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EnderD_503 · 03-23-2012, 02:58 PM

I guess I'm gonna be the dissenting opinion here and not put emphasis on seeing a gender therapist before you've made the decision to try to get surgery or go on T. There are far too many therapists out there who only try to enforce the binary on trans people and it can be hard to find a good one. If you do go for a counselor or therapist, try to see if you can find one who is trans-identified. Personally, I think its better to see a therapist once you have a better sense of yourself and the direction you want to go in.

I would find a transguy or trans support group in your area first before seeing a therapist. There's also http://www.transqueernation.com/ that is a social media network and forum for trans people across the spectrum and is queer-positive.

On youtube there are a whole shit ton of videos by transguys mostly in their 20s on a channel called itsTtime2010: http://www.youtube.com/user/itsTtime2010

Ultimately, you are the only one who can decide whether or not you are trans. There are female-identified butches who have had top surgery and some who have even gone on T and still identify as female. The only reason I say this is because a lot of people seem to equate the potential for being a transguy with being masculine or having some kind of body dysphoria. I guess it's just about asking yourself if its about masculinity or if it's about a male or genderqueer/gender neutral identity.

I think princessbelle said something about lots of reading. I'd recommend that, too. Read as much as you possibly can and watch as many documentaries as you can. Do whatever you feel you need to do to further understand yourself.

tara_kerrie · 03-23-2012, 03:12 PM

Thanks EnderD. I have always wanted to have top surgery done. i just havent looked into it with great detail because of past partners.
That is why I was asking if it would be best to go to a counselor.
Thank you for the websites!
I have never really thought about the T shots because I am still learning about the T.
Kerrie

Corkey · 03-23-2012, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by KerrieH

Thanks EnderD. I have always wanted to have top surgery done. I just havent looked into it with great detail because of past partners.
That is why I was asking if it would be best to go to a counselor.
Thank you for the websites!
Kerrie

I think finding one's self takes time, read all you can digest what is said and apply what fits to you. No two people are the same, taking T is something I will never be able to do, it doesn't diminish who I am on the inside.

I think the more you discover on your own about yourself the better you will be able to decide whether surgeries or hormones are truly for you. And it's perfectly fine if you can't have them.
Be kind to yourself because half the process is the journey.
Happy journey to you.

EnderD_503 · 03-23-2012, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KerrieH

Thanks EnderD. I have always wanted to have top surgery done. i just havent looked into it with great detail because of past partners.
That is why I was asking if it would be best to go to a counselor.
Thank you for the websites!
I have never really thought about the T shots because I am still learning about the T.
Kerrie

Do you know if there are any lgbt support centres in your areas that have trans support groups? Hearing from others who've had top surgery in your area would be a great start, and it would also give you a chance to hear about therapists in your area as well. Since you know you want top surgery, it would be a good idea to go into therapy prepared and with the best therapist for you.

Edit: just saw Medusa's link...so looks like you're set to find others around you who can help you out

Random · 03-23-2012, 08:48 PM

I meant to post this here earlier....

One of my ex has GID and said there was a *easy* test...

Close your eyes and picture yourself in your mind...

Are you a girl or a boy or are you both?

I don't know if it's true or not... I see a girl when I think of myself..

But it popped into my head while I was reading your thread...
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Nadeest · 03-23-2012, 11:45 PM

A long time ago, a mentor of mine gave me a link to a website that had an article on it, that helped me sort things out. I think that it is worth looking at, so I will post the link here: docbushong.com The article: "What is Gender and Who is Transgendered/Transexual" is the article I am referring to. However, the other articles are good to read, as well, to my mind.

tara_kerrie · 03-24-2012, 01:00 AM

Random, when i close my eyes I see a boy.

Rockinonahigh · 03-24-2012, 03:41 AM

KerriH.At the Philladelphia center in Shreveprt there is a counselor named Terrie who is a trans women,she did have a trans suport group at the center..give her a call,atleast she may be able to give you some places to check out.Good luck on you journey.

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03-23-2012, 02:58 PM	#1
EnderD_503 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?: Male pronouns Relationship Status: Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,329 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,090 Thanked 3,878 Times in 1,022 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I guess I'm gonna be the dissenting opinion here and not put emphasis on seeing a gender therapist before you've made the decision to try to get surgery or go on T. There are far too many therapists out there who only try to enforce the binary on trans people and it can be hard to find a good one. If you do go for a counselor or therapist, try to see if you can find one who is trans-identified. Personally, I think its better to see a therapist once you have a better sense of yourself and the direction you want to go in. I would find a transguy or trans support group in your area first before seeing a therapist. There's also http://www.transqueernation.com/ that is a social media network and forum for trans people across the spectrum and is queer-positive. On youtube there are a whole shit ton of videos by transguys mostly in their 20s on a channel called itsTtime2010: http://www.youtube.com/user/itsTtime2010 Ultimately, you are the only one who can decide whether or not you are trans. There are female-identified butches who have had top surgery and some who have even gone on T and still identify as female. The only reason I say this is because a lot of people seem to equate the potential for being a transguy with being masculine or having some kind of body dysphoria. I guess it's just about asking yourself if its about masculinity or if it's about a male or genderqueer/gender neutral identity. I think princessbelle said something about lots of reading. I'd recommend that, too. Read as much as you possibly can and watch as many documentaries as you can. Do whatever you feel you need to do to further understand yourself.

03-23-2012, 03:12 PM	#2
tara_kerrie Member How Do You Identify?: Whatever you want to call us Preferred Pronoun?: Her, she, Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Wherever these 18 wheels take us Posts: 583 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 484 Thanked 1,366 Times in 441 Posts Rep Power: 17763585	Thanks EnderD. I have always wanted to have top surgery done. i just havent looked into it with great detail because of past partners. That is why I was asking if it would be best to go to a counselor. Thank you for the websites! I have never really thought about the T shots because I am still learning about the T. Kerrie

03-23-2012, 11:45 PM	#6
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	A long time ago, a mentor of mine gave me a link to a website that had an article on it, that helped me sort things out. I think that it is worth looking at, so I will post the link here: docbushong.com The article: "What is Gender and Who is Transgendered/Transexual" is the article I am referring to. However, the other articles are good to read, as well, to my mind.

03-24-2012, 01:00 AM	#7
tara_kerrie Member How Do You Identify?: Whatever you want to call us Preferred Pronoun?: Her, she, Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Wherever these 18 wheels take us Posts: 583 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 484 Thanked 1,366 Times in 441 Posts Rep Power: 17763585	Random, when i close my eyes I see a boy.

03-24-2012, 03:41 AM	#8
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	KerriH.At the Philladelphia center in Shreveprt there is a counselor named Terrie who is a trans women,she did have a trans suport group at the center..give her a call,atleast she may be able to give you some places to check out.Good luck on you journey.