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Old 04-04-2012, 01:16 PM   #1
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I'll make a confession.

I have done WW online for a year now and LOVE it but about 2 months ago, I thought it would be a good idea to go to the in person WW meetings that are available here at work.

They do 12-week sessions with a leader who lost about 100 pounds. The leader herself was fabulous but in all honesty, I quit going to the in person meetings after about 5 weeks because there were an overwhelming number of women in the group who were eaten up with fat shame and it was so triggery that I had to stop going.

I think if you find a good group that it can work!

The triggery part itself wasnt that bad but I was super frustrated hearing things like "I need to lose 20 pounds or my husband won't have sex with me again!" or "I don't want to be one of those beached whale women in my bathing suit".

I would check a lot of the comments and try to offer up suggestions for being more positive as did one other woman in the class (who also quit going for the same reason) but it was just a hinderance to my process.

The online program is self-driven and pretty insular but I actually love that. It has helped me to learn accountability to myself.

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I'll make a confession.

I have done WW online for a year now and LOVE it but about 2 months ago, I thought it would be a good idea to go to the in person WW meetings that are available here at work.

They do 12-week sessions with a leader who lost about 100 pounds. The leader herself was fabulous but in all honesty, I quit going to the in person meetings after about 5 weeks because there were an overwhelming number of women in the group who were eaten up with fat shame and it was so triggery that I had to stop going.

I think if you find a good group that it can work!

The triggery part itself wasnt that bad but I was super frustrated hearing things like "I need to lose 20 pounds or my husband won't have sex with me again!" or "I don't want to be one of those beached whale women in my bathing suit".

I would check a lot of the comments and try to offer up suggestions for being more positive as did one other woman in the class (who also quit going for the same reason) but it was just a hinderance to my process.

The online program is self-driven and pretty insular but I actually love that. It has helped me to learn accountability to myself.



I know just how you feel,I was going to over eaters annoymus for a while but quit going for this very reason.If I had to sit through another meeting and hear so much oh poor me drama series,I peolly would have said something I shouldnt have.
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Old 04-04-2012, 02:59 PM   #3
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Agree! I stopped going to the meeting, and only weigh in. I had a leader who was terrible, and did not even celebrate my 50lb charm. Every time I had an accomplishment, or an idea she always shot me down. I also agree with the fat shame as well. It wasn't a fit for me. The weigh in girls have asked me to try different meetings, but I have been doing WW since 2010 so I know the program inside and out. I know what to do, I could give a dang workshop on altering food to lessen points and how to stay on track, but I just lose my motivation. I am still down 50 lbs and I have kept it off for 2 years.

I did go on an intense hike this afternoon ad tracked all my foodage so far, yay!




UOTE=Medusa;558788]I'll make a confession.

I have done WW online for a year now and LOVE it but about 2 months ago, I thought it would be a good idea to go to the in person WW meetings that are available here at work.

They do 12-week sessions with a leader who lost about 100 pounds. The leader herself was fabulous but in all honesty, I quit going to the in person meetings after about 5 weeks because there were an overwhelming number of women in the group who were eaten up with fat shame and it was so triggery that I had to stop going.

I think if you find a good group that it can work!

The triggery part itself wasnt that bad but I was super frustrated hearing things like "I need to lose 20 pounds or my husband won't have sex with me again!" or "I don't want to be one of those beached whale women in my bathing suit".

I would check a lot of the comments and try to offer up suggestions for being more positive as did one other woman in the class (who also quit going for the same reason) but it was just a hinderance to my process.

The online program is self-driven and pretty insular but I actually love that. It has helped me to learn accountability to myself.

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I don't usually stay for the meetings. I have not run into what Starryeyes and Medusa have, so I cannot comment on that. It may be more like that for weekend meetings, but I go over my lunch hour.

Starryeyes congrats on keeping the 50 off. That, I believe, in and of itself, is a huge milestone.

I have not been celebrated for my weight loss either. I have no barbells, no stickies... nada. Like nada. But, it is psychological for me to have someone weigh me, look me in the eye, and physically write down my weight. It makes me accountable to me. I admire you ladies who do it online. That would be as inefficient as me saying I would exercise at home... yeah like that would ever happen!! I can hide quite easily, so for me it really is having a witness. This is my second kick at WW and it stuck this time. Any weight loss program I have ever tried to follow on my own, has failed. I just don't have the discipline you guys are demonstrating. Sigh....
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For those who have never done Zumba, I highly recommend it. I took it at my local Y in WA and I loved it. Half the class was on a different rhythm than the other and we were all giggling and sweating nearly the whole time (once the initial shyness wore off for the newer folks). It's super fun and you work hard and the hour just flies by.

My class was muuuuuuch better than the one posted.

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For those who have never done Zumba, I highly recommend it. I took it at my local Y in WA and I loved it. Half the class was on a different rhythm than the other and we were all giggling and sweating nearly the whole time (once the initial shyness wore off for the newer folks). It's super fun and you work hard and the hour just flies by.

My class was muuuuuuch better than the one posted.

Just sayin'.

I'm fairly certain Zumba is a cult.
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