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so she is talking about butches TO straight people? it's almost as if the word is used for "shock value" and this explains that it was , I guess it still has nothing but sting value for me but but but werent butches the anti-girls from the beginning of time? I think so |
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So butch only comes in one flavor and if it's not the right flavor it has an ick factor?
That's how the last couple of posts felt to me... Just because the term doesn't resound with you, doesn't make it less than or geared twards hetros... This piece resounded with me... I got what she was saying... I like butch girls..(Ok, I like butch in just about any flavor, but have a weakness for a big ol butch who is a girl) I happened to be partnered with one... Nothing shocking, nothing cutting edge.. Just a big old hard working, hard fucking, gets called sir, taking up space butch who is also a girl...
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she doesn't "get me" fine at all = different strokes ( Did I not say that?)
even at my youngest (around four) that word was very off-putting and insulting (to me) and I know for certain I am not alone in those thoughts. diversity don't we all get to be who we are? cant we all say what is true (for ourselves) without someone taking offence? |
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Dude if you won't want to be called "girl" then fine, but she wasn't talking TO straight people and was partnered to a butch at the time and words like "ick" and "sting" are pretty loaded terms when there are plenty of butches who are fine with the term girl (some are submissives and some are not).
I think people need to read the entire article before leaping to conclusions about what the author does or doesn't know. http://www.villagevoice.com/1999-10-...masculinity/2/
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I am sure a lot of people see me as a butch "girl". I, personally, do not. I have never liked being called a girl or liked it when someone says "you go girl" or "girrrrrl, you should have seen....", but that is just me. I am not a boy (depending on who calls me that..
![]() ![]() I don't like being referred to as someone's "girlfriend" in a relationship sense, but if that is how they want to term it, fine. To be really honest, I feel like I have to settle for whatever makes everyone else comfortable, and it is getting tiring....anywho..... I get what Tristan was saying in the article, I really do. I just had to substitute the word "girl" with "butch", and then I was quite happy. ![]() btw, this is all coming from my ME space, and I am by no means trying to say anyone else should feel this way or that the word "girl" is icky or gross...it's just not for me.
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The piece doesn't feel all that outdated to me. *shrug*
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I remember at age fifteen being offended at being called, "girl" after finding out the definition was, "A young, immature female". I certainly did not feel that described me at all as I was a very mature, responsible and politically astute young woman. Now that I am fifty, it REALLY annoys me when I go to a restaurant with my nineteen year old daughter and the twenty year old server asks, "What can I get you girls to eat??" Really??? Oh and fuggedaboutit if she calls me, "Honey" LOL.
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It isn't about deeply seeded gender identity or whether someone ids as submissive etc. It's just real people having real conversations and the ebb and flow of language. I don't see how anyone can not read the essay by Tristan Taormino and not see that she is quite familiar with butches and that it was a butch positive piece. Isn't it all about context and intent?
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