Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

[Martina]

Originally Posted by cinderella

I like a 'take-charge' butch who is confident, but not aggressive. He will be gentle, yet strong, and make me feel safe at all times.

Ideally, he will always pay for dinner, unless we agree to 'go Dutch' on special occasions. If he cannot afford an evening out, we will stay in and have a home-cooked dinner which he will make.

It's funny how different we all are. I would not touch that butch with a ten foot pole.

If someone kept trying to make me feel safe, I would be annoyed. The paying thing would not work for me either. I don't like the the idea that I am supposed to be taken care of.

Fine if we take care of one another. Fine if I am a submissive and there is that reciprocity. But that I am explicitly the one in the relationship to be taken care of and kept safe. No. Thank. You.

[cinderella]

Yes, how different we all are. I'm lucky enough to have a daddy that complements me completely - we are truly the ying and yang. He loves making me feel safe and protected (even tho in reality he knows I very well can take care of myself, and do - I always have).

He also likes being in charge of alot of things, and I know when to give over the reins, tho I am a very capable 'driver' - and he knows that too.

I have spent a lifetime taking care of others - and I'm not talking family - it's nice to find someone who wants to take care of me for a change. Our relationship is not a complete one-sided thing - we know our limitations, and what we can actually do, but we have a lovely understanding, and we like it just the way it is. We fit snugly just like a jigsaw puzzle.

To each his own, and Viva la differencia!!

Originally Posted by Martina

It's funny how different we all are. I would not touch that butch with a ten foot pole.

If someone kept trying to make me feel safe, I would be annoyed. The paying thing would not work for me either. I don't like the the idea that I am supposed to be taken care of.

Fine if we take care of one another. Fine if I am a submissive and there is that reciprocity. But that I am explicitly the one in the relationship to be taken care of and kept safe. No. Thank. You.

[Leigh]

Just treat me well, be respectful and show me your interested

[Tattoogurl]

good morning first of all... LOl

i was reading all the posts about how a woman wants to be treated on a date and they are so good... But.... I would have to say that if your gonna take me on a date you better have your ducks in a row!

I make all the decisions in my real life so, if someone is gonna take me out they have to know where were going (plz dont ask me where i wanna eat) if you ask me that i would say "take me home".. to me it means you didn't plan all the way thru.

Come to my door i dont care if you live in my house, RING THE BELL and greet me with a gentle kiss on the cheeck, this is a date not a hump session... Show me you have self control when i open the door smoking hawt and you wanna jump the bones remember im a gemini and we or at least I dont like pushy I like to know that you have control over your vital organs LOL..

Im the sorta girl i like the music on, I like to sing, so Im gonna sing all the way there or at least sometimes lol.. I want stimulating conversation, show me boi's that you have the abiity to think outside of the box.. We can talk religion, politics, death penality etc i dont care but entise me with your brains and thoughts no matter how crazy they sound. if we're sitting at the dinner table I alays wondered what the waiter would say if a song comes over head and we both like it, and get up and dance. be fun spontanious live on the edge. Life is already so frigid lets have fun!!

I think I said everything then what i would want my date to consit of lol but I tried..

I guess as i sit here I want my date to be something when you drop me off I say WOW and I feel it everywhere..