Important things I learned from past relationships

amiyesiam · 06-10-2012, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

To be really loved, I have to give her everything I am, holding back hurts not only her but myself as well.
It hurts much less to give everything than to give not enough and lose it all anyway.
That that piece of me I hold may be the piece she needs me to give.
That if I have done everything I can, then I will have no regrets.
Life is worth the giving, because living without her is not acceptable.

It is about being who you are. There is something freeing about showing another who you really are (something you can not always do in life) and being accepted just as you are.

yotlyolqualli · 06-11-2012, 01:37 AM

I've learned

...to never give my all to someone who only gives part of themself.
...to learn that the most important relationship I can have with a human being, is the one I have with myself.
...to let go and let God.
...that sometimes my all is not enough.
...that love, not returned, will slowly fade and die.
...that if I have to change who I am, in order to please the one I love, then I am not loving the right one.
...that if the person I love has to change herself to please me, then I am with the wrong one and so is she.
...that if I have to "tiptoe" through life in order to "not rock the boat" I am paddling a sinking canoe.
...that words can be empty and actions speak louder than words.
...that my lie detector is broke.
...that no one can make me happy besides myself and happiness is often fleeting.
...that giving your all to someone who only knows how to take, will drain you dry.

Finally, I've learned that each and every person who touches my life, no matter good or bad, changes who I am and influences who I will become. We never stop learning, never stop growing and there is always room for improvement. I am learning to always remember that I am worthy to be loved as deeply and as intensely as I love. I will never again, settle for anything less.

Girl Friday · 06-12-2012, 02:19 PM

I've learned that I'm still in love no matter what. No amount of hurt or betrayal can take it away. And that sometimes, no matter how hard you think you're trying, nothing you do will matter if you're not communicating.

thedivahrrrself · 06-12-2012, 02:30 PM

I've learned that RuPaul is right, you really do have to love yourself first.

Apocalipstic · 06-12-2012, 02:47 PM

I've learned that just because something looks good on paper, does not mean it will work in real life.

Kind of like Communism.

Bella~Vita · 06-12-2012, 02:48 PM

Not to get into one !

T D · 06-12-2012, 03:02 PM

The list is MUCH too long to even begin

Tommi · 06-12-2012, 03:03 PM

No matter how long ago, no matter how far apart, no matter how big the divide, there is something to be said about being kind to one another then and now.

Well, almost always.

06-11-2012, 01:37 AM	#2
yotlyolqualli Member How Do You Identify?: submissive femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: moving forward and not looking back... anything is possible! Join Date: May 2012 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 242 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,206 Thanked 1,272 Times in 184 Posts Rep Power: 21357560	I've learned ...to never give my all to someone who only gives part of themself. ...to learn that the most important relationship I can have with a human being, is the one I have with myself. ...to let go and let God. ...that sometimes my all is not enough. ...that love, not returned, will slowly fade and die. ...that if I have to change who I am, in order to please the one I love, then I am not loving the right one. ...that if the person I love has to change herself to please me, then I am with the wrong one and so is she. ...that if I have to "tiptoe" through life in order to "not rock the boat" I am paddling a sinking canoe. ...that words can be empty and actions speak louder than words. ...that my lie detector is broke. ...that no one can make me happy besides myself and happiness is often fleeting. ...that giving your all to someone who only knows how to take, will drain you dry. Finally, I've learned that each and every person who touches my life, no matter good or bad, changes who I am and influences who I will become. We never stop learning, never stop growing and there is always room for improvement. I am learning to always remember that I am worthy to be loved as deeply and as intensely as I love. I will never again, settle for anything less. __________________ ~Love is a verb~

06-12-2012, 02:30 PM	#4
thedivahrrrself Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Sapiosexual Femme Relationship Status: Mrs. Grumpy Cat Tournaments Won: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: 8,660 feet high in the Andes Posts: 2,640 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,519 Thanked 11,657 Times in 2,292 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've learned that RuPaul is right, you really do have to love yourself first. __________________ Small business owners around the world use microfinance to help expand their businesses and provide for their families. You can help! Click here to learn about Kiva.

06-12-2012, 02:47 PM	#5
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I've learned that just because something looks good on paper, does not mean it will work in real life. Kind of like Communism. __________________

06-12-2012, 02:48 PM	#6
Bella~Vita Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where salt is used for Margaritas not Snow Posts: 891 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,049 Thanked 1,322 Times in 443 Posts Rep Power: 7157596	Not to get into one ! __________________ ~ I believe that pleasing everyone is impossible..... but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake ~

06-12-2012, 03:02 PM	#7
T D Member How Do You Identify?: Person of the trans variety Preferred Pronoun?: He, Sir, Bro, TD, Stevin Relationship Status: On occasion Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 1,165 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,428 Thanked 1,125 Times in 311 Posts Rep Power: 3570339	The list is MUCH too long to even begin __________________ “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

06-12-2012, 02:19 PM	#3
Girl Friday Member How Do You Identify?: Maryanne (with a little bit of The Professor and some Ginger thrown in) Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Uncharted desert isle Posts: 227 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 766 Thanked 775 Times in 140 Posts Rep Power: 8696405	I've learned that I'm still in love no matter what. No amount of hurt or betrayal can take it away. And that sometimes, no matter how hard you think you're trying, nothing you do will matter if you're not communicating.

06-12-2012, 03:03 PM	#8
Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,337 Times in 5,970 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	No matter how long ago, no matter how far apart, no matter how big the divide, there is something to be said about being kind to one another then and now. Well, almost always.