Grandchildren- That Special Bond

gaea · 09-14-2012, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

"Abuela" to 3 here: almost-17, 6.5, and, newborn, all born to my ex's dd and 3 different babydaddies, all druggies with significant criminal histories.

The eldest lived with us on and off for most of her life, and full time for the last couple of years after her momism her job and apartment due to her pain pill addiction. She's a beautiful petite energetic young woman who is a cheerleader and soccer player. So far at least she has responded to her mom's issues by staying very clear (by HER choice) from alcohol, drugs and sex. She and I have always had an arm's length relationship, both because her mom had huge issues with me and my ex's indulgence when I tried to have expectations of her such as chores and homework before texting and tv! I'm thrilled that we have finally bonded over something - we're both roller derby freaks

The 6yo is my heart. I've raised her as her primary parent since she was 20m but when the ex finally moves out next month, all the kids will go with her - I have zero legal rights. She has shown a strong preference for boy thing since she was 18m old and has rejected all girl thing since she was 3 and talks to me all the time about that she's really a boy. Her mom and my ex (grandmom/guardian) have huge issues with it and try to push her towards girl stuff, even though my ex is a TG butch.

The new baby was born July 29 at just 3.5lbs and addicted to methadone.

So... Not your typical grandma story.

for several years i raised my sisters kids who were all born addicted right along with mine...I know what your going through

gaea · 09-14-2012, 01:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

"Abuela" to 3 here: almost-17, 6.5, and, newborn, all born to my ex's dd and 3 different babydaddies, all druggies with significant criminal histories.

The eldest lived with us on and off for most of her life, and full time for the last couple of years after her momism her job and apartment due to her pain pill addiction. She's a beautiful petite energetic young woman who is a cheerleader and soccer player. So far at least she has responded to her mom's issues by staying very clear (by HER choice) from alcohol, drugs and sex. She and I have always had an arm's length relationship, both because her mom had huge issues with me and my ex's indulgence when I tried to have expectations of her such as chores and homework before texting and tv! I'm thrilled that we have finally bonded over something - we're both roller derby freaks

The 6yo is my heart. I've raised her as her primary parent since she was 20m but when the ex finally moves out next month, all the kids will go with her - I have zero legal rights. She has shown a strong preference for boy thing since she was 18m old and has rejected all girl thing since she was 3 and talks to me all the time about that she's really a boy. Her mom and my ex (grandmom/guardian) have huge issues with it and try to push her towards girl stuff, even though my ex is a TG butch.

The new baby was born July 29 at just 3.5lbs and addicted to methadone.

So... Not your typical grandma story.

Quote:

Originally Posted by gaea

for several years i raised my sisters kids who were all born addicted right along with mine...I know what your going through

edited to correct my grammar here.... my kida were not born addicted...I raised my sisters addicted babies with my children, ended up with all 9 of her kids not all at once however over the years...the last one though when cps called upon me i told them where to go..

Lady Pamela · 10-11-2012, 08:22 PM

My 12th grandbaby at 17 weeks..... smiles

Lady Pamela · 10-24-2012, 08:52 PM

IT'S A GIRL

HER NAME IS SHAY.
19 WEEKS

.

LadyRieinAL · 10-24-2012, 09:07 PM

I only thought I had been in love before and then along came my granddaughter WILLOW!!!!

Darbonaire · 10-25-2012, 05:33 AM

kid or grandkid kind of guy...BUT, I did & do find joy watching my grand-daughter grow....even though we are miles apart....she will always be in my heart....always !

Jonathan

Sachita · 10-25-2012, 06:14 AM

I can't believe my little munchkin will be two soon!

Lady Pamela · 03-12-2013, 10:41 PM

Shay Madeline Calvert has arrived...and came home today...mommy is doing good also.

Lady Pamela · 03-14-2013, 01:28 AM

wahya · 05-18-2013, 10:30 PM

My grandson is my heart , I was in the delivery room when he was born , I spent many a nights feeding and burping him, changing diapers,baths, drs appts, parks,pre school, t-ball,skateboarding, etc.. This little boy is now is 7. He is very affectionate which I know he got from me. And his sense of humor. He is smart and the sweetest boy you will ever meet. ( He also has big beautiful brown eyes). I had custody of this little boy while I went through my battle with cancer, he was 5. It was then I got to see his strength courage & compassion. He wanted to help his baba, he wanted to help take care of me, he once rubbed my black( from the chemo) and painful feet and he said I want you to get better so you can one day run with me. That just instantly warmed my heart. Unfortunetly my heart no longer feels warm, It feels nothing now. My daughter has pulled me out of his life. She has done this many times in the past. I have been the best mother I could be to her. I have given her everything she needed and sometimes wanted. She is now with every parents nightmare a psychopath who has turned her against me. She has a daughter with him and of course I have only met her twice. I hope no one has to ever go thru anything like this.

10-11-2012, 08:22 PM	#3
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10-24-2012, 08:52 PM	#4
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	IT'S A GIRL HER NAME IS SHAY. 19 WEEKS . __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

10-24-2012, 09:07 PM	#5
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10-25-2012, 05:33 AM	#6
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03-12-2013, 10:41 PM	#8
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Shay Madeline Calvert has arrived...and came home today...mommy is doing good also. __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

10-25-2012, 06:14 AM	#7
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03-14-2013, 01:28 AM	#9
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	__________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

05-18-2013, 10:30 PM	#10
wahya Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: im good Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 296 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 506 Thanked 857 Times in 240 Posts Rep Power: 0	My grandson is my heart , I was in the delivery room when he was born , I spent many a nights feeding and burping him, changing diapers,baths, drs appts, parks,pre school, t-ball,skateboarding, etc.. This little boy is now is 7. He is very affectionate which I know he got from me. And his sense of humor. He is smart and the sweetest boy you will ever meet. ( He also has big beautiful brown eyes). I had custody of this little boy while I went through my battle with cancer, he was 5. It was then I got to see his strength courage & compassion. He wanted to help his baba, he wanted to help take care of me, he once rubbed my black( from the chemo) and painful feet and he said I want you to get better so you can one day run with me. That just instantly warmed my heart. Unfortunetly my heart no longer feels warm, It feels nothing now. My daughter has pulled me out of his life. She has done this many times in the past. I have been the best mother I could be to her. I have given her everything she needed and sometimes wanted. She is now with every parents nightmare a psychopath who has turned her against me. She has a daughter with him and of course I have only met her twice. I hope no one has to ever go thru anything like this.