Carried over the threshold

thedivahrrrself · 08-18-2012, 05:09 PM

OMG you must be incredibly young or Amanda must be tiny... LOL no, I don't think being carried is in my future ever, unless it's by an EMT!

stephfromMIT · 08-18-2012, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself

OMG you must be incredibly young or Amanda must be tiny... LOL no, I don't think being carried is in my future ever, unless it's by an EMT!

We'll be 25 when we marry. Mandy is 5'4, 140, runner's build. (I'm 6'1 225, built like a Mack truck)

Corkey · 08-18-2012, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

We'll be 25 when we marry. Mandy is 5'4, 140, runner's build. (I'm 6'1 225, built like a Mack truck)

Just be careful if you two decide it's for you. No one should end up an invalid on their honeymoon, unless of course it's negotiated.

Ginger · 08-18-2012, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Just be careful if you two decide it's for you. No one should end up an invalid on their honeymoon, unless of course it's negotiated.

I guess everything's negotiable!!

Funny one.

rustedrims · 08-24-2012, 09:41 AM

Sure i will pick her up when that occasion arrives.
As long as the wrists and back are cooperating that day.
Always liked that idea.

Novelafemme · 08-24-2012, 09:48 AM

The thought never really crossed our minds, to be honest.

We walked side by side.

But, whatever floats your boat!

Ginger · 08-24-2012, 11:07 AM

I think the unspoken side of this issue is, what if the femme (and so far, everyone has followed that paradym of butch-carrying-femme, following the groom-following-bride model), is a BBW, and it is uncomfortable for her butch to carry her?

I'm not large but I keep thinking about those women and wondering if they are seeing this thread every time they log on, and if it makes them feel somehow in comparison with women who are small enough to be physically carried by someone else.

Am I over-thinking?

Am I being neurotic?

Worse, am I being a party pooper?

I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes. It's awkward, I wasn't sure how to phrase this or even if I should—perhaps since no BBW has responded in this way, it isn't an issue with them.

But what if it is, and they have internalized so much cultural disapproval of their size, they don't want to be the one to bring it up?

So I decided to risk it.

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Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,295 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I think the unspoken side of this issue is, what if the femme (and so far, everyone has followed that paradym of butch-carrying-femme, following the groom-following-bride model), is a BBW, and it is uncomfortable for her butch to carry her? I'm not large but I keep thinking about those women and wondering if they are seeing this thread every time they log on, and if it makes them feel somehow in comparison with women who are small enough to be physically carried by someone else. Am I over-thinking? Am I being neurotic? Worse, am I being a party pooper? I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes. It's awkward, I wasn't sure how to phrase this or even if I should—perhaps since no BBW has responded in this way, it isn't an issue with them. But what if it is, and they have internalized so much cultural disapproval of their size, they don't want to be the one to bring it up? So I decided to risk it.