I am so QUEER!

Femminator · 06-13-2012, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by TickledPink

Present.

I so love this!

pajama · 06-13-2012, 06:38 PM

For me, coming around to claiming queer took a while, I only solidly claimed it about a couple of years ago.

For years I would see the definition that Stacy posted and think "yeah that's alot of me". But Queer always carried a social stigma where I come from - the South. It always seemed like saying the N word or F*g word. Derrogatory somehow.

But as my journey progressed, I am so diverse in my sexuality and presentation that no other labels truely fit me. I am bi-sexual, except I haven't been with a bio-male in over 17 years. But I didn't feel claiming Lesbian was proper, seemed misleading some. I present rather butch, but sexually am way more feminine. So I never felt quite right identifying as Butch, because I felt there were expectations that went along with that. (I am also evolving and learning that there are all kinds of butch.) I am attracted to all kinds and don't limit myself, so identifying as the opposite of what I prefer to date didn't work either.

Then a couple of years ago, I dated Dixie and she identified as Queer. She's very unique in many, many ways and I liked the way she embraced it. So I thought, "I can do this too." So there you go.....I'm QUEER. Get to know me and you will learn all my diversities.

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agape · 07-17-2013, 12:39 AM

Queer here as well
Att first I really didn't want to call myself that but in the end I had to give up...

my gender identity is too complicated to explain in other terms...

my sexual orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms...

my romantic orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms...

etc...

But above all, I got tired having to defend my identity to ppl all the time. I felt that all other identities I had to somehow "prove" more of less and since I couldn't do that, I found that frustrating.

But the term queer is harder to question. Why wouldn't I be queer?

I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying?

07-17-2013, 12:39 AM	#3
agape Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: don't care Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: earth Posts: 375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,537 Thanked 671 Times in 203 Posts Rep Power: 9378959	Queer here as well Att first I really didn't want to call myself that but in the end I had to give up... my gender identity is too complicated to explain in other terms... my sexual orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms... my romantic orientation is too complicated to explain in other terms... etc... But above all, I got tired having to defend my identity to ppl all the time. I felt that all other identities I had to somehow "prove" more of less and since I couldn't do that, I found that frustrating. But the term queer is harder to question. Why wouldn't I be queer? I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying? __________________ "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." Martin Luther King, Jr.

06-13-2012, 06:38 PM	#2
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	For me, coming around to claiming queer took a while, I only solidly claimed it about a couple of years ago. For years I would see the definition that Stacy posted and think "yeah that's alot of me". But Queer always carried a social stigma where I come from - the South. It always seemed like saying the N word or F*g word. Derrogatory somehow. But as my journey progressed, I am so diverse in my sexuality and presentation that no other labels truely fit me. I am bi-sexual, except I haven't been with a bio-male in over 17 years. But I didn't feel claiming Lesbian was proper, seemed misleading some. I present rather butch, but sexually am way more feminine. So I never felt quite right identifying as Butch, because I felt there were expectations that went along with that. (I am also evolving and learning that there are all kinds of butch.) I am attracted to all kinds and don't limit myself, so identifying as the opposite of what I prefer to date didn't work either. Then a couple of years ago, I dated Dixie and she identified as Queer. She's very unique in many, many ways and I liked the way she embraced it. So I thought, "I can do this too." So there you go.....I'm QUEER. Get to know me and you will learn all my diversities. A