Lounge for Deaf people and their allies

Viola · 05-29-2012, 03:31 PM

I'm hearing, however had many years either deaf or hard of hearing.

I wrote a lot and then deleted it.

I think in ABA which gets me in trouble., ABA is where dominate does the A then follows the reaction of submissive doing B that will then echo A

However I do so through this language, and I forget there's communication.

I'm seeking to break this ABA notion and learn how to communicate.

Anybody here relate with this.

Anybody here had their hearing restored? and find challenge?

hearing restore through tubes; that's all., no biggy, many had this done., so perhaps I sound I exaduate then.

but really I'm not exaduating.

I was deaf/heard of hearing for many years, due to neglect as I wasn't allow to see docs.

something to do with grandparents from germany, uh?

grandparents were afraid of losing me if docs find out about me; uh?

grandparents beliefs did me harm.

anybody relate in any way?

Electrocell · 05-29-2012, 03:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Viola

I'm hearing, however had many years either deaf or hard of hearing.

I wrote a lot and then deleted it.

I think in ABA which gets me in trouble., ABA is where dominate does the A then follows the reaction of submissive doing B that will then echo A

However I do so through this language, and I forget there's communication.

I'm seeking to break this ABA notion and learn how to communicate.

Anybody here relate with this.

Anybody here had their hearing restored? and find challenge?

hearing restore through tubes; that's all., no biggy, many had this done., so perhaps I sound I exaduate then.

but really I'm not exaduating.

I was deaf/heard of hearing for many years, due to neglect as I wasn't allow to see docs.

something to do with grandparents from germany, uh?

grandparents were afraid of losing me if docs find out about me; uh?

grandparents beliefs did me harm.

anybody relate in any way?

What is ABA?

girl_dee · 05-29-2012, 03:45 PM

i am not deaf but i learned how to fingerspell when i was 12. i always wanted to work with non-hearing folks. i taught myself some sign in the last year but i would love to take a course at the college!

Rockinonahigh · 05-29-2012, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

i am not deaf but i learned how to fingerspell when i was 12. i always wanted to work with non-hearing folks. i taught myself some sign in the last year but i would love to take a course at the college!

Check with the deaf action center to see if they offer clases or the comunity college (if you have one) sometimes the class's are free.

DamonK · 05-29-2012, 06:36 PM

Speech therapy...

I can only remember one speech therapist I liked.

I saw her a few years ago.

I had 9+ years of it.

I think the most valuable lesson for me in the class was to learn to hear by vibration.

starryeyes · 05-29-2012, 06:40 PM

I am a certified interpreter in San Diego! Yay! I love meeting deaf/hoh/interpreters/allies as well! Hugs!

DamonK · 05-29-2012, 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by starryeyes

I am a certified interpreter in San Diego! Yay! I love meeting deaf/hoh/interpreters/allies as well! Hugs!

I really can't count the number of interpreters I've had.

But...

As I've gotten older, I've realized something I forgot to tell most of my interpreters...

Thanks.

WingsOnFire · 05-29-2012, 08:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by starryeyes

I am a certified interpreter in San Diego! Yay! I love meeting deaf/hoh/interpreters/allies as well! Hugs!

I have wanted to go to college to learn to interpret for DamonK. I havent had the opportunity yet but I am hoping to this year. I learned the alphabet but I am rusty on it. I need to do it more often. Damon used to sign back to me when he was answering a question and that was helpful too.

princessbelle · 05-29-2012, 06:44 PM

I hear but work with many deaf patients. I've learned a small amount of signing and know my alphabet. This is something i really want to get better at. The Tennessee School for the Deaf offer courses to medical personal free.

I'm mad at myself for not getting that done.

For me, to communicate with a deaf patient is frustrating because i'm not fluent or even close. What has been so precious to me is that deaf people smile at those of us who try and have soooo much patience. Just for me to spell my name and explain i'm a nurse takes a lot of time.

Speaking of time...it is time i get to those classes. Enough procrastination.

BTW i just want to say that i think signing is beautiful and those among us who cannot hear, seem to have an inner intuition that is a plane above us hearing folks, and it cannot be matched.

tantalizingfemme · 05-29-2012, 06:44 PM

I also deal with hearing challenges. While I may hear sounds, I have a difficult time understanding what someone is actually saying; especially if the person has a deeper voice. I hear high tones fine, but lower, deeper tones either I don't hear at all or cannot make out words. I am notorious for asking people to repeat themselves, sometimes to where after I have asked them to repeat themselves numerous times down to one word not being understood, and then I end up repeating what I understood and then I request them to spell the word I am just not getting. People have been really good about it and if I see them get frustrated, I will then disclose my hearing impairment. It is very frustrating because even in the movie theater I lose a lot of what is being said. I think this is why I prefer action movies to dramas as action movies usually don't have a lot of talking.

I too have done the smile and nod and not understood a word someone has said. I watch lips and am very keen on watching body language to help me.

I have tried a hearing aid, but all it did was amplify background noise and holy crap.... forget when a siren goes off... I couldn't get the volume down fast enough.

I try my best to work with it everyday, and some days are okay, but then there are days where I just get tired... tired of feeling like I am missing out on some things. (which i am in a sense)

So hi to everyone..

And thanks nycfembbw for starting this thread.

Lady Pamela · 02-23-2014, 12:14 AM

Awesome thread!

I have some hearing loss but do well. My daughter also.
But I have been surrounded by the deaf community here in Utah mostly because the Godfather of my children has been tottally deaf all his life.
He teaches me sign and I teach him to talk...smiles

Anyways, just thought I would say hello and cool thread.

tiaras-and-books · 02-24-2014, 03:52 AM

I have a total crush on the woman who signs most of this.

nycfem · 05-29-2012, 03:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Electrocell

What is ABA?

We use ABA teaching consultants at times at our school.

Here's a link:

http://rsaffran.tripod.com/whatisaba.html

Electrocell · 05-29-2012, 04:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

We use ABA teaching consultants at times at our school.

Here's a link:

http://rsaffran.tripod.com/whatisaba.html

OK thanks.

Electrocell · 05-29-2012, 04:43 PM

So ABA is used for people with autism--- that's good to know.

DamonK · 05-29-2012, 05:33 PM

Deaf.

I have aids. If you look at me, we will get along. Obviously, use grammar and enunciate. Raise your voice at me like I'm stupid, we won't get along.

I sign fluently. I use ASL and SEE.

I speak. Oh yeah, I was born and raised in Texas. I ain't never been to Britain. It's the Texas mixed with the "deaf accent" as I call it. I keep getting asked.

NYC has volunteered herself to rescue me at the reunion if needed.

Not quite sure I told her that yet.... Teasing

I speak grudgingly. If I panic, I forget my words and sign. I can't say anything unless I've seen it in sign in my head.

Last thing, ya'll got to learn to give guys like me a second to process. I mean ya'll like entire world. Just because I heard your voice don't quite mean I know what you said... Yet.

Rockinonahigh · 05-29-2012, 05:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DamonK

Deaf.

I have aids. If you look at me, we will get along. Obviously, use grammar and enunciate. Raise your voice at me like I'm stupid, we won't get along.

I sign fluently. I use ASL and SEE.

I speak. Oh yeah, I was born and raised in Texas. I ain't never been to Britain. It's the Texas mixed with the "deaf accent" as I call it. I keep getting asked.

NYC has volunteered herself to rescue me at the reunion if needed.

Not quite sure I told her that yet.... Teasing

I speak grudgingly. If I panic, I forget my words and sign. I can't say anything unless I've seen it in sign in my head.

Last thing, ya'll got to learn to give guys like me a second to process. I mean ya'll like entire world. Just because I heard your voice don't quite mean I know what you said... Yet.

You are so right on this statement,process takes a fue minits sometimes.

nycfem · 05-29-2012, 03:49 PM

I want to add to anyone unfamiliar with Deaf culture that ASL is NOT a written language AND uses completely different grammar. E.G. "I'll get my book" is signed "Book get I." There's a terrible stereotype that because some Deaf people's written English is not fluent that they are not as intelligent. That couldn't be further from the truth.

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Viola Timed Out How Do You Identify?: AKA - Una (troll) Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Bay Area/Comcast Posts: 51 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 81 Thanked 128 Times in 38 Posts Rep Power: 0	i hear now, but was deaf/hardhearing many years back I'm hearing, however had many years either deaf or hard of hearing. I wrote a lot and then deleted it. I think in ABA which gets me in trouble., ABA is where dominate does the A then follows the reaction of submissive doing B that will then echo A However I do so through this language, and I forget there's communication. I'm seeking to break this ABA notion and learn how to communicate. Anybody here relate with this. Anybody here had their hearing restored? and find challenge? hearing restore through tubes; that's all., no biggy, many had this done., so perhaps I sound I exaduate then. but really I'm not exaduating. I was deaf/heard of hearing for many years, due to neglect as I wasn't allow to see docs. something to do with grandparents from germany, uh? grandparents were afraid of losing me if docs find out about me; uh? grandparents beliefs did me harm. anybody relate in any way?

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princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,497 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I hear but work with many deaf patients. I've learned a small amount of signing and know my alphabet. This is something i really want to get better at. The Tennessee School for the Deaf offer courses to medical personal free. I'm mad at myself for not getting that done. For me, to communicate with a deaf patient is frustrating because i'm not fluent or even close. What has been so precious to me is that deaf people smile at those of us who try and have soooo much patience. Just for me to spell my name and explain i'm a nurse takes a lot of time. Speaking of time...it is time i get to those classes. Enough procrastination. BTW i just want to say that i think signing is beautiful and those among us who cannot hear, seem to have an inner intuition that is a plane above us hearing folks, and it cannot be matched. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Awesome thread! I have some hearing loss but do well. My daughter also. But I have been surrounded by the deaf community here in Utah mostly because the Godfather of my children has been tottally deaf all his life. He teaches me sign and I teach him to talk...smiles Anyways, just thought I would say hello and cool thread. __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

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tiaras-and-books Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: in a relationship with someone wonderful. :) Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Alaska Posts: 72 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 90 Thanked 213 Times in 48 Posts Rep Power: 2206307	I have a total crush on the woman who signs most of this. Last edited by tiaras-and-books; 02-24-2014 at 03:53 AM. Reason: Fixing the link

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girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,828 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	i am not deaf but i learned how to fingerspell when i was 12. i always wanted to work with non-hearing folks. i taught myself some sign in the last year but i would love to take a course at the college!

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DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Speech therapy... I can only remember one speech therapist I liked. I saw her a few years ago. I had 9+ years of it. I think the most valuable lesson for me in the class was to learn to hear by vibration.

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tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,984 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I also deal with hearing challenges. While I may hear sounds, I have a difficult time understanding what someone is actually saying; especially if the person has a deeper voice. I hear high tones fine, but lower, deeper tones either I don't hear at all or cannot make out words. I am notorious for asking people to repeat themselves, sometimes to where after I have asked them to repeat themselves numerous times down to one word not being understood, and then I end up repeating what I understood and then I request them to spell the word I am just not getting. People have been really good about it and if I see them get frustrated, I will then disclose my hearing impairment. It is very frustrating because even in the movie theater I lose a lot of what is being said. I think this is why I prefer action movies to dramas as action movies usually don't have a lot of talking. I too have done the smile and nod and not understood a word someone has said. I watch lips and am very keen on watching body language to help me. I have tried a hearing aid, but all it did was amplify background noise and holy crap.... forget when a siren goes off... I couldn't get the volume down fast enough. I try my best to work with it everyday, and some days are okay, but then there are days where I just get tired... tired of feeling like I am missing out on some things. (which i am in a sense) So hi to everyone.. And thanks nycfembbw for starting this thread.

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Electrocell Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: he/hy Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: TN Posts: 1,334 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,535 Thanked 2,768 Times in 981 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	So ABA is used for people with autism--- that's good to know. __________________ Love and accept me for me not someone you want me to be.

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DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Deaf. I have aids. If you look at me, we will get along. Obviously, use grammar and enunciate. Raise your voice at me like I'm stupid, we won't get along. I sign fluently. I use ASL and SEE. I speak. Oh yeah, I was born and raised in Texas. I ain't never been to Britain. It's the Texas mixed with the "deaf accent" as I call it. I keep getting asked. NYC has volunteered herself to rescue me at the reunion if needed. Not quite sure I told her that yet.... Teasing I speak grudgingly. If I panic, I forget my words and sign. I can't say anything unless I've seen it in sign in my head. Last thing, ya'll got to learn to give guys like me a second to process. I mean ya'll like entire world. Just because I heard your voice don't quite mean I know what you said... Yet.

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