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When things started to go bad, it wasn't because of the ways we ID, though I've wondered if a little b/f dynamic might not have helped us through some of the hard times. ***************** Lately I've realized that one thing I love about women who ID as butch is their sense of humor about their differences from femmes or more feminine women. Also, they see what is femme in me, in a more positive light than a non-butch woman would. Just talking about my own experience, of course. It sounds like your experience, ArkansasPiscesGrrl, has been really positive. |
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Lately I've realized that one thing I love about women who ID as butch is their sense of humor about their differences from femmes or more feminine women. Also, they see what is femme in me, in a more positive light than a non-butch woman would. Scout, I've been thinking about this since you wrote it. I've realized more recently in my life that while I am eternally attracted to feminine women, it's really the femme ID'd woman who understands me as Butch in a way that the non-Femme (but feminine women) do not. A woman the who really "owns" her Femme title, is the one to really "own" me....;-) (see what I did there? lol--I tried to pull that off with a straight face but no....*smirking*) |
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Dear Little Fish, Thanks for that glimpse of how your mind works ![]() Clearly, I have much to learn about the butch sense of humor—thankfully, though, I am a quick study, or so I've been told. Sincerely, Scout |
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i'm new to the planet. hope nobody minds if i drop in here.
i've read a good bit of back and forth on self love and acceptance, on body concerns, and public response to the way many of us masculine/butch types appear. i don't have any wisdom to impart on any of these topics. i can only share my experience. for me, accepting my body has been a thing that i've had to do more than once. as i age, my body changes, and my feelings about it change. as i age, and my perspective changes, my feelings about my place in the world change. and, honestly, as i age, the public (in general) seems a little more accepting (or, maybe i'm getting better at ignoring them ![]() at the end of the day, i'm glad i'm gay. i'm glad i'm butch. i feel fortunate to live in a time and place when/where its a helluva lot easier to be all of these things than it was pre-stonewall. i try to focus on the up sides....makes all of life a little bit sweeter. cheers! mr. m
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for me, accepting my body has been a thing that i've had to do more than once. as i age, my body changes, and my feelings about it change. as i age, and my perspective changes, my feelings about my place in the world change. and, honestly, as i age, the public (in general) seems a little more accepting (or, maybe i'm getting better at ignoring them ![]() Dear Mr. M, You bring up an interesting point, which is, how does aging affect the culture's level of acceptance of people, like butches, who present in ways that are not hetero-normative? I wonder if you are on to something; if there is indeed more acceptance of butches once they reach a certain age. I think it might be the opposite for femmes—we become more invisible, and are devalued because of our age. Anyway, thanks for putting your thoughts out there. Welcome to the Planet! Scout |
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thers nothing invisable about a confident aging butch w. grey o r slightly greying hair .. makes this femme swoon
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I wonder who's thoughts on image some us worry about. Is it our own or what we want others to think of us. I'm a light butch and as I said before. For the most of my life I have only been picked out of a crowd by someone who is LGBT and very seldom by a straight person. The image I have of myself is I am who I am, the lovers/girlfriends/partners I have have had never questioned my image (or if they did they never told me) and I it has never been requested by anyone I have been with to look or act a certain way. It has always bothered me that society has such a stronghold on what a girl or boy should act or look like. Screw society and their hegemonic attitudes.
We own our lives and we have the right to dress as we want, cut our hair as we want, present ourselves as we want without being ridiculed. Admiration to those of you who live outside the box and fight for the rights to be who you are without conceding to societies definitions.
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