The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[lusciouskiwi]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

Oh and just to clarify - I'm not looking for love right now, just a sweet butch-with-benefits until I've fully unraveled this unholy mess of a marriage I got myself into (just 24 days until he hopefully closes on his house and MOVES OUT, and then I'll finally file for divorce!!). And yes I am seeing a very sweet butch at the moment but getting the feeling that she's not going to be continuing that for long

I'm just... Contemplating the future.

(and if you happen to know a sweet butch who is 45+ and lives within 100 miles of Delaware... )

Hey Dance, well, at least you got to (aherm) dance with the sweet butch right?

Isn't it sad that we think that age might be a barrier to finding love? I hope you do, we all deserve it.

[Dance-with-me]

Originally Posted by lusciouskiwi

Hey Dance, well, at least you got to (aherm) dance with the sweet butch right?

Isn't it sad that we think that age might be a barrier to finding love? I hope you do, we all deserve it.

Oh yes, she ::ahem:: dances very well!! I just think the distance between us is a big barrier to it going anywhere -- and is likely going to be a barrier for a lot of people I might meet, because there just aren't any butches around here that I've found (as others here from this area has attested to!), and I'm not willing to move since my grandkids are here and I have a great job that I hope to stay with until retirement (which is a MUCH bigger issue at this age and in this economy), and yet I can't reasonably expect that anyone's going to want to move here (not that I'd be willing to jump off THAT bridge any time soon, anyway!). And yet I also can't reasonably expect someone to accept a long-term long-distance relationship.

Ah, well, I don't want to sound as if I'm whining, which I'm really not, just being pragmatic.

[lusciouskiwi]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

Oh yes, she ::ahem:: dances very well!! I just think the distance between us is a big barrier to it going anywhere -- and is likely going to be a barrier for a lot of people I might meet, because there just aren't any butches around here that I've found (as others here from this area has attested to!), and I'm not willing to move since my grandkids are here and I have a great job that I hope to stay with until retirement (which is a MUCH bigger issue at this age and in this economy), and yet I can't reasonably expect that anyone's going to want to move here (not that I'd be willing to jump off THAT bridge any time soon, anyway!). And yet I also can't reasonably expect someone to accept a long-term long-distance relationship.

Ah, well, I don't want to sound as if I'm whining, which I'm really not, just being pragmatic.

Long-distance relationships CAN work. There are plenty of blossoms here on bfp who have/are in successful ones (I think there's a LDR thread). Don't count it out!