If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

Amber2010 · 03-15-2012, 01:46 PM

This question is such a hard one because all the mistakes we made is what made me who I am today.
I believe I would have lived my life more for myself and tried to be a little more selfish instead of always giving in to everyone.
The times that I had enough of my life and got in my car and took off north instead of turning around and coming back I would have liked to have kept going and seen what my life would have been like if I lived it for myself.

Scuba · 03-15-2012, 01:52 PM

...not have left my dog at the kennel....I'd give anything to undo this.

Gemme · 03-15-2012, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Scuba

...not have left my dog at the kennel....I'd give anything to undo this.

So many times I wished I hadn't left pets with a particular ex. I have no idea where they are, if they are even still alive and if they aren't, if it was natural or not.

Just_G · 03-15-2012, 07:16 PM

While I am glad to have had the lessons I have had from my past relationships, I would go back and end them sooner than I did instead of being treated the way I let myself be treated for that long.

I would have gone away to college and possibly played basketball.

I really have no regrets in life, but would do a few things a tad bit differently....God knows, I have learned so much from everything I have done, and that is why I am in the amazing boat that I am in today!

deedarino · 03-15-2012, 07:53 PM

~Too much.

clay · 03-15-2012, 11:05 PM

I would have MADE her go and get annual physicals. A simple yearly screening would have saved her life!!!! Dammit!!!

Elijah · 10-31-2012, 11:49 PM

Sometimes I think I regret the nearly 15 years I lost to drinking, however, the recovery process was probably the single-most-character-building-journey I have ever been on and the great thing is, it is, in fact, a journey, not a destination, with many more lessons ahead...

LaneyDoll · 03-15-2012, 01:58 PM

I would have forgiven faster and angered slower.

I would have stood up to my mom's family more often and let go when the time was due, rather than sulk/brood over the choices they made about me.

I would have used the nice china and celebrated each dinner that my family shared together.

I would have cleaned less and relaxed more.

I would have tried to put myself more in the path that hurt my sister and I would have let go because of realizing that there was no way to do it.

I would have done things to better "me." I cannot complain about my life because I happen to think my life is pretty good.

Blade · 03-15-2012, 02:22 PM

I would have spent more time with Pop the past 6 years.

RNguy · 03-15-2012, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Blade

I would have spent more time with Pop the past 6 years.

Big hug for you brother .

weatherboi · 03-15-2012, 03:08 PM

i would've pressed the green button instead of the red one.

i would've gone left at the fork instead of right.

i would've chose to tip the canoe in shallower water.

Blade · 10-31-2012, 05:46 PM

I would not have gotten out of bed this morning...think I'll go back there now.

Darbonaire · 10-31-2012, 10:13 PM

More honest with myself & not stayed in a place I didn't belong because of someone else's love of it. I would have vented my anger at myself & not her since I was the one I was angry at for staying. But then, I would have missed some beautiful memories so....we all do what we feel is best at the time, right?

Jonathan

NorCalStud · 10-31-2012, 11:14 PM

I would listen completely

firegal · 10-31-2012, 11:25 PM

I,m with ya clay...

I would of had my lil sis tested/screened when the "menopause" symptoms started.

Oh how i wish i could go back... just long enough.

Gráinne · 11-01-2012, 12:10 AM

I am remourseful for any of my words, actions or decisions that hurt anyone else. I am flawed and far from the most tactful person out there.

That said, the answer would be, "Not a damn thing."

MissItalianDiva · 11-01-2012, 12:19 AM

If I could turn back time I would not have just wasted 30 min of my life actually watching "My life is a Lifetime movie"...smh if that doesn't keep you single

Spirit Dancer · 11-03-2012, 06:58 AM

I would have tried harder to get my friend to listen, I miss her dearly.

girl_dee · 11-03-2012, 07:42 AM

bump bump !!

BstlMyhart · 11-03-2012, 08:09 AM

I would've tried to do even more when caring for my mom and sister before they passed.
I never would've gotten into any relationship and just stayed single the whole time.

03-15-2012, 01:52 PM	#2
Scuba Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Flying Solo Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: PNW Posts: 2,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,749 Thanked 8,047 Times in 1,618 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	...not have left my dog at the kennel....I'd give anything to undo this. __________________ https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-X...etuwo1_500.jpg ~~Bob Richardson~~

03-15-2012, 07:16 PM	#4
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	While I am glad to have had the lessons I have had from my past relationships, I would go back and end them sooner than I did instead of being treated the way I let myself be treated for that long. I would have gone away to college and possibly played basketball. I really have no regrets in life, but would do a few things a tad bit differently....God knows, I have learned so much from everything I have done, and that is why I am in the amazing boat that I am in today! __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

03-15-2012, 07:53 PM	#5
deedarino Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: In recovery. Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Oregon Posts: 632 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,518 Thanked 1,955 Times in 496 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	~Too much. __________________ Squint your eyes and look closer. I'm not between you and your ambitions. I am a poster girl with no poster. I am thirty-two flavors and then some. And I'm beyond your peripheral vision, so you might want to turn your head~Ani I want to think again of dangerous and noble things; I want to be light and frolicsome; I want to be improbable, beautiful and afraid of nothing as if I had wings Mary Oliver

03-15-2012, 11:05 PM	#6
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,661 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	I would have MADE her go and get annual physicals. A simple yearly screening would have saved her life!!!! Dammit!!! __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

10-31-2012, 11:49 PM	#7
Elijah Member How Do You Identify?: Genderqueer Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: Open to healthy possibilities... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 554 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 738 Thanked 1,629 Times in 393 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Sometimes I think I regret the nearly 15 years I lost to drinking, however, the recovery process was probably the single-most-character-building-journey I have ever been on and the great thing is, it is, in fact, a journey, not a destination, with many more lessons ahead... __________________ "There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and of unspeakable love." ~Washington Irving

03-15-2012, 01:46 PM	#1
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	This question is such a hard one because all the mistakes we made is what made me who I am today. I believe I would have lived my life more for myself and tried to be a little more selfish instead of always giving in to everyone. The times that I had enough of my life and got in my car and took off north instead of turning around and coming back I would have liked to have kept going and seen what my life would have been like if I lived it for myself.

03-15-2012, 01:58 PM	#8
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I would have forgiven faster and angered slower. I would have stood up to my mom's family more often and let go when the time was due, rather than sulk/brood over the choices they made about me. I would have used the nice china and celebrated each dinner that my family shared together. I would have cleaned less and relaxed more. I would have tried to put myself more in the path that hurt my sister and I would have let go because of realizing that there was no way to do it. I would have done things to better "me." I cannot complain about my life because I happen to think my life is pretty good. __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

03-15-2012, 02:22 PM	#9
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I would have spent more time with Pop the past 6 years. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

03-15-2012, 03:08 PM	#11
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,548 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	i would've pressed the green button instead of the red one. i would've gone left at the fork instead of right. i would've chose to tip the canoe in shallower water. __________________

10-31-2012, 05:46 PM	#12
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I would not have gotten out of bed this morning...think I'll go back there now. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-31-2012, 10:13 PM	#13
Darbonaire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: MALE Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Working on myself, thank you Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 186 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 343 Thanked 552 Times in 145 Posts Rep Power: 0	I would have been More honest with myself & not stayed in a place I didn't belong because of someone else's love of it. I would have vented my anger at myself & not her since I was the one I was angry at for staying. But then, I would have missed some beautiful memories so....we all do what we feel is best at the time, right? Jonathan

10-31-2012, 11:14 PM	#14
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10-31-2012, 11:25 PM	#15
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11-01-2012, 12:10 AM	#16
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,865 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,119 Thanked 7,389 Times in 1,458 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I am remourseful for any of my words, actions or decisions that hurt anyone else. I am flawed and far from the most tactful person out there. That said, the answer would be, "Not a damn thing." __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

11-01-2012, 12:19 AM	#17
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	If I could turn back time I would not have just wasted 30 min of my life actually watching "My life is a Lifetime movie"...smh if that doesn't keep you single

11-03-2012, 06:58 AM	#18
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11-03-2012, 07:42 AM	#19
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11-03-2012, 08:09 AM	#20
BstlMyhart Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2011 Location: new mexico Posts: 162 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 800 Thanked 433 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 5678253	I would've tried to do even more when caring for my mom and sister before they passed. I never would've gotten into any relationship and just stayed single the whole time.