Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread

Apocalipstic · 05-04-2012, 04:55 PM

I love cookies and cooking for me is a GREAT way to flirt!

When I been to London it has mostly been for work and we were in the West End area to hire singer and dancers for Cruise Ships, when I went for vacation I stayed near Trafalgar Square since I am familiar with that area. I love it there, but agree I see way more queer presence here in Nashville. Lol.

I have done Serial Monogamy and have been in relationships with more than one person before. I have really been thinking a lot recently about jealousy and what horrible things it brings out in people and why we insist on placing ourselves in situations where we will be miserable not to be alone.

FtMGuy · 05-05-2012, 06:01 PM

Dont get me wrong the queer &BDSM world is hoppin in central london tons of stuff going on but for going on the train and the underground in chaps and a black tshirt to go to an event just dont cut it for me!
Central lond is incredible! i did love going in and seeing stuff
THe overall experience was a good one!

jealousy is a werd one for me, I thnk for me I need total openness and honesty about what my partners are up to most because I dig hearing about it all, and also its been my experience that when people dont want to talk about it is when things get weird
Any way its hot and I am drinkin iced tea with my shirt off ,in fron of the fan watchng tv and hangin out online!
Hoe you doin'?

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Originally Posted by Apocalipstic

I love cookies and cooking for me is a GREAT way to flirt!

When I been to London it has mostly been for work and we were in the West End area to hire singer and dancers for Cruise Ships, when I went for vacation I stayed near Trafalgar Square since I am familiar with that area. I love it there, but agree I see way more queer presence here in Nashville. Lol.

I have done Serial Monogamy and have been in relationships with more than one person before. I have really been thinking a lot recently about jealousy and what horrible things it brings out in people and why we insist on placing ourselves in situations where we will be miserable not to be alone.

Rope · 05-09-2012, 10:29 PM

In a poly relationship here. I've been in poly relationships on and off for 20 years (wow, that sounds like a long time). I have had great luck with it. A lot of first dates (sometimes, it only takes one date to discover, um, not so much...<g>).

Rope--

sirenfemme · 05-27-2012, 05:35 PM

Poly also and have had long relationships of depth and quality.I'm looking around the east coast for options. For those of you who are poly how are you finding people who fit?

aishah · 06-02-2012, 07:46 PM

mostly by accident so far

i also like places like okcupid and fetlife, where i can state up front that i am polyamorous, but i haven't met many people successfully through there.

TenderKnight · 06-02-2012, 07:57 PM

yeah, I have mainly found people at random.. Thinking of stating that I'm poly on my profile here as well.. May cause less confusion. I find the hardest part about dating or talking with people that are new or ingnorant of poly is explaining how I can have feelings for someone and still have feelings for other people and it not take away from the fact that I have very real feelings for all involved.. Blah, lol

Have also been finding it a bit hard as of late because I am allowing myself to be vulnerable again and have been a bit "singed".. Not really burned, just testing the waters with someone and then having that feeling of , "OH! ouch.. yeah, this ain't going to work out.." lol Ah well

Such is love and life

The "singe" is better then not feeling or experiencing the other wonderfulness that intimate connection can bring.

That's another thing.. I can get sex pretty easy.. I am longing for intimacy, and that is the hardest thing to find sometimes..

OK, will shush now. Glad we have a poly thread, maybe some of you can relate

-Tony

sirenfemme · 06-17-2012, 05:29 PM

[QUOTE=TenderKnight;596376]That's another thing.. I can get sex pretty easy.. I am longing for intimacy, and that is the hardest thing to find sometimes..

I completely agree with you. A willingness to have conversations of depth, eye contact and mutual curiosity. It is not always the easiest piece to find.

PoeticWitch · 06-03-2012, 08:28 AM

*pops in* my last post would now be considered incorrect. I still consider myself a poly person but i am no longer involved. But I am still not looking. Time for me time, to heal my heavy heart. I see I am out of practice on the flirting. Going to have to brush up on my skills..

05-04-2012, 04:55 PM	#1
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I love cookies and cooking for me is a GREAT way to flirt! When I been to London it has mostly been for work and we were in the West End area to hire singer and dancers for Cruise Ships, when I went for vacation I stayed near Trafalgar Square since I am familiar with that area. I love it there, but agree I see way more queer presence here in Nashville. Lol. I have done Serial Monogamy and have been in relationships with more than one person before. I have really been thinking a lot recently about jealousy and what horrible things it brings out in people and why we insist on placing ourselves in situations where we will be miserable not to be alone. __________________

05-09-2012, 10:29 PM	#3
Rope Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: polyamorous Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 304 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 79 Thanked 1,277 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 8577864	In a poly relationship here. I've been in poly relationships on and off for 20 years (wow, that sounds like a long time). I have had great luck with it. A lot of first dates (sometimes, it only takes one date to discover, um, not so much...<g>). Rope-- __________________ www.ButchFemmeSocials.com

06-02-2012, 07:57 PM	#6
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	yeah, I have mainly found people at random.. Thinking of stating that I'm poly on my profile here as well.. May cause less confusion. I find the hardest part about dating or talking with people that are new or ingnorant of poly is explaining how I can have feelings for someone and still have feelings for other people and it not take away from the fact that I have very real feelings for all involved.. Blah, lol Have also been finding it a bit hard as of late because I am allowing myself to be vulnerable again and have been a bit "singed".. Not really burned, just testing the waters with someone and then having that feeling of , "OH! ouch.. yeah, this ain't going to work out.." lol Ah well Such is love and life The "singe" is better then not feeling or experiencing the other wonderfulness that intimate connection can bring. That's another thing.. I can get sex pretty easy.. I am longing for intimacy, and that is the hardest thing to find sometimes.. OK, will shush now. Glad we have a poly thread, maybe some of you can relate -Tony __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..

06-17-2012, 05:29 PM	#7
sirenfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: high femme butches make me curvy Preferred Pronoun?: Beautiful, she and sweetheart Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Eastern seaboard Posts: 6 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 34 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	intimacy [QUOTE=TenderKnight;596376]That's another thing.. I can get sex pretty easy.. I am longing for intimacy, and that is the hardest thing to find sometimes.. I completely agree with you. A willingness to have conversations of depth, eye contact and mutual curiosity. It is not always the easiest piece to find. __________________ SirenFemme

06-03-2012, 08:28 AM	#8
PoeticWitch Member How Do You Identify?: Queer... that is all you get Preferred Pronoun?: um... she.. I think... shrug call me anything that pleases ya Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Toledo, Ohio Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 172 Thanked 1,131 Times in 377 Posts Rep Power: 7056675	pops in my last post would now be considered incorrect. I still consider myself a poly person but i am no longer involved. But I am still not looking. Time for me time, to heal my heavy heart. I see I am out of practice on the flirting. Going to have to brush up on my skills.. __________________ Things happen, no rhyme or reason, either learn from it and grow. Or don't and fail this part of life.

05-27-2012, 05:35 PM	#4
sirenfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: high femme butches make me curvy Preferred Pronoun?: Beautiful, she and sweetheart Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Eastern seaboard Posts: 6 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 34 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	Poly also and have had long relationships of depth and quality.I'm looking around the east coast for options. For those of you who are poly how are you finding people who fit?

06-02-2012, 07:46 PM	#5
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,442 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	mostly by accident so far i also like places like okcupid and fetlife, where i can state up front that i am polyamorous, but i haven't met many people successfully through there.