What TO DO in a relationship.....

girl_dee · 03-11-2012, 08:08 PM

learn from mistakes from the past
have a picnic together, that was awesome
see the world together!

girl_dee · 03-23-2012, 07:15 PM

if you want it, make it happen.If you don't let it go.

justkim · 03-23-2012, 07:17 PM

Ask questions... lots...
Communicate with each other in all forms... little notes, text messages, emails... you get the point...
As always... little things...

girl_dee · 03-23-2012, 07:19 PM

be individuals!

Talon · 04-11-2012, 10:51 AM

Always fight fair...don't allow your emotions to rule you, rule them.

thedivahrrrself · 04-11-2012, 11:21 AM

DO
~speak out the minute you start to have a problem. Don't wait until it's big and you're fuming about it to bring it up. Remember they can't read minds.

~take your partner at their word. Don't read too much into their actions. Trust that they mean what they say.

~get out of the relationship if the trust is gone. Sometimes it's damaged and can be rebuilt, but when it's gone, it's GONE.

~laugh, a lot, together.

~get out of the house. One of you is bound to go stir crazy.

~have separate activities and interests and friends, but have some together too.

~be clear about what you want out of life, and life together. People who care will live up to reasonable expectations, and if you care, you will too.

~think before you speak or write about your partner. Assume they can hear you at all times, even if they're not there.

~buy/make small thoughtful gifts for no reason, doesn't matter if you're butch or femme. Everyone likes to know they're being though of

girl_dee · 04-13-2012, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself

DO
~speak out the minute you start to have a problem. Don't wait until it's big and you're fuming about it to bring it up. Remember they can't read minds.

~take your partner at their word. Don't read too much into their actions. Trust that they mean what they say.

~get out of the relationship if the trust is gone. Sometimes it's damaged and can be rebuilt, but when it's gone, it's GONE.

~laugh, a lot, together.

~get out of the house. One of you is bound to go stir crazy.

~have separate activities and interests and friends, but have some together too.

~be clear about what you want out of life, and life together. People who care will live up to reasonable expectations, and if you care, you will too.

~think before you speak or write about your partner. Assume they can hear you at all times, even if they're not there.

~buy/make small thoughtful gifts for no reason, doesn't matter if you're butch or femme. Everyone likes to know they're being though of

this is quite a nice list, thank you! we all forget to do these things!

thedivahrrrself · 04-11-2012, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

see the world together!

Ah, yes... Travel together as often as you can. There is nothing like experiencing something new together!

03-23-2012, 07:17 PM	#3
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04-11-2012, 11:21 AM	#6
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03-11-2012, 08:08 PM	#1
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