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Old 03-19-2012, 07:11 PM   #1
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does this person understand the difference between love and in love? If they do, I see nothing wrong with saying I love you, but dont think it would be a good idea to say...."I love you , but not in love with you" .. thats an ouch.
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Old 03-19-2012, 07:28 PM   #3
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Probably the part where you make it sound like you assume a femme would virtually fall apart in the same situation. I assure you, whether butch, femme, or whoever, it would be equally bad no matter what. One will not fall apart any worse than the other based solely on their identification. It would be based solely on the individual. The situation would suck no matter what. Trust me, I know (been there, done that, have the scars to prove it).
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I know you're hurting, and I can't blame you, but that remark that I quoted is pretty icky and full of -isms.

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Probably the part where you make it sound like you assume a femme would virtually fall apart in the same situation. I assure you, whether butch, femme, or whoever, it would be equally bad no matter what. One will not fall apart any worse than the other based solely on their identification. It would be based solely on the individual. The situation would suck no matter what. Trust me, I know (been there, done that, have the scars to prove it).
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Im sorry I didnt mean for it to seem like that.
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Im sorry I didnt mean for it to seem like that.
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i truly appreciate this thread and i must say i have Not heard "i love you" in any way shape or form for a very, very, very, very long time.

i'm extremely sensitive and tenderhearted, yet also a realist, so if i should hear "i love you," i take it into perspective. my reply has been in the past "i love you too..." but by mere fantasy of ego that someone is actually feeling for me.

being the slightly jaded individual i am... my reply now would be "okay, i care about you..."
nothing more, nothing less.

are there strings attached to saying "i love you??" perhaps consequences, yes.

hope this helps.
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