The House of Stone...

[girl_dee]

2 definitions? really? i really have issues with people who tell people they can't be part of the group if they don't fit, what threads they can be part of and if they don't fit in, to go somewhere else. There are a bajillion ways to slice what we all are here and excluding people who may have something to offer does not feel right to me.


Another thing,

The word "feminize"

feminize |ˈfeməˌnīz|
verb [ trans. ]

• make (something) more characteristic of or associated with women : as office roles changed, clerical work was increasingly feminized.
• induce female sexual characteristics in a male.

This is SO reminiscent of the *melting the stone* thread on one of the other sites. As far as my opinion goes, being a non group member (i will never conform to labels/definitions) i don't get how anyone can *feminize* you no matter HOW they touch, talk or look at you without your permission. No one could ever *masculinize* me no matter how they fucked me. i appreciate that people have boundaries and we all do, and we love those who do, but the word feminize feels like something bad to me when used along these lines.

IMO butch is butch, femme is femme no matter what we are doing. No one loses their butch/femme card because of a sex act in my book. My book is not anyone else's book i respect that.

Carry on with your *group* !

[Random]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

i don't get how anyone can *feminize* you no matter HOW they touch, talk or look at you without your permission. No one could ever *masculinize* me no matter how they fucked me. i appreciate that people have boundaries and we all do, and we love those who do, but the word feminize feels like something bad to me when used along these lines.

Dee,

I'm faultering at starting, so please excuse me if I come off abrupt..(It's a flowers for Algernon kinda afternoon and I'm struggling to communicate effectively)

When someones outside doesn't match what's inside their head, sometime touch can effect the mental image that you are trying to reinforce.

For some reason circular motion feels feminine and strokes feel masculing.

A cupped hand feels feminine and a flat hand feels masculine..

I'm not GID nor am I a stone butch or FtM, so I don't know why it happens, but it does...

If my ex was leaning masculine he was stone and If was touching him like he was female, it felt icky and turned him off, left him cold...

I have to be honest... Sometimes it was hard ass work making love to a stone butch...

Sometimes feminize IS not a good thing....

I'm like you... No matter how you touch me (when I allow touch) I'm a woman... but my insides match my outsides, so I don't have to build anything in my head that can be ruined by someone rubbing my clit instead of jacking me off...