Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[sugarnspice]

I love reading these, i love being a member of such a beautiful and diverse group of people that always succeed in awing and inspiring me to be myself.

I am a femme inspired by other femmes <3

[rustedrims]

Thank you to all the femmes who posted.I read through them all.Very impressed with all the personalities,likes and dislikes.Putting it out there and this is why i love being in The Planet.

Ok now i read something about cookies.??
Where can i pick them up.??


Again,Thank you very much Ladies.



s.

[Nomad]

today i'm the kind of femme who has clutch problems. sometimes i hate cars.

[Lady_Di]

Originally Posted by rustedrims

Thank you to all the femmes who posted.I read through them all.Very impressed with all the personalities,likes and dislikes.Putting it out there and this is why i love being in The Planet.

Ok now i read something about cookies.??
Where can i pick them up.??


Again,Thank you very much Ladies.



s.

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

[nycfem]

Snickerdoodles please

Originally Posted by Lady_Di

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

[rustedrims]

Originally Posted by nycfembbw

Snickerdoodles please

and snickerdoodles as a chaser
please and thank you

[aishah]

i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.

i am a femme shark. i am a mixed indigenous queer crip (disabled) femme. i am passionate about decolonizing femme and claiming femininity as a way of liberating myself so that i can work to transform my community. i celebrate queer disabled fat indigenous femme hotness. i break down normative desirability with my body and my breath.

i am a polyamorous femme with a huge heart. i am kind, loving, and warm to just about everyone i meet. i am the one people rely on for a ready smile and a hug. it is easy for me to love people, and i love hard. when i love you i love you to wholeness.

don't mistake my kindness for weakness. i am strong. physically i might not look like much but fuck with people i love and me and my tiny, ineffectual fists will fuck you up. i am dangerous precisely because i have survived so much and i am not afraid to die.

sometimes i am afraid to live, though. i live with ptsd and anxiety that sometimes scares me into silence and inaction. i do my best to have the courage to move forward with my life anyway.

i talk a lot of shit but i'm a femme teddy bear at heart.

i'm an empathic femme. i am hypersensitive to the needs and energies of people around me, and because of this and trauma, i am very conflict avoidant. sometimes it's a curse. sometimes it's a blessing - i would rather communicate through difficulty and change whatever is causing a problem than fight about it.

in my community i am a femme who holds shit down, hooks shit up, and makes shit happen. i dream transformation into being, bring people together, and make possible what people believed was impossible, one moment at a time. i can hold many sometimes contradicting visions at once. i am an educator and a facilitator.

i am a deeply religious and deeply spiritual femme. to me they are intertwined, as are my faith and my social justice work. together they form the reason i get up in the morning (or afternoon, depending on the day).

i am a stone femme. i am a sex worker. stone for me means that my work gives me emotional boundaries around sex...sometimes physical ones, too, depending on the situation. being stone is what allows my empathic, overly expressive femme self to work effectively. it is the only area of my life in which i compartmentalize.

i'm a baby girl and a submissive femme who loves to strap it on and top from time to time. i'm kinky as hell in bed but there's a special place in my heart for sweet vanilla sex. and i consider blow jobs an art form.

i am a sister and an auntie. i cannot be anyone's biological mother but in my community "ma" or "mama" is a term of respect and endearment and it means so much when people call me that. i am an orphan.

i'm a pajama femme. i am the sexiest jeans and t-shirt femme you'll ever meet. this is out of necessity for survival, but i'm beginning to embrace it, even if it makes me feel like an ugly duckling femme sometimes.

i am a homeless, rootless, and family-less femme who is creating home, community, and family for myself. i value what i know of where i come from and i trust that i am whole despite the gaps in my memory and history.

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by aishah

i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.

i am a femme shark. i am a mixed indigenous queer crip (disabled) femme. i am passionate about decolonizing femme and claiming femininity as a way of liberating myself so that i can work to transform my community. i celebrate queer disabled fat indigenous femme hotness. i break down normative desirability with my body and my breath.

i am a polyamorous femme with a huge heart. i am kind, loving, and warm to just about everyone i meet. i am the one people rely on for a ready smile and a hug. it is easy for me to love people, and i love hard. when i love you i love you to wholeness.

don't mistake my kindness for weakness. i am strong. physically i might not look like much but fuck with people i love and me and my tiny, ineffectual fists will fuck you up. i am dangerous precisely because i have survived so much and i am not afraid to die.

sometimes i am afraid to live, though. i live with ptsd and anxiety that sometimes scares me into silence and inaction. i do my best to have the courage to move forward with my life anyway.

i talk a lot of shit but i'm a femme teddy bear at heart.

i'm an empathic femme. i am hypersensitive to the needs and energies of people around me, and because of this and trauma, i am very conflict avoidant. sometimes it's a curse. sometimes it's a blessing - i would rather communicate through difficulty and change whatever is causing a problem than fight about it.

in my community i am a femme who holds shit down, hooks shit up, and makes shit happen. i dream transformation into being, bring people together, and make possible what people believed was impossible, one moment at a time. i can hold many sometimes contradicting visions at once. i am an educator and a facilitator.

i am a deeply religious and deeply spiritual femme. to me they are intertwined, as are my faith and my social justice work. together they form the reason i get up in the morning (or afternoon, depending on the day).

i am a stone femme. i am a sex worker. stone for me means that my work gives me emotional boundaries around sex...sometimes physical ones, too, depending on the situation. being stone is what allows my empathic, overly expressive femme self to work effectively. it is the only area of my life in which i compartmentalize.

i'm a baby girl and a submissive femme who loves to strap it on and top from time to time. i'm kinky as hell in bed but there's a special place in my heart for sweet vanilla sex. and i consider blow jobs an art form.

i am a sister and an auntie. i cannot be anyone's biological mother but in my community "ma" or "mama" is a term of respect and endearment and it means so much when people call me that. i am an orphan.

i'm a pajama femme. i am the sexiest jeans and t-shirt femme you'll ever meet. this is out of necessity for survival, but i'm beginning to embrace it, even if it makes me feel like an ugly duckling femme sometimes.

i am a homeless, rootless, and family-less femme who is creating home, community, and family for myself. i value what i know of where i come from and i trust that i am whole despite the gaps in my memory and history.

Dear Aisha,

I first read your post on my phone, and froze while I carefully scrolled down to the end. Each piece on the little screen carried so much impact, I couldn't believe there was more like it, just further down, and then more again and again.

Your sense of self and conviction and honesty lift right up off the page and quietly take their rightful place in any world they enter. So now they're in mine.

I'd love to hear more about any of the things you mention; your family history, your sex work and your work in social justice, your polyamorous relationship, your community work, your strategies to deal with your struggles, anything you want to talk about.

There are places all over the threads for you, and I will keep an eye out for you now.

Take care of yourself (I know you do!),
With affection and respect,

Scout

[Bleu]

[QUOTE=aishah;610930]i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.
QUOTE]

Dear Aisha,
Like you I am moved by this thread and I too am terified to post here. Also, we have the inability to bear children in common and that, plus so much else you revealed endeared me to you. I am greateful for your strength and I harness it now to find courage. I will stand by your side and make my femmeness known. Here goes...

Femme I Am

I will begin by stating that I am a femme who loves butches, all kinds of butches from one end of the butch spectrum to the other. I admire them all from ultra-soft butches who live on the parenthetic smudge of the eye-liner lined femme realm to FtM trans guys who have punched their fists though societal confines and gone under blades to transform into who they are. I am wholly and completely a lover of all things butch. I am unashamed to walk in public, arm-in-arm with a butch. I am unashamed of my pure delight in their strength and wide-lensed, earthy wisdom. I love the tales their eyes tell. I love their pheromone-filled smell. I love their broad, solid presence. But, when I consider the femme I am, I am not just considering myself in relation to my butch counterparts. I am not just considering my desires, I am not just thinking about sexuality, I am not just pondering play, romance, sex, fucking or even love. Certainly physicality is a part of it and the social aspects of who I am are an integral part of what makes me…me. That thick layer, while creamy, rich and exciting, is just that: a layer. It is not the whole of the femme I am.

When I consider the femme I am, I take into account the many threads of me that have woven the fabric of my being with a tensile strength beyond my wildest dreams. To weave that fabric for you here, I would have to include my spirituality, my sense of right and wrong, my belief in freedom and rights, my ethics, my fiercely protective maternal instinct, my pride, my trepidations and the pieced-together heart that beats strongly in my chest, despite many years of crazing.

I was completely unable to bear children, yet there is an immense maternal instinct that forever burns within me and has molded a framework that houses all the parts of me. That framework is what I reflect my whole person through. The person who I strongly believe God intended me to be, who placed me on this earth to work through me. I am not a perfect person, but I cannot help but be exactly who I am. I am that which is perfect for my place in this world. And, I would pose: who is anyone to question that perfect authority that placed me here? Or that placed any one of us here…and whether or not you agree with my beliefs - that is not my point. My point is what I find helps me be exactly the femme I am is that I must take time to examine, to grow, to seek, to trust, and find community that can only help me in those endeavors of examining, growing seeking and trusting.

I hesitated for a moment in sharing this next story, but I felt it was a clear example of the wisdom BfP community has to offer me in so short a time. And, I hope, I it. I was recently in a conversation where I laughed at something someone said. This person is of our culture. I laughed out of joy as he revealed an intimacy to me that was tender in nature. As you may imagine my laughter hurt his feelings. I was mortified. I immediately apologized and explained that my laughter and lightness about that which he had said were due to the brilliance of what he said. And, my joy was not just so much about what he’d said but how he revealed it to me. I viewed what he had confided as a beautiful and sweet detail of his soul and psyche that I felt would make not only a wonderful piece to write about but a wonderful piece to share with others as a tool of cultural commonality. But, even if he never wanted to share what he had shared with me, with anyone else, I could not help my joy and laughter as my heart rejoiced in how similar his comments had, in my eyes, revealed us to be. I was elated that I found someone with whom I could relate on such a complex and deeply-felt topic. I tell this story, not because I am proud of what happened, but that I learned a little more about compassion through him. I was pure in intention but intention is not always what necessarily matters. In this culture of ours, I learn a great deal each and every day with each and every interaction I have.

I cannot begin to describe how much I rejoice in reading this Planet’s inhabitants’ stories and experiences, especially when something similar has happened to me. Even when the precise situation or experience was not exact to something I have experienced, I often find it easy to relate to because of our common culture, circumstance or the worldly reaction so many of us have to cope with.

Because I am continually growing and learning, with each passing moment of each day, I may not be able to wrestle down the kind of femme I am. Certainly not as eloquently as the glowing souls on this thread have, but there are a few things I do know: I am here. I am femme. And, all the messy details that led me to be the femme I am today are simply experiences and circumstances that are most likely not wholly unlike yours, you…who are reading this.

To all my beautiful, strong, sweet femme sisters, I read about you, your souls shine though your experiences. I find your tales delicious with an unmistakable kindred flavor. I am happy to taste and devour them every day. Through this connection, albeit via an enormous intangible technology, I rejoice in it and therefore you live in me. And I hope that somehow I too live in you. If I know nothing else, I know that I am femme.

Femme I am.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by aishah

i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.

i am a femme shark. i am a mixed indigenous queer crip (disabled) femme. i am passionate about decolonizing femme and claiming femininity as a way of liberating myself so that i can work to transform my community. i celebrate queer disabled fat indigenous femme hotness. i break down normative desirability with my body and my breath.

i am a polyamorous femme with a huge heart. i am kind, loving, and warm to just about everyone i meet. i am the one people rely on for a ready smile and a hug. it is easy for me to love people, and i love hard. when i love you i love you to wholeness.

don't mistake my kindness for weakness. i am strong. physically i might not look like much but fuck with people i love and me and my tiny, ineffectual fists will fuck you up. i am dangerous precisely because i have survived so much and i am not afraid to die.

sometimes i am afraid to live, though. i live with ptsd and anxiety that sometimes scares me into silence and inaction. i do my best to have the courage to move forward with my life anyway.

i talk a lot of shit but i'm a femme teddy bear at heart.

i'm an empathic femme. i am hypersensitive to the needs and energies of people around me, and because of this and trauma, i am very conflict avoidant. sometimes it's a curse. sometimes it's a blessing - i would rather communicate through difficulty and change whatever is causing a problem than fight about it.

in my community i am a femme who holds shit down, hooks shit up, and makes shit happen. i dream transformation into being, bring people together, and make possible what people believed was impossible, one moment at a time. i can hold many sometimes contradicting visions at once. i am an educator and a facilitator.

i am a deeply religious and deeply spiritual femme. to me they are intertwined, as are my faith and my social justice work. together they form the reason i get up in the morning (or afternoon, depending on the day).

i am a stone femme. i am a sex worker. stone for me means that my work gives me emotional boundaries around sex...sometimes physical ones, too, depending on the situation. being stone is what allows my empathic, overly expressive femme self to work effectively. it is the only area of my life in which i compartmentalize.

i'm a baby girl and a submissive femme who loves to strap it on and top from time to time. i'm kinky as hell in bed but there's a special place in my heart for sweet vanilla sex. and i consider blow jobs an art form.

i am a sister and an auntie. i cannot be anyone's biological mother but in my community "ma" or "mama" is a term of respect and endearment and it means so much when people call me that. i am an orphan.

i'm a pajama femme. i am the sexiest jeans and t-shirt femme you'll ever meet. this is out of necessity for survival, but i'm beginning to embrace it, even if it makes me feel like an ugly duckling femme sometimes.

i am a homeless, rootless, and family-less femme who is creating home, community, and family for myself. i value what i know of where i come from and i trust that i am whole despite the gaps in my memory and history.

from what little I know about you, here and on facebook I think you are awesome. I hope one day to meet you

[rustedrims]

Originally Posted by Lady_Di

I am a femme who always has cookies~!

with a spot of


actually love to make cookies, I just don't like to eat them all that much, thank goodness!

what are your favourites?

sorry for the thread derail folks, but this is about COOKIES!

YES THIS IS ABOUT COOKIES.!!!

Sometimes that is my meal for the day.I dont know why but it is a big thing with me now is to eat cookies.I love chocolate chip cookies with ice cold milk.My sister makes real good ones.Nice and chewey.I buy her a big bag of chocolate chips sometimes hoping to get some cookies when she bakes them but she has never given me any.Gotta be at her house at the right time to get any.If pressured into it i will drink tea with cookies just to get cookies..I have said cookies 7 times in this short message.I think i have a cookie problem.I like saying the word cookie.Ok now 9 times.Gotta go. I am getting the shakes from not having cookies.Gezzz 10.!!
Sorry ladies i got a little carried away.
I like reading how wonderful and different you all are.Very refreshing.
Thank-you all. still thinking about cookies.{11}.

s.