What have you learned?

chefhmboyrd · 06-06-2012, 08:21 PM

as soon as you say that you are going to be celibate,

comes flying at you from every direction.............

if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, and looks like a duck... She's a whore

as soon as you say you want to diet, a new flavor of ben and jerry's comes out

just when you think you have all the bills paid, something comes up

as soon as you swear off blonde blue-eyed scorpio yankee women, one steals your heart................

MrSunshine · 06-06-2012, 08:25 PM

There is a good reason why we don't begin life with the knowledge we gain along the way.

Breezy · 06-06-2012, 08:41 PM

Each day is special and best lived well rather than avoided.

I enjoy long hugs and lingering kisses.

Deep, intimate conversations are the best.

When I realized I had awakened spiritually I found I was avoiding conflict and negativity at all cost. I had to learn there is a big difference between those and the grief process and simply feeling. I thought I had to be above negative emotions. Who'dathunk it. lol. I am glad I figured it out.

I can feel my emotions and either let them over take me or I can process them and let it go.

"Good girls" DO get angry, they cry, they need, they deserve and they can desire. It was lie I was taught as a child that it was not okay.

I like who I am.

kittygrrl · 06-06-2012, 08:49 PM

it's the journey i treasure (most), the destination is empty w/o it

Okiebug61 · 06-06-2012, 10:11 PM

I have learned that if anyone attempts to keep you from a hug, they need to rethink who they are as an individual. We all need to be touched and a hug is gate wood to peace.

ruffryder · 06-07-2012, 08:31 AM

It takes a mutual listening, understanding, and action in any relationship for it to work.

Broken hearts do heal.

The heart has its reasons that reason does not understand.

Do not always trust in and believe what others have to say about someone.

It's best to stay out of the gossip and drama at work.

If someone will talk to you about others, more than likely they will talk to others about you.

morningstar55 · 06-12-2012, 06:15 PM

i have learned over the years , how some people treat there animals , abuse /neglect and more........ but today after seeing this poor horse that was rescued with a basket size gapping hole in its neck..you could see thru the other side!!!
i cant believe it was stil alive..walking around and such.. but so so under stress, just brought me to tears.
i think ....... people should have a license to own any kind of pet, and should have a back ground check.

Ginger · 07-31-2012, 11:32 AM

You know when you're getting your eyes checked and the optometrist switches the lenses back and forth and over and again, and your view of the letter chart snaps from fuzzy to crisp to fuzzy to crisp and so on?

I've learned that when I'm depressed or in a bad place emotionally, I constantly make the wrong call. That one! I'll say to the optometrist, when it should be, Let me see the other one again.

I've learned everyone does this and being aware of doing it makes it suddenly stop.

RockOn · 06-07-2012, 02:43 PM

JustJo, I appreciate your encouraging words. Thank you.

I think I was a little down after work yesterday when I went out and examined those no-bloom callas and decided I had failed.

Bet you are right and I will get lots of calla blooms to share around town by late summer. They are taking longer than I expected is all.

BoiJen · 06-08-2012, 07:36 AM

Time heals and we may remember how we got those scars, but in the end, someone with a conscience feels it at some point.
I have had 2 people who hurt me come back into my life knowing i would accept them back because i hold no hate, and eventually it comes full circle. Cautiously I walk.

Metro · 06-08-2012, 07:45 AM

My late Mother taught me the valuable life lesson when I was no more than 7 or 8 years old...

While at the hearing aid service (to fit my eldest brother with hearing aids) I was given a set of ear phones to wear that dampened sound -- closely replicating what hearing loss was like for my brother.

To this day I recall that experience to remind myself that unless I am in another person's shoes I have no clue what they may be going through at any given moment.

06-06-2012, 08:21 PM	#1
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,846 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14271905	what i have learned...... as soon as you say that you are going to be celibate, comes flying at you from every direction............. if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, and looks like a duck... She's a whore as soon as you say you want to diet, a new flavor of ben and jerry's comes out just when you think you have all the bills paid, something comes up as soon as you swear off blonde blue-eyed scorpio yankee women, one steals your heart................ __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

06-06-2012, 08:49 PM	#4
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Uranus will retrograde in Gemini Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,632 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,701 Thanked 22,134 Times in 7,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've (often) learned... it's the journey i treasure (most), the destination is empty w/o it __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

06-06-2012, 10:11 PM	#5
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have learned that if anyone attempts to keep you from a hug, they need to rethink who they are as an individual. We all need to be touched and a hug is gate wood to peace. __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

06-12-2012, 06:15 PM	#7
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	i have learned over the years , how some people treat there animals , abuse /neglect and more........ but today after seeing this poor horse that was rescued with a basket size gapping hole in its neck..you could see thru the other side!!! i cant believe it was stil alive..walking around and such.. but so so under stress, just brought me to tears. i think ....... people should have a license to own any kind of pet, and should have a back ground check. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

06-07-2012, 02:43 PM	#9
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	response to JustJo JustJo, I appreciate your encouraging words. Thank you. I think I was a little down after work yesterday when I went out and examined those no-bloom callas and decided I had failed. Bet you are right and I will get lots of calla blooms to share around town by late summer. They are taking longer than I expected is all.

06-06-2012, 08:25 PM	#2
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	There is a good reason why we don't begin life with the knowledge we gain along the way.

06-06-2012, 08:41 PM	#3
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Each day is special and best lived well rather than avoided. I enjoy long hugs and lingering kisses. Deep, intimate conversations are the best. When I realized I had awakened spiritually I found I was avoiding conflict and negativity at all cost. I had to learn there is a big difference between those and the grief process and simply feeling. I thought I had to be above negative emotions. Who'dathunk it. lol. I am glad I figured it out. I can feel my emotions and either let them over take me or I can process them and let it go. "Good girls" DO get angry, they cry, they need, they deserve and they can desire. It was lie I was taught as a child that it was not okay. I like who I am.

06-07-2012, 08:31 AM	#6
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,679 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	It takes a mutual listening, understanding, and action in any relationship for it to work. Broken hearts do heal. The heart has its reasons that reason does not understand. Do not always trust in and believe what others have to say about someone. It's best to stay out of the gossip and drama at work. If someone will talk to you about others, more than likely they will talk to others about you.

07-31-2012, 11:32 AM	#8
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	You know when you're getting your eyes checked and the optometrist switches the lenses back and forth and over and again, and your view of the letter chart snaps from fuzzy to crisp to fuzzy to crisp and so on? I've learned that when I'm depressed or in a bad place emotionally, I constantly make the wrong call. That one! I'll say to the optometrist, when it should be, Let me see the other one again. I've learned everyone does this and being aware of doing it makes it suddenly stop.

06-08-2012, 07:36 AM	#10
BoiJen Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Relationship Status: happy to find inner peace Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Motor City Posts: 65 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13 Thanked 120 Times in 46 Posts Rep Power: 214766	Time heals and we may remember how we got those scars, but in the end, someone with a conscience feels it at some point. I have had 2 people who hurt me come back into my life knowing i would accept them back because i hold no hate, and eventually it comes full circle. Cautiously I walk. __________________ *BoiJen* The past is our definition. We may strive with good reason to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it. -Wendell Barry

06-08-2012, 07:45 AM	#11
Metro Senior Member How Do You Identify?: • Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: • Posts: 1,606 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,476 Thanked 2,911 Times in 730 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	My late Mother taught me the valuable life lesson when I was no more than 7 or 8 years old... While at the hearing aid service (to fit my eldest brother with hearing aids) I was given a set of ear phones to wear that dampened sound -- closely replicating what hearing loss was like for my brother. To this day I recall that experience to remind myself that unless I am in another person's shoes I have no clue what they may be going through at any given moment.