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07-20-2012, 05:15 PM
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07-20-2012, 05:27 PM
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07-21-2012, 12:02 AM
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figure out where you go...and then realize you havent found anyone there, so stop going there.
head to the local non profits. Volunteer. go to the hi kill dog and cat pounds and walk the dogs and get involved in the politics. LOTS of chances of meeting people..and people who know people...good for all kinds of connections what kind of person are you attracted to? Go where they might go. I LOVE horses. Look for gay western dances. Or sponsor one. Its not as expensive as you think... run for office. In something. No matter how small. It will get you laid if not a relationship... join the SCA...the Society for Creative Anachronism (or something like that). Trust me LOTS of brothers and sisters in that group go to church. A gay friendly church. Or not gay. Be out gay yourself. Those who care and are as strong as you will come forward and friend you. But you need balls to do this... make soap. Sell it. Put your name on it and say you want dinner dates. WHAT A MARKETING PLOY! But, you will sell soap and get dinner... put an add up at the laundromat. At least you know they are clean people. get a dog and walk it. Make sure its wearing a rainbow collar get a great old car. Restore it. Paint it with a rainbow flag on the hood. Go to car shows. Sit outside next to it in short cut off jeans...yep...that'll work go to the library and tuck sweet messages in books...give no information except what book to look in next...see if someone will do it back to you...then find a time and place to meet...talk about romantic! want more?
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07-21-2012, 12:40 AM
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Alexri, if you've tried the local lesbian organizations or meetups and they don't serve you, go into the next town. As someone said, participate in things you love to do. They may be full of people who aren't in our community, but you will be around people who enjoy your favorite activities. Wear some kind of rainbow thing (decal on your jacket or cap, bracelet, pin, etc) if you think you aren't being "read" well.
People have friends who have friends. I had the same problem you are experiencing. I went to another city and found a friendlier group. The B-F community is small, even in this city, but it does exist. And again, friends have friends. Pride is always a great way to connect as well. |
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07-21-2012, 12:42 AM
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definitely take up some hobbies involving people!
 or volunteering. i like okcupid but it's a mixed bag...have to put up with a lot of bullshit. if you're religious and have an lgbtq-friendly worship space, that can be a really good way to meet folks.miss tia, that list is amazing! i want to try the library scavenger hunt
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07-21-2012, 12:52 AM
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07-21-2012, 06:34 AM
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Before I became coupled, I did join a lesbian dating site.
It did bug me that they did not have a place to specify that you were looking for a butch (in your case, a femme). I did send them an email voicing my displeasure about this. What I did was to pick a user name with "femme" as part of my name. I also specifically wrote in my profile: Looking for butch woman, not feminine women like myself, etc. (I am paraphrasing). It did, for the most part keep the femmes from responding (and the butches did). You may have already tried this... What I did find was that there were lots of femmes and not nearly enough butches available to date. A lot of the femmes were looking for other femmes to date, so I could see that as a real problem for butches. Gee, dating and meeting the right person that you connect with, is just plain difficult! I finally hit the jackpot right here on the Planet, hopefully, you will too!
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07-21-2012, 07:45 AM
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interview women for an article. Its an old movie, but it works and if you sell the article, you make money too! Invest it in soap making supplies....
if you are obvious looking, stand in the middle of a big area and wait. Every day do this. After 10 days, put up a sign that says "I am not coming back unless you let me know you noticed me" get kites. Not kid kites. Big beautiful magnificent kites. You will draw attention. When girls come up to watch, draw them in by letting them handle the string. You will empower them and make friends go to craft shows and sell crafts. LGBT crafts. Make sure you make some that say "supporter of LGBT" and some that cry out "I am the gay one!". Smile HUGE at the girls who grab the gay one. Ask the supporters if they have a single gay person in their life... flirt. Flirt with everyone. Flirt with the lil kid in front of you at the check out. And her granny who has taken her there to buy coloring books. Flirt at the garage sale. Flirt with the barber. Flirt with everyone but your gynecologist. The more at ease you are at flirting, the more you will impact. The only way to get at ease is to do it every chance you get. check license plates. and bumper stickers. Have cards made up with email accounts, bidding them to contact you, and place them on LGBT marked cars. Start a social group. Wine tasters of the LGBT variety. A book club. Hikers for Habitats. Have tshirts made up that say "Single and queer, looking for someone near"
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07-21-2012, 07:52 AM
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I am not sure that a "lesbian" dating site is the way to go but glad it has worked for some. I am on one of those and just today I got a response from someone, who in her profile says... I prefer femme women, if I wanted butch, I'd date a man. Now my profile name has Butch in it and also my picture and I am obviously Butch. So I don't think those sites are very good. lol
Meeting people on a B/F site has worked for me in the past. I have met many friends, lovers, and even the occasional partner. So I sit here and think, if I did not have this type of a place to go to, where would I go? I would probably go to where femmes like to shop.. maybe sephora, maybe hang out reading in a book store. I really don't know. Maybe the femmes can let us know where they tend to go. |
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