What makes a Butch "Butch"

[Deborah]

Originally Posted by June

Yes. As a Femme, I see this all the time within our community. I don't care if you choose to or have to shave every day, or sleep in your Engineer boots. What I care about is how you behave towards others. None of these identities/Genders should be a competition.

If I were in the dating pool, I would be looking for a masculine person who treated everyone respectfully and was secure in who they were, shared similar goals, was emotionally available, didn't have a real messy past and was able to build relationships with my friends, regardless of how they identified because they trusted me.

That Butch/Man in the corner with a beer making snide remarks about "chicks" and blustering about how they are so masculine they "would never..." -- I don't want that.

Glad you're not in the dating pool...cause you just described my man Mr Princess himself...just call me lucky

[Deborah]

I agree with theDevilherself...I have no issue with 'ooozing femmeness' in fact its part of who I am...but dont think for a second I am a damzel in distress or looking for a night in shining armor - I can hold my own with just about anyone. I love my nails done and my hair did and have brains and skills to go with it! I been called Daddi before but only once...but I could be one if I wanted. I am a strong femme and I like a strong partner, one that is strong enough to be the most sensitive person there is and that is whether they're butch, ftm or femme...I don't like people that judge books by their cover or judge books they haven't read...I love the diversity of this life and I am still learning what all this means and some of you have been here a long time and still seem to be evolving which I consider growth...what I have learned is all these 'labels' mean very different things to each of us and none of us are wrong about 'who we think/feel we are' the wrongness comes when we impose our definition on someone else that doesn't feel the same way...