Important things I learned from past relationships

ruby_woo · 06-10-2012, 03:26 PM

Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.

Julien · 06-10-2012, 03:40 PM

Learn to forgive, not to forget because you don't want someone else to do the same things to you that hurt you before. Forgive that person who hurt you every time you think of them in negative ways. Think of the anger that is behind the negativity and reconcile the ending of the relationship with your emotions. Why? Because we are better than that and we do not want to become bitter over the past relationship, it will only hurt the new relationship.

Loyalty, honesty, integrity are the things I value in myself. I must look for someone with the same values in order to have a solid relationship.

~ocean · 06-10-2012, 03:52 PM

acceptance leaves room for forgiveness.

laruss · 06-10-2012, 09:21 PM

I have learned that you get what you give and you are the one who teaches people how to treat you. Relationships are give and take and all about open, honest communication.

Leigh · 06-10-2012, 10:22 PM

I've learned that we make mistakes, shit happens, no one is perfect but if you work together as a couple then you can do anything

Kenna · 06-10-2012, 10:32 PM

Giving away the key to the vulnerable part of me that I hide from all others may not be received as the gift it is... but may be the mistake that leaves an empty spot forever void.

sara-bera · 06-10-2012, 10:35 PM

Being happy is so much nicer than being right.
When I'm in the passenger seat, I need to let the driver do the driving.
Always apologize for hurt feelings even if I didn't intend harm.

Dude · 06-26-2012, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by ruby_woo

Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.

I love that you said this.
I have two sisters in long term marriages and I have to say I never
want a long term relationship of mine to resemble what they have.
They are both completely dependant on their husbands for everything.
The only thing they do "without" their husbands is go to work
or the store.
No outside friends , no outside activities ever feels so smothering to me.
A car ride to visit me "alone" (45 min drive) is way too scarey for either of them to even consider, let alone attempt.

It's like they have had their sense of adventure completely sucked out
of them. I really dont get it.

Ebon · 06-26-2012, 01:18 PM

Like Sachita said I've learned a lot and know more about what I don't want.

GreeneyedMe · 06-26-2012, 02:08 PM

I have learned NOT to trust the words I Love You. Don't SAY it, SHOW me.

~ocean · 06-26-2012, 03:11 PM

theres the upside of all this as well, u learn form what u liked and still do , u now know urself..better

~~ the great memories that u want and should hold on too !~~ funny thing about life ~ it;s for living

~~

Mike · 06-26-2012, 03:26 PM

when its over, its over move on

girl_dee · 06-27-2012, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Mike

when its over, its over move on

Exactly.....

femmedyke · 06-27-2012, 08:55 PM

Might sound silly but my past relationships taught me how to love; both myself and another. Deep thoughts for a girl under the covers with her kindle

06-10-2012, 03:40 PM	#2
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Learn to forgive, not to forget because you don't want someone else to do the same things to you that hurt you before. Forgive that person who hurt you every time you think of them in negative ways. Think of the anger that is behind the negativity and reconcile the ending of the relationship with your emotions. Why? Because we are better than that and we do not want to become bitter over the past relationship, it will only hurt the new relationship. Loyalty, honesty, integrity are the things I value in myself. I must look for someone with the same values in order to have a solid relationship. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

06-10-2012, 09:21 PM	#4
laruss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She or Goddess Relationship Status: Settled in Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 1,322 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,849 Thanked 5,329 Times in 1,045 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I have learned that you get what you give and you are the one who teaches people how to treat you. Relationships are give and take and all about open, honest communication. __________________ Creativity is a drug I can't do without. -Cecil B. DeMille

06-10-2012, 10:22 PM	#5
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I've learned that we make mistakes, shit happens, no one is perfect but if you work together as a couple then you can do anything __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

06-26-2012, 01:18 PM	#9
Ebon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my souls eyes. Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: lol Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Here Posts: 3,476 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,524 Thanked 11,142 Times in 2,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Like Sachita said I've learned a lot and know more about what I don't want. __________________ In Lak'ech Ala K'in I'm a Soul Rebel http://wannabereverend.wordpress.com/ Spirituality is not a belief system or ideology, it is the surrender of one's ego to the infinite wisdom and knowledge that is the universe.

06-26-2012, 02:08 PM	#10
GreeneyedMe Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Sweet Femme ones Relationship Status: Peeking around the corner... Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 874 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,380 Thanked 4,375 Times in 804 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I have learned NOT to trust the words I Love You. Don't SAY it, SHOW me. __________________ "I do not exist to impress the world. I exist to live my life in a way that will make me happy." ~Richard Bach

06-10-2012, 03:26 PM	#1
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,939 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615392	Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.

06-10-2012, 03:52 PM	#3
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,018 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	acceptance leaves room for forgiveness.

06-10-2012, 10:32 PM	#6
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,193 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Giving away the key to the vulnerable part of me that I hide from all others may not be received as the gift it is... but may be the mistake that leaves an empty spot forever void.

06-10-2012, 10:35 PM	#7
sara-bera Member How Do You Identify?: female Join Date: May 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,161 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,687 Thanked 2,858 Times in 739 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Being happy is so much nicer than being right. When I'm in the passenger seat, I need to let the driver do the driving. Always apologize for hurt feelings even if I didn't intend harm.

06-26-2012, 03:11 PM	#11
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,018 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	theres the upside of all this as well, u learn form what u liked and still do , u now know urself..better ~~ the great memories that u want and should hold on too !~~ funny thing about life ~ it;s for living ~~

06-26-2012, 03:26 PM	#12
Mike In Loving Memory and Many Thanks Relationship Status: connected, emotionally and physically Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,188 Thanked 2,454 Times in 416 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	when its over, its over move on __________________ Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. Harvey Fierstein

06-27-2012, 08:55 PM	#14
femmedyke Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: mostly in my head Posts: 396 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 638 Thanked 957 Times in 198 Posts Rep Power: 8571021	Might sound silly but my past relationships taught me how to love; both myself and another. Deep thoughts for a girl under the covers with her kindle __________________ “purple does something strange to me” -charles bukowski