Stone Femme?

[StoneOne]

Love to all the Stone Femmes out there

[spritzerJ]

I borrowed this quote from the house of stone thread. I brought it here because this thread has a ? mark and I am thinking that is where this wondering goes.

Originally Posted by SilverStoneFemme

*2. A stone femme is a person who is feminine in thoughts and action, whose personal style is feminine, whose only partner is a stone butch, whose sexual style accepts the sexual boundaries and limitations of any stonebutch with grace and understanding, who never pushes the limits and boundaries of any stone butch and who loves butchcock and the masculinity of stone butches it represents.

So life, a might wind, joyous tripping has carried me far and these days I find myself looking at the definition above for stone femme or ones nearly worded as that and wonder. And I wonder more than I have since I first came out. This is good.

So I get the a person who is "feminine in thoughts and actions" part. That fits. I am more casual in my girly ways. Developing my particularities

And the part that says:"whose only partner is a stone butch" is certainly true. Just one and hy is it for me. But does this definition mean always? That is all I want. Because all I want is hym and so then that part is true. Will it always be true? That I want hym yes, that I want only others like hym? how about we not go there because that would be sad to consider.

Then of course the part of "whose sexual style accepts the sexual boundaries and limitations of any stonebutch with grace and understanding, who never pushes the limits and boundaries of any stone butch" which is a resounding yes of course.

Next up is the part of "who loves butchcock and the masculinity of stone butches it represents." Yep again, swoon for sure. Now is that the only form of masculinity I would desire? Possibly.

The sticking point for me in looking at defintions like this is that it is about the other person. Only the first part is about me. If I was going to take on an additional sexual definition that I choose to explain me and my sexual expression wouldn't I state it in terms of my expression?

Still working on this obviously.

[QueenofSmirks]

Originally Posted by jenna8987

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The sticking point for me in looking at defintions like this is that it is about the other person. Only the first part is about me. If I was going to take on an additional sexual definition that I choose to explain me and my sexual expression wouldn't I state it in terms of my expression?

Still working on this obviously.

Jenna, your point, and opinion of such, is shared by others. I know many who don't accept that definition of stone femme for that very reason - they refuse to be defined by their choice of partner(s). I, myself, dated stone butches for years, and yet, I would never claim the identity of stone femme, not only because I don't agree with that definition of stone femme, but because even if I did, I wouldn't ever identify myself by my partner's identity. I can claim the identity of "girlfriend" but that would apply no matter what my partner's identity is. That definition of stone femme however, essentially requires one's partner to be stone butch, it can't be used with any other partner identity. MY OWN definition of stone femme, can, however. My definition of stone femme is one who's sexual boundaries are much like that of a stone butch, it has nothing to do with the gender identity or expression of one's partner, IN MY OPINION.