What "title" do you use for your SO? what do they use for you?

princessbelle · 08-15-2012, 08:03 PM

Upon introduction, we use Partner.

In private,
Sir
Daddy

Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot.

Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow.

ruffryder · 08-15-2012, 08:07 PM

she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

nycfem · 08-15-2012, 08:32 PM

Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself.

BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know.

I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families).

I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me.

For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us.

I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better!

spritzerJ · 08-16-2012, 06:40 AM

I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be.

In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called.

The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others.

When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible.

We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes.

Corkey · 08-16-2012, 01:04 PM

I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami.

jac · 08-16-2012, 01:35 PM

I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl.

When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn.
I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her.

And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!!

RNguy · 08-16-2012, 03:12 PM

99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy
The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake .
I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

DamonK · 08-16-2012, 03:23 PM

She is girl, girlfriend, partner.

He is boyfriend.

08-15-2012, 08:03 PM	#1
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Upon introduction, we use Partner. In private, Sir Daddy Loads of pet names...well this is the South, we do that a lot. Depending on our moods and the ebb and flow. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

08-15-2012, 08:32 PM	#3
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,794 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	nycfembbw and BBinNYC Note: I went a bit overboard with this post because I just couldn't stop myself. BB calls me Jenny, Jennifer, and Jen. Fascinating, I know. I call BB Cindy, Boston, Daddy, Boston Butch, and sometimes whatever name I feel like. My mom calls BB Cindola (Yiddish- we're both from Jewish families). I refer to BB as my husbutch, my partner, my wife, my boifriend, or my girlfriend. BB refers to herself as my "opening act" because hy tends to arrive at events earlier than me. For pronouns all feminine pronouns are for me, and BB goes by and I use for her either masculine or feminine pronouns. If I were living in a zanier world I'd love to use and have everyone use the "ze" pronoun for all of us. I identify as lesbian or a bi dyke (this for me, means I have made the life choice from a young age to have relationships that are not with bio men). BB is not at all bi, IDs as lesbian, and also has secondary trans butch leanings as well. We both ID as feminists, and I ID as a bottom/sub/baby girl, and BB IDs as a top/dominant/Daddy. I ID as a masochist and BB is neither a masochist or a sadist. I have a poly nature, though I only flirt because this is our agreement, and we have a monogamous relationship. All of our varied sexual and gender identities somehow work for us because we've been happily in love for over seven years, and it just keeps getting better! Last edited by nycfem; 08-15-2012 at 08:39 PM.

08-16-2012, 01:04 PM	#5
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I have several Titles from her, but they are private. I call her by her name most often. On here she is Ami. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

08-16-2012, 03:12 PM	#7
RNguy Member How Do You Identify?: trans Preferred Pronoun?: He preferredably :) Relationship Status: the pitbull <€ Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Birmingham, Alabama Posts: 1,058 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,473 Thanked 2,266 Times in 510 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	haha 99.87340837 % of the time she calls me daddy The other .0135234782 % she will say Blake and I know she is a littttttlllleee upset when I get called Blake . I call her all kinds of goofy names that make no Sence to make her laugh and say stop making up words

08-15-2012, 08:07 PM	#2
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,679 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	she calls me papi, daddy, babe, amor. I call her babe, babygirl, beautiful every day!, amor. In public she is my girl, g/f, or partner.

08-16-2012, 06:40 AM	#4
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	I find what we call our SO's very interesting. I just adore Jennifer's post above. It reminds me of how delightfully layered our relationships can be. In public or at work I use partner. Mostly because boifriend would not make sense to co workers and girlfriend isn't how Stoney would want to be called. The General calls Stoney DJ and I call hym DJ most of the time with others. When I am just talking to hym, or a few friends that get it, I use Jack. I use various terms of endearment (honey, sweetheart, sweetie). Daddi as often as possible. We are approaching the phase in our relationship that involves scratching out words on forms and rewriting. I'll probably put partner or SO. We'll see how that goes.

08-16-2012, 01:35 PM	#6
jac Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,344 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,720 Thanked 16,492 Times in 2,972 Posts Rep Power: 0	I love when she calls me Jack, Honey, Syr, and Daddi... She is my Sweatheart, Beautiful, Doll and Babygirl. When speaking of Spritz to others I refer to her as my girlfriend or Jenn. I feel we are approaching the next level of our relationship and even though we have no intention of having a legalized marriage, wife and wifey are right there on the tip of my tongue when I speak of her. And we have a couple others but nothing we need to put out there.... those are for "ear whispers"!!

08-16-2012, 03:23 PM	#8
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