Is top surgery always necessary?

Corkey · 07-18-2012, 02:49 PM

Another option is a compression shirt. Can be very warm in the summer, but it will flatten without having surgery. Like a A line tee but with spandix like properties.

Rockinonahigh · 07-18-2012, 03:36 PM

I wear a spandex t-shirt that works fine for me,I just made shure it was tight enough to do the job.It can be a bit warm in the summer but not overly so,besides for about $12.00 each is a lot cheeper than surgery,I cut mine shorter than they come to about the near bottom of my rib cage to give me some legnth so it wont roll up ..corse im a bit chubby but it still dose a good job.

DapperButch · 07-18-2012, 03:58 PM

If his nipples are male sized, if he has no droopy skin, and if he is an A cup, he really may be able to get away with just liposuction. The only downside is that men's nipples are higher up on his chest than females.

The other sugery option with less scaring than the typical double incision is the keyhole. I can't imagine that he wouldn't be a candidate for this and there is less scaring.

His doctor will be able to tell him his options based on his chest.

He should check out this site where he can see pics of the various surgeries.

http://www.transbucket.com/

Also, this site is helpful to any transman

http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/

And this:

http://www.ftmguide.org/

You may want to encourage him to come into the thread if he has further, more detailed questions.

DMW · 07-18-2012, 04:52 PM

Dapper Butch is right. I forgot about the keyhole operation.
and those web sites he put up are good ones. Yep. Check those out.

Gothy · 07-20-2012, 09:27 AM

Thank you all, once again, for your valuable input and the links/resources given. Daddy has an appointment next month in Chicago for His initial bloodwork and first therapy session before beginning T. I am not sure if the therapist is a gender therapist or cis therapist. Just based on what our other trans friends have said about this place, they are highly knowledgeable and very sensitive to gender identity issues- it does not seem as if they address things from a mental health perspective. Once again, basing this on what others have said.

Daddy has read all of your posts Himself and is appreciative, and will hopefully be joining our community with His own screen name/handle very soon. Thanks for the personal invite, Dapper! It's nice to know that He has support here while we're essentially waiting to get the ball rolling in "real time", so to speak. A month seems so far away, even though I know time will pass very quickly.

I think the initial query was rooted in fear of surgery. Daddy wants very much to have the masculine chest He feels he should have had from birth, but the idea of having to undergo surgery to accomplish this is a little daunting. A friend of ours shared with Him- and may be helpful for others out there- to think of it as a surgery that could "save your life". I think it's only natural to consider the "what-if's" when going through something this monumentally life-changing, but important to keep things in perspective and not be consumed by fear. What Daddy's friend said was such a powerful and compassionate thing to say, since so many TG/TS people struggle with body dysphoria issues to the point that it does become life-threatening for some.

So thank you once again for all the kind words, support, and helpful information. It means a lot to both of us.

DapperButch · 07-20-2012, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by GothFemmeDyke

I think the initial query was rooted in fear of surgery. Daddy wants very much to have the masculine chest He feels he should have had from birth, but the idea of having to undergo surgery to accomplish this is a little daunting.

After he joins, he may want to enter the Ask FTMs anything thread as a few guys have written about their experiences with top surgery (I think that is the thread). Even better, it is a great place to get his questions and concerns answered by guys who have had the surgery.

Good luck in the "transition(s)" you will both be going through.

Ms. Meander · 09-28-2012, 06:32 AM

I was just poking around looking for a good chest binder recommendation for a friend when I came across this thread.

Since you are looking for different experiences to add to your pot for consideration, I thought I'd offer this tidbit:

A former partner of mine who is FTM was an A-cup, pre-transtion. He reports (and I've seen the photos which prove it) that within the first year on T his breast size actually increased to a B-cup. Imagine his dismay! I don't think I've heard anyone else complain of this experience, but it is possible.

The main thing is that everyone is different. Information is power but all anyone can really do is take it one step at a time, because sometimes things happen along the way which will change your original plans.

Best wishes.

chefhmboyrd · 09-28-2012, 07:20 AM

for me personally, i think it is a choice.
i wish i had transitioned when i was young and my skin was supple not stretched because i probably would not have any surgery.
as it stands, i go shirtless in public anyway, even though i have not yet had surgery. i am hoping in the coming year to be able to afford it.

i think with the T, which causes the glands to deflate, and some serious attention to chest and back workouts, he can probably avoid having surgery if he chooses.

Jaques · 09-28-2012, 07:27 AM

If i could have got away with it, i would not have had chest surgery, but for me it was necessary - but you do see lots of female weight lifters and body builders who dont look as though they have breasts. My scars arent that bad and because im very hairy not very noticable but it would be great not to need to have that op.

07-18-2012, 02:49 PM	#1
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07-18-2012, 03:58 PM	#3
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09-28-2012, 06:32 AM	#7
Ms. Meander Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Relationship Status: Ethical Nonmonogamist Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Mountains Posts: 1,520 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,706 Thanked 5,211 Times in 1,147 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I was just poking around looking for a good chest binder recommendation for a friend when I came across this thread. Since you are looking for different experiences to add to your pot for consideration, I thought I'd offer this tidbit: A former partner of mine who is FTM was an A-cup, pre-transtion. He reports (and I've seen the photos which prove it) that within the first year on T his breast size actually increased to a B-cup. Imagine his dismay! I don't think I've heard anyone else complain of this experience, but it is possible. The main thing is that everyone is different. Information is power but all anyone can really do is take it one step at a time, because sometimes things happen along the way which will change your original plans. Best wishes. __________________ My wish for you is that you continue. Continue to be who and how you are, to astonish a mean world with your acts of kindness. Continue to allow humor to lighten the burden of your tender heart. - Maya Angelou

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07-18-2012, 03:36 PM	#2
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I wear a spandex t-shirt that works fine for me,I just made shure it was tight enough to do the job.It can be a bit warm in the summer but not overly so,besides for about $12.00 each is a lot cheeper than surgery,I cut mine shorter than they come to about the near bottom of my rib cage to give me some legnth so it wont roll up ..corse im a bit chubby but it still dose a good job.

07-18-2012, 04:52 PM	#4
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07-20-2012, 09:27 AM	#5
Gothy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: NB\trans (fluid) Preferred Pronoun?: They Relationship Status: Anarchist Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Humboldt County, CA Posts: 79 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 101 Thanked 278 Times in 49 Posts Rep Power: 2480521	Thank you all, once again, for your valuable input and the links/resources given. Daddy has an appointment next month in Chicago for His initial bloodwork and first therapy session before beginning T. I am not sure if the therapist is a gender therapist or cis therapist. Just based on what our other trans friends have said about this place, they are highly knowledgeable and very sensitive to gender identity issues- it does not seem as if they address things from a mental health perspective. Once again, basing this on what others have said. Daddy has read all of your posts Himself and is appreciative, and will hopefully be joining our community with His own screen name/handle very soon. Thanks for the personal invite, Dapper! It's nice to know that He has support here while we're essentially waiting to get the ball rolling in "real time", so to speak. A month seems so far away, even though I know time will pass very quickly. I think the initial query was rooted in fear of surgery. Daddy wants very much to have the masculine chest He feels he should have had from birth, but the idea of having to undergo surgery to accomplish this is a little daunting. A friend of ours shared with Him- and may be helpful for others out there- to think of it as a surgery that could "save your life". I think it's only natural to consider the "what-if's" when going through something this monumentally life-changing, but important to keep things in perspective and not be consumed by fear. What Daddy's friend said was such a powerful and compassionate thing to say, since so many TG/TS people struggle with body dysphoria issues to the point that it does become life-threatening for some. So thank you once again for all the kind words, support, and helpful information. It means a lot to both of us.

09-28-2012, 07:27 AM	#9
Jaques Member How Do You Identify?: male/TG Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 51 Thanked 398 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 2583511	If i could have got away with it, i would not have had chest surgery, but for me it was necessary - but you do see lots of female weight lifters and body builders who dont look as though they have breasts. My scars arent that bad and because im very hairy not very noticable but it would be great not to need to have that op.