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Old 03-02-2010, 10:29 AM   #1
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Would someone with some time to spare, who is better at interpreting what is an is no OK socially take a look at the PTSD thread and let me know if it is OK to have such a thread and if I am being unreasonable?

I don't want to have to have a secret password to get to discuss PTSD. I really am not hung up on secrecy, should I be?
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Would someone with some time to spare, who is better at interpreting what is an is no OK socially take a look at the PTSD thread and let me know if it is OK to have such a thread and if I am being unreasonable?

I don't want to have to have a secret password to get to discuss PTSD. I really am not hung up on secrecy, should I be?
Confidentiality is one of the key aspects of any support group—basically what is said in group, stays in group. I suppose having a password protected room for support group meetings prevents someone from blundering into a meeting.

A password is not needed to discuss PTSD issues in your thread, I think many folks have discovered that they are not alone in dealing with this issue, in their lives. I appreciate the presence of your thread here.
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Would someone with some time to spare, who is better at interpreting what is an is no OK socially take a look at the PTSD thread and let me know if it is OK to have such a thread and if I am being unreasonable?

I don't want to have to have a secret password to get to discuss PTSD. I really am not hung up on secrecy, should I be?
I'm not a better judge than you of what is or is not socially acceptable but I did have a few thoughts so I thought I would offer them.
Of course it is perfectly acceptable to have an open thread on PTSD where members can post whatever thoughts they have on the topic without editing themselves. If some would feel more comfortable in a discussion with clearly outlined rules of engagement where certain types of discussion which don't feel safe to them are forbidden, that sounds good too. There's always room for two threads. I wonder if it might be a good idea to have an area of the forum that is kind of the opposite of the "Red Zone" - like a "Safe Zone" for threads that are limited in the ways posters are to interact. Not that they would be heavily moderated by official moderators, but by members or the thread creator. Not sure how that would work but it's a thought.
I hope your need to share and have fellowship around what you want to discuss is respected.

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Confidentiality is one of the key aspects of any support group—basically what is said in group, stays in group. I suppose having a password protected room for support group meetings prevents someone from blundering into a meeting.

This is what I thought the purpose was of the password system for directed chat as well. Not exclusion. I suppose the mere existence of a password would suffice, not a secret one, since the act of entering a specific password to enter a specific chat discussion implies that one is acting purposefully.
A password is not needed to discuss PTSD issues in your thread, I think many folks have discovered that they are not alone in dealing with this issue, in their lives. I appreciate the presence of your thread here.
Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts, hope everyone dealing with PTSD or trauma is able to get their needs met and facilitate coping and healing.
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I guess for me secrets are what caused most of my problems and it is important to me to be able to share openly. I think telling our truth is important.

I certainly get the need to have therapy and AA type groups with facilitators and the promise of anonymity....for those who feel the need to keep things hidden. I have been though so much, I genuinely do not care any more.

I think having the closed PTSD group, when when you click it asks you for a password, but you can see who is in there seems exclusive and hurtful to those who have not rated an invitation to said PTSD group, which I think would be further triggering.

I want people to blunder in and feel free to say or not say what they want to.

I am just saying NO to secrets.
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Now that is one of my issues...the secrecy issue is a main issue of PTSD. So, how do we do this?
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I wonder sometimes if I were neurotypical I would see things the same way and the same things would seem blaringly obvious.

I have a difficult time with what feelings are and how they differ from thoughts.


Cyclopea, I really like the idea of a Safe Zone as long as everyone is welcome. Then, people who might be triggered by certain types of discussions could just avoid the Safe Zone?
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