The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by Licious

Hi everyone...

Not much going on here, just catching up on posts. I am still recovering from bronchitis, but good to be on the mend. For now this takes up most of my time, and usual petition spreading or politics online.

Have a good weekend Lofters!

You have a great weekend too!

[ruthie14]

Originally Posted by OS Butch

Wow! I hope you got the fence done! I hope everything is going well in spite of it.

fence got done by friday thank God! The dog can still get out of their back yard and into their front yard, but for now at least my back yard is safe.

feeling blue today. A lot going on...including a$$ of a neighbor.

I am too nice and do too much for folks. I got burnt by someone recently and I am sad about that. I won't let them take advantage of me anymore. A woman I am interested in, well, lets just say she isn't ready for a relationship. She is interested in me, but not yet ready. I am not waiting. There is a woman on a singles site that said she wants just friends, but the rate of speed she has pushed for just meeting up is, well, too fast. It will be a while before I meet her or give out my phone or email address. Just wrote me this morning, I wrote her back and already wants all that info. ahhhhh no...

things are strange at my job... It is a franchise daycare, I think corprate is either going to take over or sell to another owner. They are NOT happy with him. Neither are we. The order that was suppose to come in at the end of the month has yet to arrive. hmmmmmmmm He blew off a meeting with big wigs.. haven't seen him in almost a month. Fishy Hopefully I at least have a job.

Have a wonderful week my friends.
Ruthie

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by ruthie14

fence got done by friday thank God! The dog can still get out of their back yard and into their front yard, but for now at least my back yard is safe.

I am glad you got that done. Please call Animal control any time you see that dog loose. You may save someone else from being bitten. Around here if a dog bites, it is quarantined. Then may or may not be returned to the owner unless owner can prove that steps have been taken to kept the dog in the yard. Some jurisdictions have banned some breeds of dogs.

Originally Posted by ruthie14

feeling blue today. A lot going on...including a$$ of a neighbor.

I am too nice and do too much for folks. I got burnt by someone recently and I am sad about that. I won't let them take advantage of me anymore. A woman I am interested in, well, lets just say she isn't ready for a relationship. She is interested in me, but not yet ready. I am not waiting. There is a woman on a singles site that said she wants just friends, but the rate of speed she has pushed for just meeting up is, well, too fast. It will be a while before I meet her or give out my phone or email address. Just wrote me this morning, I wrote her back and already wants all that info. ahhhhh no...

Doo doo happens. Been there and done it time and again. By all means, you take meeting new people at a comfortable pace for you. Maybe if you couple get a group of friends to go for coffee and this person would make it less ...oh what would be the word....I dunno, It will come to me at 3am!

Originally Posted by ruthie14

things are strange at my job... It is a franchise daycare, I think corprate is either going to take over or sell to another owner. They are NOT happy with him. Neither are we. The order that was suppose to come in at the end of the month has yet to arrive. hmmmmmmmm He blew off a meeting with big wigs.. haven't seen him in almost a month. Fishy Hopefully I at least have a job.

Have a wonderful week my friends.
Ruthie

Sounds like alot going on over there! I like going to work, the most drama free job, just hop on my mower and go from 8am to whenever we get the last client done...Does make for a long day if we get called off because of rain. I love being outside

I hope you have a great week.

Jo

[morningstar55]

The eagle has landed.... just east of the toledo area.. am poopd.... been driving al day.....in other news my lap top died....""very deep sigh"". Anyways its dindin time.Have a nice night

[ruthie14]

Dog comes out of quarantine tomorrow but fence should be good enough for now. If he bites again the dog will be put down. Hate that, but the dog attacked unprovoked even. Not good owners to tell you the truth. They are responsible, not the dog. Called animal control and they told us to call the police and file a report, which we did.

Wrist arm and elbow continue to get worse despite cortizone shots. Will need to schedule surgery for my Ulna nerve soon.. (funny bone). Saw neck dr today and he wants an mri. Been seeing him for years and he agrees that I should have the surgery. Go back on the 5th of June to see him.

Morningstart... hope your laptop gets fixed soon!

Os.. thanks for all your encouraging words. It means a lot.

Night folks...Have a wonderful humping day tomorrow! lol

Ruthie

[Maverick]

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

[LadyRieinAL]

I think, how wonderful that you can allow yourself to grow and change and be who you want to be in any given moment.
Sweet one it is all about you - and you can change it and if it doesn't feel good, or right, the beauty is, you can always change it back.

What matters most is what DOES feel good to you.

[LadyRieinAL]

Ruthie, how horrifying that moment must have been for you - I wish you a speedy recovery - and I pray that the dog doesn't bite anyone else

[Jaques]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

...........hi maverick, i was in my mid 50's when i changed my name from Jacquelyn to Jaques, which everyone called me anyway. I did it because of transitioning, after a lot of thought (years) and didnt change my surname. I dont feel age has any bearing on if/ when a person changes a name rather than the reason, i.e. is it about identity or a need for change (or both)? In the Bible its said that Saul who was at one time a violent man, changed his name to Paul and with that changed his behaviour. Monks and nuns of various religions take new names when entering their chosen way of life. I do feel names, even their sound, have energetic vibrations which go out into the Universe. When your name is spoken out loud, given that vibration is the sound constantly associated with 'you' can mean that if you change your name, you may change what is associated with you.
This is why I decided to change my name as little as possible - i.e. I couldnt live as male with a name like Jacquelyn!
I hope you decide what is right for you, all the best.

[Darbonaire]

Do It Maverick! It's your name, your right, & if you truly feel as if you want to move forward in life with a name YOU like & choose......go for it. I did in my 30's & I don't regret it a bit.........good luck with your decision........if it's YOUR decision it will be the right one......

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers n peekers....... maverick,i say do ht also.... and when its all said nd done u will feel so much better bowling when i was in my teens i held the record title for a yr for gutter champ

[morningstar55]

(((((((Ruth))))))))))) hope u have a speedy recovery

[LadyRain]

changed my first..middle and last name a few years ago. I never liked my middle name and it did not mean anything then sounding good with my first. Its empowering to re-name yourself!!

Originally Posted by Maverick

Hey all! Just turned 50 here. Hard to believe how time flies these days and yet still feel young in a lot of ways. I have a question for all of you...I'm thinking of changing my name but I feel a little silly doing it now at my age. I've lived with a name I never liked or felt comfortable with my whole life and, now that I'm older I'm thinking about changing it to something I think fits me better. So, what do you all think? Should I just stick with my old name that everyone knows me by or change it up and go for a new name? Does it even really matter what people call me after all this time?

Thanks all..Maverick

[Maverick]

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

[deedarino]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

One of the cool things about getting older is not feeling the need to live for everyone else. It wasn't always that way.

Spend the rest of your years with a name that makes you happy.

[OS Butch]

Good morning. It is a rainy day here in Washington DC. That means I might have the day off from work...I am on stand by right now....playing solitare and having coffee. Have a great day!

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by Maverick

Thanks everyone for your input and support. I'm still deciding whether to do it or not and, at the advice of a close friend and my partner I'm looking into a nickname instead possibly. I'm not hot about the idea but I'm told that people don't like the name I've chosen for myself. I like the name and I know that's what matters so I may just have to get butch and stick with it regardless lol.

Also, I want to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! to all the mothers out there.

Mav

Dude, I have several names. Legally, my birth name, Joan. Lots of people call me Jo. I wanted a more Butch name than my given name, yet still ummm ...female name. Others call me JJ and Joan and my family calls me Joanie.

Maybe it is an age thing, but really what is in a name? In my opinion, the only time it really matters is in legal papers. My dad found that out at some point because his birth certificate had not been changed from "Baby XXXX" His parents hadn't decided on a name!

You can be called whatever you want. Just tell people that you prefer to be called..whatever you want, then at some point you want to change it legally, do it, but remember it can be a tedious process so make sure you don't have to do it again because you might not really like it anymore.

[morningstar55]

Morning loft dwellers and peekers. ..... thats kinda funny jo... ur dad's real name is XXX? ..... .. anyways still no lap top.. ""sigh " oh well .. have a great day everyone

[morningstar55]

Ok i need a lil vent... and maybe some helpful advice....... seems lately, few times i been around my sister in law.. she has brought up my x co drives name and make.comments nd quesa, why he looks and seems to b like a man... ..i say.. he ah was born that way. Then she wil try 2 disbute that , then i get defensive , i then just leave the room. Ya knw , even though it did not work out driving with my co driver nd i.. i Will, defend his gender and rights.

[morningstar55]

Gues just some thougts , ideas how 2 handle her attitude .. my sister n law can b annoying