The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

lusciouskiwi · 08-14-2012, 10:32 AM

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

KayCee · 08-14-2012, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by lusciouskiwi

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

This is so sad. I esp. liked the words: 'In this world we can't worry about what others think...'

Thank you for posting this.

ruthie14 · 08-15-2012, 04:25 AM

OS Butch · 08-15-2012, 04:53 AM

Good morning Ruthie

I don't get here very often, but thought I would pop in before I head to work.

Have a great day!

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

morningstar55 · 08-15-2012, 05:59 AM

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day.

OS Butch · 08-15-2012, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh
((((((((Ruth)))))))))))
I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer.
hope everyone has a blessed day.

Ummm and ask me if it is ok to post pictures of me

....Just how many pictures did you take? I only saw the one!

*Anya* · 08-15-2012, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by lusciouskiwi

I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ...

Just what I needed.

LadyRieinAL · 08-18-2012, 09:46 AM

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

ruthie14 · 08-18-2012, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyRieinAL

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

I have had the same thoughts recently in regards to this butch I've been dating (see recent posts). She wants to have sex while dating various people... I wish I could. I think she is hot, she is smart, caring, affectionate. I just can't wrap my head around it and i know from past experience...once we cross that bridge, not matter how hard I try, i will expect more. It will ruin what we do have. Ohhhh but I do wish I could... just enjoy myself. I have the same problem the the ldr too. I won't do that anymore, but that is who I seem to connect with. I live in Jersey and currently am quite attracted to a woman in Cali... sigh. I won't have a ldr with her.. won't move.. sooooooooo it's flirty texts and leaving it at that. .. I feel ya!!

morningstar55 · 08-20-2012, 04:05 AM

Morning loft dwellers and peekers
another day at the office
headng 2 ..... Toledo....
Catch yal on the flip side ...

Glenn · 08-20-2012, 06:47 AM

Good Mornin Folks and All; Been a peepin for years, but then again, I'm a psychological antique

It's always nice to see the ladies up and at em in here. School started in town today. Seems a bit early. It's the coolest August I've ever seen here. Makes me wonder what winter will be like. Well, that's all for now. Take care of yourselves Folks.

fever · 08-20-2012, 01:23 PM

It sure starts early in the US of A. My little grandson is all excited about grade 3. It has been frightfully hot here in B.C., Glenn, so a little cooler weather would be very nice. The blackberries are now ripe, so that is on my list of todos. I need to get picking and freezing.

I sure don't like that little "Canadian" emicon thing. We don't talk like that. lol

Have a super week everyone.

Candice

morningstar55 · 08-22-2012, 04:53 PM

Need voters 4 my .... cocoa chips please

https://www.dousaflavor.com/canvas/i...urce=tdimeline

DMW · 08-24-2012, 02:47 PM

[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6IIkpmw8Ow&feature=related"]We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube[/nomedia]

morningstar55 · 08-24-2012, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DMW

We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube

we got tonight????
heyyy DMW Sir... hello and welcome to the loft.....

morningstar55 · 08-25-2012, 07:22 AM

Morning..loft dwellers nd peekers
. late last nite had a visit from a sort of sparkly Mr Leonard... lol ...
Also had a dream I wad at a hospital.. and a doc was telling me minister was doing better and i could hear her talking..but they had to do some test... everyone I was walking towards hr room , had to go around things that got only way and thru another room , I could hear her, then there was someone sleeping on the couch, thn my brother was sitting there and we had to go to my mom,s ... I wanted to call my mom , and tell Kath was ok and coming home soon .. but never could get hold of My mom....thn woke up.. sigh.
I miss my sister...

Anyways. Have a great day ... everyone

DMW · 08-25-2012, 08:19 AM

Mornin.
The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream.
I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.)
So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

morningstar55 · 08-25-2012, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by DMW

Mornin.
The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream.
I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.)
So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

Ah Ty ((((Dmw))))))))
my 1 and only sis passed ....... next month will b 4 yrs.
Time flys ....... and its that time for me to fly. Headng down to Tm.
later gators

morningstar55 · 08-27-2012, 04:56 AM

Waking up. From having to camp out at a plastic company in the boonies.....and no coffee (
now hows can I eat my left over cold pizza for breakfast with no coffee???

morningstar55 · 08-18-2012, 07:23 PM

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission

08-14-2012, 10:32 AM	#1
lusciouskiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme lesbian feminist Preferred Pronoun?: Anything except for "aunty" Relationship Status: Happy with my butch. Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Aotearoa New Zealand Posts: 2,681 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25,494 Thanked 9,095 Times in 1,899 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	short film - 9 mins, bring tissues I randomly came across this while watching something else. I cried. Thought this was the most appropriate place to put it ... __________________ happiness is a form of courage. George Holbrook Jackson Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth. Katherine Mansfield Motivate yourself or be miserable. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice. Wayne Dyer

08-15-2012, 05:59 AM	#5
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers nd peekers am sitting in in , Bojangles getting breakfast and listening 2 Christian music ... where's my coffee .... heh ((((((((Ruth))))))))))) I did take sm pictures of chef jo..... but hav 2 wait til i get on a computer. hope everyone has a blessed day. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-18-2012, 09:46 AM	#8
LadyRieinAL Member How Do You Identify?: Evolving Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, girl, her Relationship Status: found my vibrational match Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Sweet Home Alabama Posts: 459 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,024 Thanked 1,214 Times in 281 Posts Rep Power: 18359992	over 50 The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship. The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough. I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing. So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

08-20-2012, 04:05 AM	#10
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers and peekers another day at the office headng 2 ..... Toledo.... Catch yal on the flip side ... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-20-2012, 06:47 AM	#11
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Good Mornin Folks and All; Been a peepin for years, but then again, I'm a psychological antiqueIt's always nice to see the ladies up and at em in here. School started in town today. Seems a bit early. It's the coolest August I've ever seen here. Makes me wonder what winter will be like. Well, that's all for now. Take care of yourselves Folks.

08-15-2012, 04:25 AM	#3
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08-20-2012, 01:23 PM	#12
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,279 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783436	School already? It sure starts early in the US of A. My little grandson is all excited about grade 3. It has been frightfully hot here in B.C., Glenn, so a little cooler weather would be very nice. The blackberries are now ripe, so that is on my list of todos. I need to get picking and freezing. I sure don't like that little "Canadian" emicon thing. We don't talk like that. lol Have a super week everyone. Candice

08-22-2012, 04:53 PM	#13
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Need voters 4 my .... cocoa chips please https://www.dousaflavor.com/canvas/i...urce=tdimeline __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-24-2012, 02:47 PM	#14
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,857 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6IIkpmw8Ow&feature=related"]We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube[/nomedia]

08-25-2012, 07:22 AM	#16
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning..loft dwellers nd peekers . late last nite had a visit from a sort of sparkly Mr Leonard... lol ... Also had a dream I wad at a hospital.. and a doc was telling me minister was doing better and i could hear her talking..but they had to do some test... everyone I was walking towards hr room , had to go around things that got only way and thru another room , I could hear her, then there was someone sleeping on the couch, thn my brother was sitting there and we had to go to my mom,s ... I wanted to call my mom , and tell Kath was ok and coming home soon .. but never could get hold of My mom....thn woke up.. sigh. I miss my sister... Anyways. Have a great day ... everyone __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-25-2012, 08:19 AM	#17
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,857 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Mornin. The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done. Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream. I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.) So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

08-27-2012, 04:56 AM	#19
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Waking up. From having to camp out at a plastic company in the boonies.....and no coffee ( now hows can I eat my left over cold pizza for breakfast with no coffee??? __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-18-2012, 07:23 PM	#20
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Howdy loft dwellers .... Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself . As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha... cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD. not feeling 2 well 2 nite. Hey ruth Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.