last one, I've learned to open my eyes, so I can really hear with my ears I'm relearning the independence I once had and lost being in a relationship I'm still working on confidence and worthiness Learning that being single the last 2 years was good for me as it helped me clean out cobwebs that have been there way too long __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

03-24-2012, 05:58 PM	#4
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,404 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	That what people say is never as important as what they do....watch their actions and priorities, and they will show you who they truly are better than their words ever will. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

03-24-2012, 06:17 PM	#5
JJWinks Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Butch/Stud Preferred Pronoun?: Your hearts desire Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: California Central Coast Posts: 26 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 43 Thanked 26 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	What I learned from Relationship... I learned that I have a fearless heart and no matter how may times it gets torn apart I can mend it and open it again eventually. Actions speak louder than words. I learned to back up and look a situation objectively and not take everything personally. I learned to set my boundries within my relationships and still be sensitive to my partners needs. I learned to fight fair and never hit below the belt. Somethings you say just can't be taken back. I learned that it's OK to say..." I'll get back to you on that" giving you time to process. I learned It's very important to make time and stay present with you partner without distractions especially if she needs to vent. I learned not to solve her problems and just really listen to her, sometimes that's all she needs. I learned not to blame myself if things don't workout.

03-24-2012, 06:28 PM	#8
nycbutch Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: moved on and ready to start again Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: nyc Posts: 76 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 144 Times in 42 Posts Rep Power: 1165395	when someone shows you who they are, believe them!!! communicate----communicate----communicate you don't have to have everything in common, but it certainly helps to have some things respect each others differences and make compromises above all, NEVER lose sight of who YOU are to try and keep someone....be true to yourself!!! __________________ my theme song.... http://youtu.be/39gpaDnjW4I

03-24-2012, 06:50 PM	#9
DeviantDaddy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Mated Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: FL Posts: 93 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 115 Thanked 258 Times in 65 Posts Rep Power: 1840892	My lessons. I thought that the happily ever after dream wasn't what Disney portrayed. Sometimes the very best thing you can do for someone, is walk away for their own good. Being in a great and healthy relationship, does not mean everything is always perfect. That I am capable and strong enough to truly forgive. That I can love deeply and can truly love with no reservations. Love does not go hand in hand with happiness. Sharing everything should be done slowly and carefully. That if you ever find yourself thinking... "she can change".. then you are likely better off ending it. That although happily ever after isn't Disney's portrayal, it can still happen __________________ Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.

03-07-2012, 10:21 AM	#1
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03-07-2012, 10:33 AM	#3
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i also hope people from my past learned from our experience together what to do, what not to do and all in between!