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Old 03-29-2012, 03:52 PM   #1
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Back in the day, chokes me up even to think about it now. I was at a meet the teacher night with my two kids. It was held in the school gym, a dinner put on by the teachers, and i swear every single person in town was in attendance. My son was about 7 and my daughter 4. Big round tables, barely any seating left, the place was full. A couple with their 3 children were standing against the wall with no where to sit. When my husband and I were together, we were kind of a best friends couple. I hung out with D the wife, all the time, we would watch each others kids, take shopping trips together, just basically hung out 4 out of 7 days a week. She was one of my closest friends. My husband and her husband M worked together, and had been friends since kids. I had not talked to her since the day before I left my husband, I didnt know what to say. Anyway.. I had left the table I was sitting at to go and grab a coffee refill from one of the banquet tables with my daughter, my son had stayed at the table to watch the program being put on by the teachers. When I returned to the table D and M and their children were sitting at the table I was at. I thought, here is my chance to break the ice, so I said hi! nice to see you guys here, with a big smile on my face. D stood looked me right in the eye and said.. your kind of people disgust me! The chatter in the entire gym was instantly silent. D then said, you are going to burn in hell. My little daughter tugging on my arm say mommy what kind of people? I whispered to my daughter, happy people honey.. and sat back down. D and M took their children from our table like i had a plague or something, everyone was staring.. I wanted to much to run from the gym, I can still feel the heat of the red of embarrassment that my face must have glowed with. The silence continued. Fake smiling, I had just wished it would have stopped. I moved to a bigger city with my children about a month later.
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Old 04-06-2012, 10:05 AM   #2
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Yes I have and it's always been when I was with a partner (due to my looks that is the only indicator that I'm queer)....

It could range from Stares, Glares, saying voyeur type stuff, to smirks of icky thoughts...or on more than one occasion waiting till I was away from partner (like walking at flea market etc) and saying something about being with a 'real man' of which I would reply "really do you know one....cause a 'real man' wouldnt walk up to me and say something so ignorant"

I know it could be a lot worse and has been for some people...which makes me sick and angry!
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Old 04-06-2012, 10:31 AM   #3
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Lisa and I were driving to San Fran last weekend, and pulled off at a gas station somewhere in the middle of nowhere at like midnight. There was a car full of guys next to us, and when I got out there were all staring at me and being gross. Lisa got out and walked over to me, taking me hand and walked me into the store. All of the sudden, these guys laid on the horn.. and started yelling. I was SO scared. We went into the store and I had all these visions of them spitting on our car, doing something to the car, or waiting for us until we came out again. It didn't seem to phase Lisa though, she was just like whatever... stupid idiots. Fortunately they left, but that will definitely stick with me for a long time.
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yes, yes I have. By other dykes.

I was much more overweight than I ever was at the time. I was walking into a lesbian bar and some dykes that were in the patio started calling out names to me. I was appalled and embarassed, and felt betrayed because my own kind were turning against me.

however, my good friend had come in with me and she was a knock out of a busty blonde who turned up the heat anywhere she went. she grabbed my face and planted a huge tongue kiss on me!

They were floored...they assumed i had a hot gf, even tho I was fat.

I was floored, one because my friend had kissed me, and two, OMG she was a femme and i was so not into femmes then! LOL

Not all lesbians are "in tune" or politically correct. Some are just assholes. And picking on the fat femme was fun for their drunken selves...
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Back in the day, chokes me up even to think about it now. I was at a meet the teacher night with my two kids. It was held in the school gym, a dinner put on by the teachers, and i swear every single person in town was in attendance. My son was about 7 and my daughter 4. Big round tables, barely any seating left, the place was full. A couple with their 3 children were standing against the wall with no where to sit. When my husband and I were together, we were kind of a best friends couple. I hung out with D the wife, all the time, we would watch each others kids, take shopping trips together, just basically hung out 4 out of 7 days a week. She was one of my closest friends. My husband and her husband M worked together, and had been friends since kids. I had not talked to her since the day before I left my husband, I didnt know what to say. Anyway.. I had left the table I was sitting at to go and grab a coffee refill from one of the banquet tables with my daughter, my son had stayed at the table to watch the program being put on by the teachers. When I returned to the table D and M and their children were sitting at the table I was at. I thought, here is my chance to break the ice, so I said hi! nice to see you guys here, with a big smile on my face. D stood looked me right in the eye and said.. your kind of people disgust me! The chatter in the entire gym was instantly silent. D then said, you are going to burn in hell. My little daughter tugging on my arm say mommy what kind of people? I whispered to my daughter, happy people honey.. and sat back down. D and M took their children from our table like i had a plague or something, everyone was staring.. I wanted to much to run from the gym, I can still feel the heat of the red of embarrassment that my face must have glowed with. The silence continued. Fake smiling, I had just wished it would have stopped. I moved to a bigger city with my children about a month later.
Ok, so your son was sitting at the table, so obviously they knew that you were also at the table. What were they waiting for, to confront you?

There is a fantastic article out there that everyone should read. It's called 'I'm Christian unless you are gay'. There are a whole bunch of responses to it as well.
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