FTM's Attracted to Femmes - Page 7

Darbonaire · 05-05-2012, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyRieinAL

I never thought I'd find myself in a place like this again - ten years ago I fell in love with a wonderful man, a gentleman, a fabulous lover (the best ever) male or female - I was married to a bio-male (sorry if the terms I use are not correct and I don't mind being corrected) for five years - the next 22 I spent with a butch, and for a few short years I had two relationships with with one butch and one person who ID as transman and preferred female pronouns because it made life easier for hym- and then I met my first FTM - to I liked him, I liked him a lot, but I wasn't sure that I could allow myself to fall in love with him - he made me see and feel like I was really home when I was in his arms - our transition was an amazing one - he was male - and he snagged me - he swept me off my feet - he spanked my buttocks and made me love it <wink> his level of intelligence and his sense of humor was off the charts and I thought this was the grandest relationship there was ever created on earth - and time pivoted - and then as life does, we changed for so many different reasons - and eventually it was time for both of us to move on - he moved several states away - and I couldn't.
I'm telling you, mark my words, if one of you femmes out there has the chance to meet him - when you are introduced to him, you will find out exactly what I'm talking about.
Because of him, I am hoping that in my new journey of being single I will be lead into the arms of an FTM who wants to co-create a new journey in joy and love - and maybe it will be forever - a femme can dream.

I still love you......I miss you....& I would love "us" again.......thank you for sharing this ! ***

Nadeest · 05-05-2012, 10:01 AM

The first person that I went out with, after I started transition was an FTM. He was so gentle and caring with me that it was amazing. I was very terrified when it came to sex, and he let me proceed at my own pace, to find out what worked for me, now that I had begun transition. Everything had changed for me, and he understood that. Since then, I've always had a soft spot in my heart for FTM's and would date them a lot quicker then I would a cis-male.

rande · 05-05-2012, 02:10 PM

I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand.
Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me.

We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live.

Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about.

It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person.

Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no.

Let's celebrate love, not limits.

Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

morningstar55 · 05-05-2012, 02:41 PM

im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM..
have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone..
im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs.
im just a girl next door kinda girl.

some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already.
im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either.
maybe im doing something wrong.
anyways............. this is a interesting thread.
will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work...
have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone.

morningstar55 · 05-06-2012, 06:38 AM

good morning FATF dwellers and peekers

i been reading some postings here yesterday and well just can not understand this............
2 people...... doesnt matter if your str8/ftm/mtf/butch femme or what ever.
when a couple has so much love for each other... why can not they make it work???
doesnt love conquer all??? it is soo hard to find true love , a deep love and when you do find it and its mutual , stick with it... its like that song.. if you see a chance take it.. find romance embrace it?? think thats how it goees.. lol its a old Steve Winwood song... heh

Darbonaire n LadyRieinAL life is way way to short.... and in our age group, its soo soo very hard to find someone ... must be something to work out to keep ya'll together. I hate seeing such loving couples fall apart when it could of been prevented. I guess i am a strong believer in working on a relationship when its worth saving.
ya know grandma n grandpa didnt get to there 50th wedding anniversary on a bed of roses, im sure there were some thorns somewhere along the way.
anyways. just my thoughts this morning.... ha and i havnt had my coffee yet.. lol

im heading to Ithaca and then to detroit today.
have a great day everyone.

Leigh · 05-07-2012, 08:01 AM

Just came in to say good morning to everyone

Darbonaire · 05-08-2012, 03:19 PM

Treated myself to a wonderful massage today....wow, maybe I should date a massage therapist?.....LOL......I'm trying my best to stay positive, fill my days with new friends & new experiences.....thank God for my cat......lol......she's my baby girl & has gotten me through a LOT !

I just wanted to stop in & say hello & I wish everyone a super evening & a wonderful tomorrow !

Jonathan

Teddybear · 05-08-2012, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Darbonaire

Treated myself to a wonderful massage today....wow, maybe I should date a massage therapist?.....LOL......I'm trying my best to stay positive, fill my days with new friends & new experiences.....thank God for my cat......lol......she's my baby girl & has gotten me through a LOT !

I just wanted to stop in & say hello & I wish everyone a super evening & a wonderful tomorrow !

Jonathan

my cat has gotten me through a lot also now if i could get him to stop snoring at nite

hello to all the ladies and gents on the thread

Quintease · 05-08-2012, 05:59 PM

My husband was always into feminine, straight, bi or gay. It makes no difference to him who I fancy, provided he's quite high on the list.

I think ten years back girls like me were just too lesbian to date FTM's, whereas now we're all part of the same community. For the boys, I guess it's a lot safer dating a lesbian once you look like a man. For the girls, I guess we get the authentically queer experience, with someone who's simultaneously breaking as well as maintaining binaries ... or perhaps that's just my take on it all.

It did surprise me that I could fancy the pants off a man, it didn't surprise him that he could fancy me. He led me astray, clearly!

Leigh · 05-13-2012, 10:02 PM

Just came in to spread my love around for all the amazing guys here

TenderKnight · 05-13-2012, 11:49 PM

Ohhh.. Hello all

I'm FTM and am attracted to femmes.. I guess I might belong in this thread

*waves to everyone*

Leigh · 05-13-2012, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by TenderKnight

Ohhh.. Hello all

I'm FTM and am attracted to femmes.. I guess I might belong in this thread

*waves to everyone*

lol glad you could join us, make yourself at home

TenderKnight · 05-13-2012, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

Guess I could start off with responding to the original poster

I consider myself to be pansexual.. Meaning that I am attracted to the person rather then thier gender.. that being said.. For me personally, I tend to have fun and play with guys and settle down and date women.. I am also poly, so this has worked well for me in my personal life

Currently I am "single" meaning that I do have some very close intimate friends and playmates, but I am not dating anyone nor am I in a relationship with anyone..

That is just my thoughts on the original post

TenderKnight · 05-13-2012, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Leigh

lol glad you could join us, make yourself at home

Well thank you

Leigh · 05-13-2012, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by TenderKnight

Well thank you

*smiles* Your very welcome

rande · 05-15-2012, 09:45 AM

Don't give up!
You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise!
Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that!
Hell! Turns me right the heck on!

I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling.
There is someone out there for you. Hang in there.
Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO!

So don't worry...love is coming.
You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it.

You're perfect, just the way you are.

Julien · 05-15-2012, 05:24 PM

I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello.

I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all.

Leigh · 05-15-2012, 05:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rande

Don't give up!
You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise!
Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that!
Hell! Turns me right the heck on!

I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling.
There is someone out there for you. Hang in there.
Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO!

So don't worry...love is coming.
You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it.

You're perfect, just the way you are.

Sometimes we need to be reminded of these things and I thank you for posting this for us

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julien

I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello.

I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all.

Welcome to the thread Julien, make yourself at home ~ visit anytime you like

Kent · 07-07-2012, 04:12 PM

Just a little bump...

Bad_boi · 07-28-2012, 03:47 PM

Femmes are amazing.

05-05-2012, 02:41 PM	#124
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM.. have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone.. im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs. im just a girl next door kinda girl. some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already. im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either. maybe im doing something wrong. anyways............. this is a interesting thread. will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work... have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

05-06-2012, 06:38 AM	#125
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	good morning FATF dwellers and peekers i been reading some postings here yesterday and well just can not understand this............ 2 people...... doesnt matter if your str8/ftm/mtf/butch femme or what ever. when a couple has so much love for each other... why can not they make it work??? doesnt love conquer all??? it is soo hard to find true love , a deep love and when you do find it and its mutual , stick with it... its like that song.. if you see a chance take it.. find romance embrace it?? think thats how it goees.. lol its a old Steve Winwood song... heh Darbonaire n LadyRieinAL life is way way to short.... and in our age group, its soo soo very hard to find someone ... must be something to work out to keep ya'll together. I hate seeing such loving couples fall apart when it could of been prevented. I guess i am a strong believer in working on a relationship when its worth saving. ya know grandma n grandpa didnt get to there 50th wedding anniversary on a bed of roses, im sure there were some thorns somewhere along the way. anyways. just my thoughts this morning.... ha and i havnt had my coffee yet.. lol im heading to Ithaca and then to detroit today. have a great day everyone. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

05-08-2012, 03:19 PM	#127
Darbonaire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: MALE Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Working on myself, thank you Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 186 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 343 Thanked 552 Times in 145 Posts Rep Power: 0	One day at a time.... Treated myself to a wonderful massage today....wow, maybe I should date a massage therapist?.....LOL......I'm trying my best to stay positive, fill my days with new friends & new experiences.....thank God for my cat......lol......she's my baby girl & has gotten me through a LOT ! I just wanted to stop in & say hello & I wish everyone a super evening & a wonderful tomorrow ! Jonathan

05-08-2012, 05:59 PM	#129
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	My husband was always into feminine, straight, bi or gay. It makes no difference to him who I fancy, provided he's quite high on the list. I think ten years back girls like me were just too lesbian to date FTM's, whereas now we're all part of the same community. For the boys, I guess it's a lot safer dating a lesbian once you look like a man. For the girls, I guess we get the authentically queer experience, with someone who's simultaneously breaking as well as maintaining binaries ... or perhaps that's just my take on it all. It did surprise me that I could fancy the pants off a man, it didn't surprise him that he could fancy me. He led me astray, clearly! __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

05-13-2012, 11:49 PM	#131
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	Ohhh.. Hello all I'm FTM and am attracted to femmes.. I guess I might belong in this thread waves to everyone __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..

05-05-2012, 10:01 AM	#122
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	The first person that I went out with, after I started transition was an FTM. He was so gentle and caring with me that it was amazing. I was very terrified when it came to sex, and he let me proceed at my own pace, to find out what worked for me, now that I had begun transition. Everything had changed for me, and he understood that. Since then, I've always had a soft spot in my heart for FTM's and would date them a lot quicker then I would a cis-male.

05-05-2012, 02:10 PM	#123
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand. Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me. We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live. Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about. It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person. Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no. Let's celebrate love, not limits. Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

05-07-2012, 08:01 AM	#126
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Just came in to say good morning to everyone

05-13-2012, 10:02 PM	#130
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Just came in to spread my love around for all the amazing guys here

05-15-2012, 09:45 AM	#136
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	Don't give up! You're plenty feminine! Don't you dare think otherwise! Driving a truck, far out! Nothing wrong with that! Hell! Turns me right the heck on! I like it when people are who they want to be, regardless of stereotyping and labeling. There is someone out there for you. Hang in there. Love's a funny thing, it sneaks up on you lots of times right after you've given up...then WHAMMO! So don't worry...love is coming. You don't have to change a thing...just be there for it. You're perfect, just the way you are.

05-15-2012, 05:24 PM	#137
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I thought I would peek around the curtain and say hello. I am looking for a welcoming place to hang my hat. Good evening one and all. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

07-07-2012, 04:12 PM	#139
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241326	Just a little bump... __________________ Kent

07-28-2012, 03:47 PM	#140
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	Femmes are amazing.