The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

ruthie14 · 10-01-2012, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel (aka BlistexLez)

I think the best advice I can offer a femme is to be YOU. No facade, no "lemme try to be who they want", no games (unless they are games you are both into). JUST BE YOU. After the wooing, YOU is what remains, so why not start off with that? Plus, having met in person, I think YOU is wonderful

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

Oh well, such is my love life recently....

on top of that, my dog has been ill the last 24 hours. Was trying to figure it out... finally I realized my mother had given her a steak bone from her dinner last night. Bella has a very sensitive tummy and cannot eat but very spacific things. So here I am, up late, washing her bedding, cooking rice and will have to get up early to cook her chicken (had to get it out of the freezer and is just starting to thaw) so she can have it for breakfast. She is still throwing up. I am exhausted! Only had Sunday afternoon off from working and will work straight through to the weekend. 2 jobs on tues and thursday. urrrrggggg

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Mel C. · 10-01-2012, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Poor baby. I am sorry to hear things aren't great. I am a big fan of being real. I have major highs and major lows. If someone only sees one or the other, they don't know ME. I figure, put it all out there and the ones who are skeered aren't the "right" people to be in your inner circle. Sometimes people just need to absorb for a bit and then they come to their senses.

I'm also wishing your pup a better tummy.

HUGS

clay · 10-01-2012, 09:29 PM

evening all you beautiful lofters! Welcome to the newbies! Great to see new folks on this thread.
I read posts often, don't post much here! Enjoy seeing how everyone is doing!
Hugs Ruthie...it WILL get better....hang in there my friend!!
Enjoy your evening everyone...Clay

LipstickLola · 10-02-2012, 07:13 AM

Wow! Lots of action in here, yaaaaay!

Ruthie, hang tight!!! I share your struggles!! I'd love to be able to connect with other women, there just isn't a place like that in my community and everyone I know is partnered, sigh....

It's rainy and nasty out this morning and since I'm still in recovery mode I think I'll nap then head off to the gym for a little light rehab.

Hope everyone here (Welcome New Lofters!!) has had a great start to their week!!

deb0670 · 10-02-2012, 07:44 AM

hiya everyone ! I would love to join this Awesome group of people. I am 42, a mother of three( son is 25, then two daughters 23,and an almost 16 yr old) and a grandmother of a nine month old grandson. I feel older than I am sometimes, especially admitting that i have a 25 yr old, but then I have to remind myself i had him two weeks before I turned 17.

dykeumentary · 10-02-2012, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

I told you that you should have made a move on the OTHER one!!!

Ruthie, you're amazing and the perfect butch will come to you.
We will just keep having fun until then, ok ! ?

Canela · 10-02-2012, 09:44 AM

Hi Everyone,

I'd like to be part of this group as well...
I'm 49 and am having a great time and a hard time with myself right now...lol

I'm in transition, I moved last year, downsizing since I'm now an empty-nester (but that's getting easier)...I'm in a healing place right now, as far as my heart is concerned and I'm really needing/looking for a safe/comfortable place in our community, if you will. This feels like that place.

So, I hope it's okay if I stay awhile...?

Two-spirit · 10-02-2012, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

Oh well, such is my love life recently....

on top of that, my dog has been ill the last 24 hours. Was trying to figure it out... finally I realized my mother had given her a steak bone from her dinner last night. Bella has a very sensitive tummy and cannot eat but very spacific things. So here I am, up late, washing her bedding, cooking rice and will have to get up early to cook her chicken (had to get it out of the freezer and is just starting to thaw) so she can have it for breakfast. She is still throwing up. I am exhausted! Only had Sunday afternoon off from working and will work straight through to the weekend. 2 jobs on tues and thursday. urrrrggggg

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

Sorry to hear about yr dog. hope he/she gets better..

Sachita · 10-02-2012, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Thanks Mel, I needed to hear that right now!!You are very sweet!

Apparently, this woman doesn't share your opinion. I am ok, I guess, but the fact that my mother shares my home (mind you she is independent, healthy, is not here 2x's a week, very accepting of me and my friends/gf etc) and that I have a dog... well, that put the brakes on it. Wow... really?

Oh well, such is my love life recently....

on top of that, my dog has been ill the last 24 hours. Was trying to figure it out... finally I realized my mother had given her a steak bone from her dinner last night. Bella has a very sensitive tummy and cannot eat but very spacific things. So here I am, up late, washing her bedding, cooking rice and will have to get up early to cook her chicken (had to get it out of the freezer and is just starting to thaw) so she can have it for breakfast. She is still throwing up. I am exhausted! Only had Sunday afternoon off from working and will work straight through to the weekend. 2 jobs on tues and thursday. urrrrggggg

Can somebody please help me find my happy place!!!

That's screwed up. Family comes first in my book. In fact I had this conversation with my hairdresser about dating and family. My family accepts anyone I date and some of my ex's stay in contact with me and them. Family is very important to me and truth is I'd rather be with family when i have time off work. So if my partner can't dial into this whole family thing then we won't be moving into the future. I also prefer to be with someone who has strong family ties but also know that some families are not as accepting as mine.

I'm sorry to hear about Bella. hugs she will be fine.

Ruthie I know how you feel, really I do. I've been a lone and single for a while now. I just refuse to settle. I prefer meeting everyone as friends and I'm slow going. Focus on your friendships and building deep wonderful bonds. Woman's space is just so nice sometimes. Make time for it. I'd love to meet up with you for something. You're not that far. Maybe a nice half way point some of us could meet up and enjoy the fall colors.

Be good to yourself. You're an amazing person.

10-01-2012, 09:29 PM	#3
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,662 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	evening all you beautiful lofters! Welcome to the newbies! Great to see new folks on this thread. I read posts often, don't post much here! Enjoy seeing how everyone is doing! Hugs Ruthie...it WILL get better....hang in there my friend!! Enjoy your evening everyone...Clay __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

10-02-2012, 07:44 AM	#5
deb0670 Member How Do You Identify?: femme/ baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she,her Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,348 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,520 Thanked 6,026 Times in 1,189 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	hiya everyone ! I would love to join this Awesome group of people. I am 42, a mother of three( son is 25, then two daughters 23,and an almost 16 yr old) and a grandmother of a nine month old grandson. I feel older than I am sometimes, especially admitting that i have a 25 yr old, but then I have to remind myself i had him two weeks before I turned 17. __________________ Remember the lessons, forget the details. Use the stumbling blocks of the past as stepping stones to help build the future.

10-02-2012, 09:44 AM	#7
Canela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babe, she, her, ella Relationship Status: Well loved… Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 2,375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,644 Thanked 6,502 Times in 1,694 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Jumping in... Hi Everyone, I'd like to be part of this group as well... I'm 49 and am having a great time and a hard time with myself right now...lol I'm in transition, I moved last year, downsizing since I'm now an empty-nester (but that's getting easier)...I'm in a healing place right now, as far as my heart is concerned and I'm really needing/looking for a safe/comfortable place in our community, if you will. This feels like that place. So, I hope it's okay if I stay awhile...? __________________ . . . . . Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

10-02-2012, 07:13 AM	#4
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678218	Wow! Lots of action in here, yaaaaay! Ruthie, hang tight!!! I share your struggles!! I'd love to be able to connect with other women, there just isn't a place like that in my community and everyone I know is partnered, sigh.... It's rainy and nasty out this morning and since I'm still in recovery mode I think I'll nap then head off to the gym for a little light rehab. Hope everyone here (Welcome New Lofters!!) has had a great start to their week!!