Dating women with children, any thoughts?

Just_G · 04-16-2012, 08:02 PM

I have dated women with kids, and would do so again in a heartbeat!

It is not easy dating a woman with kids, but to me, it's worth it. I say it isn't easy because sometimes things get cancelled, and plans can change in the drop of a hat, but you have to learn to go with the changes of plans. I have had to give away tickets to the ballet, cancel dinner reservations, and even had to cancel a get-away-for -two.....all of which were just things that happen. Other plans can be made. Movie nights in when a kid is sick is quite relaxing.

I have even had to step up and take care of the kids when their mom had to work late....I didn't mind at all....in fact, I loved that I was able to be there for them.

I know that kids come first. I know that sometimes kids can be difficult. Women that have children have something different about them and I can't explain it, I just know that if I met a woman with kids, I would definitely date her if we had a connection.

Novelafemme · 04-16-2012, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

I have dated women with kids, and would do so again in a heartbeat!

It is not easy dating a woman with kids, but to me, it's worth it. I say it isn't easy because sometimes things get cancelled, and plans can change in the drop of a hat, but you have to learn to go with the changes of plans. I have had to give away tickets to the ballet, cancel dinner reservations, and even had to cancel a get-away-for -two.....all of which were just things that happen. Other plans can be made. Movie nights in when a kid is sick is quite relaxing.

I have even had to step up and take care of the kids when their mom had to work late....I didn't mind at all....in fact, I loved that I was able to be there for them.

I know that kids come first. I know that sometimes kids can be difficult. Women that have children have something different about them and I can't explain it, I just know that if I met a woman with kids, I would definitely date her if we had a connection.

Someone needs to snatch you up right quick, G!!! You are a gem!

SugarFemme · 04-16-2012, 08:46 PM

I would date someone with kids. For sure. I have one daughter. She is the light in my eyes. I always wanted more children but was not able to have any more. I am capable of loving ALL kids...yours, mine and ours. Kids bring such a special dynamic to the relationship. One that makes me so happy.

MarineCorps1 · 04-18-2012, 09:24 PM

I've dated women with kids, and I'd totally do it again. I like kids - but I tend to spoil them....

ValKyrie · 06-09-2012, 12:11 PM

I have 3 kids and I am with someone who has 2 kids. We each have our kids half of the time and have arranged so our kids have opposite schedules, i.e. when her kids are with us, mine are with their other parent, visa versa. They overlap about once or twice a month. We love that we both have kids. It makes it easier to understand that to each of us, our kids come first. We have similar parenting styles that fit really well together.

When we first started dating, we waited about 4 months before we met each others kids. We felt like it was really important to wait to see how serious we were with each other before we brought the kids in the equation. I would never have my kids meet someone who I wasn't serious about.

We are getting ready to make the move in together. I have been at her house when my kids are with their dad and she has been at my house when her kids are with their mom, so we have basically been cooexisting together for a little while without actually living full time in the same house.

The one thing that is always important to me is that our kids are first to each of us. If it's not, that's absolutley a deal breaker.

Deborah · 06-09-2012, 01:43 PM

I hope this doesnt sound bad but 'only if they were grown and sucessfully out on their own'.

I love kids and babys and I love love love being a YiaYia but I have raised mine and I was a very hands on mom, my son was my life...he is now 34 and has his own life. I adore his children/my grandchildren and my niece's baby....and I love anyone's kid that come into my life.

And because I believe it should be all about them and that is what they deserve from us as parents... I would not even start dating someone with kids...because it is my turn...I want it to be about me and my partner at this point in my life.

Would I date someone that didnt like kids HELL NO....because we are going to be grandparents and I love that role!!!![/I]

04-16-2012, 08:02 PM	#1
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have dated women with kids, and would do so again in a heartbeat! It is not easy dating a woman with kids, but to me, it's worth it. I say it isn't easy because sometimes things get cancelled, and plans can change in the drop of a hat, but you have to learn to go with the changes of plans. I have had to give away tickets to the ballet, cancel dinner reservations, and even had to cancel a get-away-for -two.....all of which were just things that happen. Other plans can be made. Movie nights in when a kid is sick is quite relaxing. I have even had to step up and take care of the kids when their mom had to work late....I didn't mind at all....in fact, I loved that I was able to be there for them. I know that kids come first. I know that sometimes kids can be difficult. Women that have children have something different about them and I can't explain it, I just know that if I met a woman with kids, I would definitely date her if we had a connection. __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

06-09-2012, 01:43 PM	#6
Deborah Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babydoll is a start.... Relationship Status: Mrs. Livingston 4/20/2013 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville where my heart belongs... Posts: 611 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,451 Thanked 1,454 Times in 276 Posts Rep Power: 14676215	I hope this doesnt sound bad but 'only if they were grown and sucessfully out on their own'. I love kids and babys and I love love love being a YiaYia but I have raised mine and I was a very hands on mom, my son was my life...he is now 34 and has his own life. I adore his children/my grandchildren and my niece's baby....and I love anyone's kid that come into my life. And because I believe it should be all about them and that is what they deserve from us as parents... I would not even start dating someone with kids...because it is my turn...I want it to be about me and my partner at this point in my life. Would I date someone that didnt like kids HELL NO....because we are going to be grandparents and I love that role!!!![/I] __________________ "Slow to trust but I'm quick to love, I push too hard and I give too much, I aint saying I'm perfect, but I promise I'm worth it" "The Good Within Me Honors The Good Within You"

04-16-2012, 08:46 PM	#3
SugarFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Southwest Posts: 1,029 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 650 Thanked 4,458 Times in 854 Posts Rep Power*: 21474852	I would date someone with kids. For sure. I have one daughter. She is the light in my eyes. I always wanted more children but was not able to have any more. I am capable of loving ALL kids...yours, mine and ours. Kids bring such a special dynamic to the relationship. One that makes me so happy.

04-18-2012, 09:24 PM	#4
MarineCorps1 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: queer/boi Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: pittsburgh Posts: 23 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 49 Thanked 95 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 675288	I've dated women with kids, and I'd totally do it again. I like kids - but I tend to spoil them....

06-09-2012, 12:11 PM	#5
ValKyrie Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Over the moon Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39 Thanked 75 Times in 11 Posts Rep Power: 1068895	I have 3 kids and I am with someone who has 2 kids. We each have our kids half of the time and have arranged so our kids have opposite schedules, i.e. when her kids are with us, mine are with their other parent, visa versa. They overlap about once or twice a month. We love that we both have kids. It makes it easier to understand that to each of us, our kids come first. We have similar parenting styles that fit really well together. When we first started dating, we waited about 4 months before we met each others kids. We felt like it was really important to wait to see how serious we were with each other before we brought the kids in the equation. I would never have my kids meet someone who I wasn't serious about. We are getting ready to make the move in together. I have been at her house when my kids are with their dad and she has been at my house when her kids are with their mom, so we have basically been cooexisting together for a little while without actually living full time in the same house. The one thing that is always important to me is that our kids are first to each of us. If it's not, that's absolutley a deal breaker.