What have you learned?

sara-bera · 07-31-2012, 02:45 PM

I've learned that I still have so much more to learn.

RockOn · 07-31-2012, 03:16 PM

... to trust my gut instinct.

Also, if a person's words and actions do not match up, forget the words. Words can be cheap. The actions "speak" the truth.

Ginger · 07-31-2012, 03:29 PM

What have I learned? Clearly not enough.

laruss · 07-31-2012, 03:37 PM

Not to argue with crazy. Just back away slowly and talk to someone else who is sane.

Ginger · 07-31-2012, 03:41 PM

That music lifts me up, and gives me a way into feelings.

Breezy · 07-31-2012, 03:59 PM

I am going to spend less time here and more time in my community.

Ginger · 07-31-2012, 04:02 PM

Community isn't something I discover and dip into it; it's something I build, and dismantle, and rebuild, and tweak.

Tres · 09-17-2012, 07:25 PM

I've learned that no matter how much I think the problem is someone else's - I need to look at my own side of the street and really that is the only side I can sweep...

Greco · 09-19-2012, 08:32 AM

it's alright to let the walls down

Greco

MissItalianDiva · 11-03-2012, 07:31 PM

I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please.

Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

Bèsame* · 11-03-2012, 07:55 PM

Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm

Prudence · 11-07-2012, 08:44 AM

That everyone has an agenda.....

WingsOnFire · 11-07-2012, 07:17 PM

conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet.

Must learn to stop before I get frustrated.

Sun · 11-07-2012, 07:37 PM

I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains.

I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace.

I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone.

I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me.

I have learned...and I have learned.

WingsOnFire · 04-11-2013, 01:13 PM

I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home.

I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together.

Glenn · 05-23-2013, 10:21 PM

I have learned that Primal Therapy is beneficial for expressing and releasing emotional frustrations, rather than repressing them, and doing or saying certain things to people you may later regret. For example: Since I live alone in a wooded area with alot of animals, I growl, bark, groan, snort, hiss, hoot, whisle, screech, squeak, cluck, click, coo, caw, crawl, walk on all fours, etc. Tonight, it was very windy, and I put on an overcoat with long sleeves, and ran around in the woods flapping my arms like a bird, making bird sounds. I had alot on my mind, but before long, I started laughing at myself, and the way my cats were watching, and it felt great. I do this therapy mainly at night, before dawn, or when no one's around lol.

Blade · 10-04-2014, 08:46 PM

I've learned that friendship is precious, and you can't share it with just anyone.

I've learned that it's easy for me to give respect, and just as easy for me to take it back

I've learned that helping others as I was taught to do from childhood, is most rewarding, even more rewarding is I was taught to give without expecting or asking for anything in return

I've learned that if you don't ever expect anything out of someone, they will never disappoint you.

I've learned that there are many things in life that make me happy. Most are the very most simple things in life.

Kenna · 10-06-2014, 10:15 PM

I have learned that knowledge and confidence in myself has given my heart and soul much peace.

I have learned... I am not afraid to face difficult situations head on, because my other mom, Momma D, taught me how and encouraged me to "stop being mousy"

I have learned my value and the value of those I consider important to me.

I have learned I have nothing to be ashamed of, even bad decisions that lead me to reanalyze how I move forward and whom I allow in my circle of close family and friends.

I have learned (thru previous experience with my bio mom who has serious dependency issues) not to be codependent or to sacrifice my health and goals to take care of energy draining people.

I have learned...I have every right to stand proud of who I am and my dignity.

Mrs Arcstriker · 07-31-2012, 08:42 PM

I have learned that if I ever want to get Arcstriker out of cop-mode all I have to do is to put on my Latvian hair-drying bonnet...the one with the chin strap...

*Note to self...we really, REALLY need to stay home long enough to get some new towels...*

Scuba · 07-31-2012, 09:35 PM

Apparently not enough yet...

07-31-2012, 03:16 PM	#2
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I have learned ... ... to trust my gut instinct. Also, if a person's words and actions do not match up, forget the words. Words can be cheap. The actions "speak" the truth.

07-31-2012, 03:37 PM	#4
laruss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She or Goddess Relationship Status: Settled in Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 1,322 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,849 Thanked 5,329 Times in 1,045 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Not to argue with crazy. Just back away slowly and talk to someone else who is sane. __________________ Creativity is a drug I can't do without. -Cecil B. DeMille

09-17-2012, 07:25 PM	#8
Tres Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Butch, hey you Relationship Status: I love the swing of her hips and the call of her lips Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: The south Posts: 46 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 84 Thanked 87 Times in 25 Posts Rep Power: 1054552	I've learned that no matter how much I think the problem is someone else's - I need to look at my own side of the street and really that is the only side I can sweep... __________________ The little Prince woke to the sound of her beautiful voice for she is the only one in the forest of many who can bring a calm to the storms which occasionally brew within. It is her voice that matches his little Prince soul so perfectly and therefore nothing can erase his smile....

09-19-2012, 08:32 AM	#9
Greco Senior Member How Do You Identify?: GNC, not Trans, REAL. TIME. ONLY. Preferred Pronoun?: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Relationship Status: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In a good life. Posts: 3,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,160 Thanked 6,616 Times in 2,285 Posts Rep Power: 0	finally it's alright to let the walls down Greco

11-03-2012, 07:31 PM	#10
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Epiphany... I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please. Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

07-31-2012, 02:45 PM	#1
sara-bera Member How Do You Identify?: female Join Date: May 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,161 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,687 Thanked 2,858 Times in 739 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I've learned that I still have so much more to learn.

07-31-2012, 03:29 PM	#3
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	What have I learned? Clearly not enough.

07-31-2012, 03:41 PM	#5
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	That music lifts me up, and gives me a way into feelings.

07-31-2012, 03:59 PM	#6
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I am going to spend less time here and more time in my community.

07-31-2012, 04:02 PM	#7
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Community isn't something I discover and dip into it; it's something I build, and dismantle, and rebuild, and tweak.

11-03-2012, 07:55 PM	#11
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,395 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,147 Thanked 40,962 Times in 10,745 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

11-07-2012, 08:44 AM	#12
Prudence Member How Do You Identify?: "congratulations, it's a girl" Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Second star to the right, and straight on till morning. Posts: 509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,333 Thanked 1,177 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 9187054	That everyone has an agenda..... __________________ "There is a vitality, a life force, and energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique."---Martha Graham

11-07-2012, 07:17 PM	#13
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet. Must learn to stop before I get frustrated. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

11-07-2012, 07:37 PM	#14
Sun Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He, him, his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: N/A Posts: 1,775 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,557 Thanked 5,551 Times in 1,456 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Lessons in Love I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains. I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace. I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone. I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me. I have learned...and I have learned. __________________ “Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” ― Rumi

04-11-2013, 01:13 PM	#15
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home. I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

05-23-2013, 10:21 PM	#16
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have learned that Primal Therapy is beneficial for expressing and releasing emotional frustrations, rather than repressing them, and doing or saying certain things to people you may later regret. For example: Since I live alone in a wooded area with alot of animals, I growl, bark, groan, snort, hiss, hoot, whisle, screech, squeak, cluck, click, coo, caw, crawl, walk on all fours, etc. Tonight, it was very windy, and I put on an overcoat with long sleeves, and ran around in the woods flapping my arms like a bird, making bird sounds. I had alot on my mind, but before long, I started laughing at myself, and the way my cats were watching, and it felt great. I do this therapy mainly at night, before dawn, or when no one's around lol.

10-04-2014, 08:46 PM	#17
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,413 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I've learned that friendship is precious, and you can't share it with just anyone. I've learned that it's easy for me to give respect, and just as easy for me to take it back I've learned that helping others as I was taught to do from childhood, is most rewarding, even more rewarding is I was taught to give without expecting or asking for anything in return I've learned that if you don't ever expect anything out of someone, they will never disappoint you. I've learned that there are many things in life that make me happy. Most are the very most simple things in life. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-06-2014, 10:15 PM	#18
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,192 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I have learned that knowledge and confidence in myself has given my heart and soul much peace. I have learned... I am not afraid to face difficult situations head on, because my other mom, Momma D, taught me how and encouraged me to "stop being mousy" I have learned my value and the value of those I consider important to me. I have learned I have nothing to be ashamed of, even bad decisions that lead me to reanalyze how I move forward and whom I allow in my circle of close family and friends. I have learned (thru previous experience with my bio mom who has serious dependency issues) not to be codependent or to sacrifice my health and goals to take care of energy draining people. I have learned...I have every right to stand proud of who I am and my dignity. __________________ **************************** She has been through hell, so believe me when I say, fear her when she looks into a fire and smiles. ~E.Corona~

07-31-2012, 08:42 PM	#19
Mrs Arcstriker Timed Out How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: her, she...female ones... Relationship Status: married to Arcstriker Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: CT Posts: 143 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 407 Times in 100 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have learned that if I ever want to get Arcstriker out of cop-mode all I have to do is to put on my Latvian hair-drying bonnet...the one with the chin strap... Note to self...we really, REALLY need to stay home long enough to get some new towels...

07-31-2012, 09:35 PM	#20
Scuba Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Flying Solo Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: PNW Posts: 2,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,749 Thanked 8,047 Times in 1,618 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Apparently not enough yet... __________________ https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-X...etuwo1_500.jpg ~~Bob Richardson~~