Single FTM's & Femme's

morningstar55 · 10-01-2012, 08:33 AM

Morning

LoyalWolfsBlade · 10-01-2012, 06:40 PM

Evening everyone...first day of the week and first day of the month...three months left in this year....anyone have Halloween plans...one of the times I wish I had children and the best memories I have of walking my nieces and nephews around...except is almost always rains here that night and is usually so cold by then that the kids have to wear coats over the costumes....I haven't decided if I am doing anything this year but I am sure I will do something...anyone else....I will at least hit the pumpkin and apples that are every where right now...

Hi to morningstar, Heavenleangel, leigh, and Hominid, Kent...and anyone else I forgot

Hominid · 10-01-2012, 07:34 PM

Retaining my sense of humor ...

An opossum was brought in by the dogs last night ... I thought it was an old, wet stuffed animal and I got really close and it was a young one, and it moved a leg - so I flipped out, got help from a friend who visits once a year (thank God bigger than me) and hid behind her ... when we returned it was gone. Damn, those things are nasty so I was even more ascared! Finally found it on the couch, my brave butch friend let me hide behind her while she gathered it and took it to the woods.

I can handle all modes/forms of dying people ... not animals. A bit of transference?

This morning, young, dead squirrel by my truck when I went to work.
And this evening, one of the dogs broke through a window on the garage trying to get to the birds in a nest which was built in the garage because I never close the door ...

Weird goings on ...

Leigh · 10-01-2012, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Hominid

I really had it in my head that I would have a snuggly and someone for whom to build a fire this fall/winter. I guess the snuggly remains the boxer and I'll build the fire for the parrot and save a tree at Christmas time. Ho hum and Bah Humbug.

Yeah I sometimes get that way around the holidays with not having anyone, but when its the right time someone will come into your life and it'll be amazing

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

Hang in there, Hominid. You never really know when that special person is going to come into your life.

Everyone has someone out there for them, and as hard as it can be to keep the faith (i know that too well), we just have to know someone is out there waiting for us too

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Originally Posted by Heavenleahangel

Hominid, I had the same thing rolling around in my head! Now it's fall, and I'm starting to adopt your way of thinking! Bah Humbug!!!

Aww I know ~ its so easy to adopt that way of thinking but with the holidays around the corner, I know atleast for me I can't stay in that mood too long!

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

Morning

Evening now morningstar, but I hope you had a good day

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Originally Posted by AlixKnight4All

Evening everyone...first day of the week and first day of the month...three months left in this year....anyone have Halloween plans...one of the times I wish I had children and the best memories I have of walking my nieces and nephews around...except is almost always rains here that night and is usually so cold by then that the kids have to wear coats over the costumes....I haven't decided if I am doing anything this year but I am sure I will do something...anyone else....I will at least hit the pumpkin and apples that are every where right now...

i still can't decide what i am gonna do but its too bad You didn't live closer Alix, You could help me to give out the candy cuz i will likely be giving the candy out alone this year booooooooooo lol

LoyalWolfsBlade · 10-01-2012, 08:08 PM

More like keep you from eating it you mean leigh....hey I know we can keep each other from eating it and you can make sure I don't give out handfuls of candy at a time instead of a couple

Hominid · 10-01-2012, 09:51 PM

At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers.

My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ...

Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born.

More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

Leigh · 10-01-2012, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by AlixKnight4All

More like keep you from eating it you mean leigh....hey I know we can keep each other from eating it and you can make sure I don't give out handfuls of candy at a time instead of a couple

*giggles* yes Your so right Alix, i think if we were giving out candy together it would be quite interesting *grin*

Nadeest · 10-02-2012, 04:25 AM

It definitely gets 'interesting', Hominid, having to have that 'talk' with someone that you are interested in, when you tell them that you are ts, and what that implies. I've had to do it once, with a male, so far, and he completely lost interest at that point. A pity, but it is a lot better response then what could have happened.

stepfordfemme · 10-02-2012, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Hominid

At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers.

My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ...

Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born.

More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

The bolded section may be your experience, but I just want to say there are femmes (including my young fine twentysomething femme self) that care a lot more about than c*ck/No c*ck.

I've been partnered with one of those young twentysomething (very hot) transguys, that you think may have it made. Please talk to these guys. Talk on this site. Just to see if their experiences validate your opinion.

We all have a tough road... femmes that feel invisible and trans men that don't pass. Men that deal with the exact issues you speak of. It might not change how you feel, but you might find some people to share your experiences with. Maybe they'll hook you up with a hottie tattoo'ed geek they know. As a trans-sensual femme, believe me the dating scene is no easier on us. I feel/have felt like I need a sign on my forehead.

Maybe you should try talking to some queer Id'ed or pansexual/sapiosexual/ whatever new beautiful word-- some of these ladies have. Gender identity for femmes/females is just as varied as with the trans community.

And, as a woman, I would hope that my love for my partner would surpass any barrier. I will someday not be my young fabulous self, and I would hope that my man would want me JUST the same. Love is all encompassing. Lust is just the physical.

Nice step off for some discussion!

10-01-2012, 08:33 AM	#1
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

10-01-2012, 06:40 PM	#2
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Evening everyone...first day of the week and first day of the month...three months left in this year....anyone have Halloween plans...one of the times I wish I had children and the best memories I have of walking my nieces and nephews around...except is almost always rains here that night and is usually so cold by then that the kids have to wear coats over the costumes....I haven't decided if I am doing anything this year but I am sure I will do something...anyone else....I will at least hit the pumpkin and apples that are every where right now... Hi to morningstar, Heavenleangel, leigh, and Hominid, Kent...and anyone else I forgot __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

10-01-2012, 07:34 PM	#3
Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	Rambling Property Woes - Retaining my sense of humor ... An opossum was brought in by the dogs last night ... I thought it was an old, wet stuffed animal and I got really close and it was a young one, and it moved a leg - so I flipped out, got help from a friend who visits once a year (thank God bigger than me) and hid behind her ... when we returned it was gone. Damn, those things are nasty so I was even more ascared! Finally found it on the couch, my brave butch friend let me hide behind her while she gathered it and took it to the woods. I can handle all modes/forms of dying people ... not animals. A bit of transference? This morning, young, dead squirrel by my truck when I went to work. And this evening, one of the dogs broke through a window on the garage trying to get to the birds in a nest which was built in the garage because I never close the door ... Weird goings on ...

10-01-2012, 08:08 PM	#5
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	More like keep you from eating it you mean leigh....hey I know we can keep each other from eating it and you can make sure I don't give out handfuls of candy at a time instead of a couple __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

10-01-2012, 09:51 PM	#6
Hominid Member How Do You Identify?: Male with interesting historical perspective Relationship Status: Taking Applications Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: In perpetual Wonder. And Western Mass. Posts: 254 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 417 Thanked 753 Times in 187 Posts Rep Power: 11507408	At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers. My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ... Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born. More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

10-02-2012, 04:25 AM	#8
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	It definitely gets 'interesting', Hominid, having to have that 'talk' with someone that you are interested in, when you tell them that you are ts, and what that implies. I've had to do it once, with a male, so far, and he completely lost interest at that point. A pity, but it is a lot better response then what could have happened.