Do you *want* people to assume you're a man?

Jaques · 08-31-2012, 10:19 AM

As someone who has gone through the mill for a lifetime before transitioning, I spent a lot of my childhood wanting people to assume I was male when I looked very feminine. Now I look male and ive come through most of the "stuff" I can now concentrate more on living the kind of life where others views on my gender arent relevant

NorCalStud · 08-31-2012, 10:44 AM

I am not aware of a desire to be seen as a man. And I definately do not have a desire to be seen as a woman. I dont mind it but Im not burnin up to present an identity. I feel better being called "sir" than "mam". I can truthfully say mam and lady make me cringe like Ive been hit. Im being honest.

I like being seen as butch. I do not like the breasts and yet there is a part of me that wants them there doin what they do which is to say Im this person in this body and Im okay. I do like being seen as who I am for me and for the young butches coming up. Ive said it before..tho.....we are skeletons and spirit...that is how we are walking around. The other stuff is stuff

Stronghealer · 08-31-2012, 10:54 AM

I do not want anyone assuming anything about me-ask.
We are more intricate then our outsides.

BullDog · 08-31-2012, 11:09 AM

I don't like being called ma'am or lady either. My partner calls me Sir. I would prefer she would be the only one that does.

Daywalker · 08-31-2012, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

I don't like being called ma'am or lady either. My partner calls me Sir. I would prefer she would be the only one that does.

There are a few naybors here that call me Sir.

That is not an aesthetic call for them, lol...it's an energy they
pick up and when I ask if they're gonna get to
school on time...they answer 'Yes, Sir!'

BullDog · 08-31-2012, 11:15 AM

Most of the times I get called sir, ma'am or lady are in customer service situations and it doesn't greatly offend me, but it does seem to add to having to gender everything.

Bard · 08-31-2012, 11:26 AM

late at night a very drunk young man me and 2 of my officers talking to him trying to get his story now mind you I have my full duty uniform on that includes bulletproof vest.. it went something like this: me " look I know you have been drinking you need to stop giving my officers a hard time " Officer Bingo " so you need to give us you ID" Young man points to me and says " Shut up I want to talk to HIM" my officer becomes very angry and shakes his finger at drunk young man " have some respect can't you see my Corporal is a LADY" young man stopped and almost cried saying how sorry he was .. yeah I ended up wrapping him in a tarp {he had poopied his pants) and took his gross ass home he kept saying sorry finally I told him look I cut you a HUGE break do not have me called to your dorm for you tonight or I WILL arrest you

08-31-2012, 10:44 AM	#2
NorCalStud Member How Do You Identify?: gaea's Daddy and Fiance Preferred Pronoun?: Ours Relationship Status: Engaged with gaea:-) Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Island Mountain Posts: 440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,630 Thanked 1,465 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 18918589	honestly I am not aware of a desire to be seen as a man. And I definately do not have a desire to be seen as a woman. I dont mind it but Im not burnin up to present an identity. I feel better being called "sir" than "mam". I can truthfully say mam and lady make me cringe like Ive been hit. Im being honest. I like being seen as butch. I do not like the breasts and yet there is a part of me that wants them there doin what they do which is to say Im this person in this body and Im okay. I do like being seen as who I am for me and for the young butches coming up. Ive said it before..tho.....we are skeletons and spirit...that is how we are walking around. The other stuff is stuff __________________ "Love the questions" ...Rainier Marie Rilke...Letters to a young poet Che

08-31-2012, 10:54 AM	#3
Stronghealer Member How Do You Identify?: transbutch Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: EAST BAY Posts: 297 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 133 Thanked 343 Times in 98 Posts Rep Power: 7011897	Good morning I do not want anyone assuming anything about me-ask. We are more intricate then our outsides.

08-31-2012, 11:09 AM	#4
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,637 Times in 4,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I don't like being called ma'am or lady either. My partner calls me Sir. I would prefer she would be the only one that does. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

08-31-2012, 11:15 AM	#6
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,637 Times in 4,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Most of the times I get called sir, ma'am or lady are in customer service situations and it doesn't greatly offend me, but it does seem to add to having to gender everything. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

08-31-2012, 11:26 AM	#7
Bard Family Man How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: She just gets me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ..... Posts: 2,828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,997 Thanked 12,786 Times in 2,431 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	late at night a very drunk young man me and 2 of my officers talking to him trying to get his story now mind you I have my full duty uniform on that includes bulletproof vest.. it went something like this: me " look I know you have been drinking you need to stop giving my officers a hard time " Officer Bingo " so you need to give us you ID" Young man points to me and says " Shut up I want to talk to HIM" my officer becomes very angry and shakes his finger at drunk young man " have some respect can't you see my Corporal is a LADY" young man stopped and almost cried saying how sorry he was .. yeah I ended up wrapping him in a tarp {he had poopied his pants) and took his gross ass home he kept saying sorry finally I told him look I cut you a HUGE break do not have me called to your dorm for you tonight or I WILL arrest you __________________ This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name! Give yourself over to absolute pleasure. Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh - erotic nightmares beyond any measure, and sensual daydreams to treasure forever. Can't you just see it? Don't dream it, be it.

08-31-2012, 10:19 AM	#1
Jaques Member How Do You Identify?: male/TG Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 51 Thanked 398 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 2583512	As someone who has gone through the mill for a lifetime before transitioning, I spent a lot of my childhood wanting people to assume I was male when I looked very feminine. Now I look male and ive come through most of the "stuff" I can now concentrate more on living the kind of life where others views on my gender arent relevant