Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

Bèsame* · 10-02-2012, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Fatale

I'm with you on that one. Please don't show up with carnations!

Star gazer lilies and you can have me now!!

*Anya* · 10-02-2012, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Uniqueswtfemm

Star gazer lilies and you can have me now!!

Stargazer lilies and you will be taking me to the ER on our date because I will be wheezing and having an asthma attack.

Careful with the flowers until you know if someone is allergic or not...

Electrocell · 10-02-2012, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Stargazer lilies and you will be taking me to the ER on our date because I will be wheezing and having an asthma attack.

Careful with the flowers until you know if someone is allergic or not...

Agree with you on this, Hopefully the both of you have talked long enough before you meet to at least find out things like this about each other.

girl_dee · 10-02-2012, 12:47 PM

Electrocell you and i chatted about this before, and i have thought about it since then..

IMO regarding flowers or any other nicety, it depends on the conversations and situation leading up to the "meeting".

Showing up to pick someone up at home for a date, with some flowers.. to be escorted on a date can be a good thing.

If iv'e been chatting to you online and you show up with a bouquet of flowers at a concert for example, at out first meeting i may feel uncomfy about that. Especially if i don't like attention drawn to myself, that would be overdoing it for me. Trying too hard. Just meet me for some conversation and coffee in clean clothes, sober, with your respect in tact and that would go way further than flowers.

i do agree first dates are about getting to know each other. i've never been impressed with flowers per se, now a nice fishing rod, that would impress me. At least it required a thought process about me.

However, i do like a simple daisy.

Electrocell · 10-02-2012, 01:26 PM

That was why I was asking if I was out of date when it came to stuff like this . Haven't dated in a long time and am willing to ask the the advice of the all the ladies . Thank you.

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Electrocell you and i chatted about this before, and i have thought about it since then..

IMO regarding flowers or any other nicety, it depends on the conversations and situation leading up to the "meeting".

Showing up to pick someone up at home for a date, with some flowers.. to be escorted on a date can be a good thing.

If iv'e been chatting to you online and you show up with a bouquet of flowers at a concert for example, at out first meeting i may feel uncomfy about that. Especially if i don't like attention drawn to myself, that would be overdoing it for me. Trying too hard. Just meet me for some conversation and coffee in clean clothes, sober, with your respect in tact and that would go way further than flowers.

i do agree first dates are about getting to know each other. i've never been impressed with flowers per se, now a nice fishing rod, that would impress me. At least it required a thought process about me.

However, i do like a simple daisy.

girl_dee · 10-02-2012, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

That was why I was asking if I was out of date when it came to stuff like this . Haven't dated in a long time and am willing to ask the the advice of the all the ladies . Thank you.

You are truly a nice gent...

thedivahrrrself · 10-02-2012, 03:51 PM

There's a place for talk about exes, one of the first things you want to know about someone is why they're single. It brings up red flags if it's ALL the ex's fault, and you are always the innocent victim in the ends of your relationships. It's also a big red flag if you go on & on about an ex. You're probably not over her yet.

I second everything gaea said about obsession with "hotness" - HUGE turn-off!

And if I ever decide to date Dee, I'm bringing a fishing pole

girl_dee · 06-28-2017, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by girl_dee

Electrocell you and i chatted about this before, and i have thought about it since then..

IMO regarding flowers or any other nicety, it depends on the conversations and situation leading up to the "meeting".

Showing up to pick someone up at home for a date, with some flowers.. to be escorted on a date can be a good thing.

If iv'e been chatting to you online and you show up with a bouquet of flowers at a concert for example, at out first meeting i may feel uncomfy about that. Especially if i don't like attention drawn to myself, that would be overdoing it for me. Trying too hard. Just meet me for some conversation and coffee in clean clothes, sober, with your respect in tact and that would go way further than flowers.

i do agree first dates are about getting to know each other. i've never been impressed with flowers per se, now a nice fishing rod, that would impress me. At least it required a thought process about me.

However, i do like a simple daisy.

Update!

It depends on who the date is with. If we are romantically involved, please do go all out. At this stage in my life i would like to know i am important and that you are present with me. i've never liked the attention that spoiling me comes with, but i am over it. Spoil me.

If we are on a first date you obviously have my interest. Talk about something engaging, lose the cellphone, notice me and expect me to notice you. On a first date i am about gathering information, and to see if there will be a second. Maybe they won't want a second, and thats fine too.

Be a good tipper if you are paying and walk me to my car.

Don't forget to make sure i got home okay.

macele · 10-02-2012, 12:56 PM

there's a time and a place to talk about exes, ... on a date is not one of them. i think a first date "gift" (meaning like flowers) could be decided upon by the woman i am taking out. i could find a place to buy flowers before the date and then say something like "i wasn't sure if you like flowers, so i'm asking now ... and if so, what kind? i know this great place if you'd let me take you there." now this of course would depend on if there's a place open lol. but hey, i could purposely make the date on a saturday afternoon! now if she doesn't like flowers, or allergic, ... i need a back up plan lol.

i like to listen for clues as to what she likes. just show up with a cool gift. when her face lights up, ... maybe an omg! i love it!, ... makes me smile and blush thinking about it.

if she told me she'd rather have a scoop (or 2!) of butter pecan ice cream, ... i'd be happy to get what she wants.

i enjoy reading! thanks.

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,231 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	there's a time and a place to talk about exes, ... on a date is not one of them. i think a first date "gift" (meaning like flowers) could be decided upon by the woman i am taking out. i could find a place to buy flowers before the date and then say something like "i wasn't sure if you like flowers, so i'm asking now ... and if so, what kind? i know this great place if you'd let me take you there." now this of course would depend on if there's a place open lol. but hey, i could purposely make the date on a saturday afternoon! now if she doesn't like flowers, or allergic, ... i need a back up plan lol. i like to listen for clues as to what she likes. just show up with a cool gift. when her face lights up, ... maybe an omg! i love it!, ... makes me smile and blush thinking about it. if she told me she'd rather have a scoop (or 2!) of butter pecan ice cream, ... i'd be happy to get what she wants. i enjoy reading! thanks.