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alex k · 03-05-2010, 09:57 PM

in all my dreams i was the bold handsome man. in real life i was the one who held doors open, who walked on the outside of the kerb,who carried bags. i was as much of a boy as my brothers at least on the inside. can't ever remember a time when i looked in the mirror and thought 'thats me' Thi nk the reflections song in mulan was written just for me.

Jet · 03-06-2010, 10:05 PM

Thanks to Linus and Greyson for the PMs, link and input. Guess I don't feel so alone in my thinking anymore.

Thanks again,
jet

TCB · 03-08-2010, 09:42 PM

Hey All,
I wanted to share with you a cool radio program about a variety of trans topics and issues. Great listen, check it out

http://kboo.fm/GenderBlender

Linus · 03-09-2010, 12:35 PM

Hey everyone...

I just received this from CNN:

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Hi there,

Since you previously contributed to our Transgendered Stories assignment on CNN iReport, I thought you’d like to know about a new assignment that just launched. To coincide with the CNN documentary “Her Name Was Steven,” we’re looking for transgendered, transsexual or questioning individuals to share a message with the world. What would you like others to know about you and your experience?

The assignment is simple: Just put a message that you would like others to know about you on a sign and take a self-portrait holding it up.
You can find the assignment here: http://www.ireport.com/ir-topic-stor...topicId=417959

We’re accepting submissions until April 9. Please feel free to pass the word along! We look forward to seeing your submissions.

Best,
Katie Hawkins-Gaar

p.s. “Her Name Was Steven” airs on CNN this Saturday and Sunday at 8 and 11 p.m. ET. You can find out more here: http://www.cnn.com/CNN/Programs/presents/

So, I'm working on what I'll post up but if you want to post your own picture with a message, do so. It'd be nice to see so many positive and supportive options out there.

Linus · 03-10-2010, 04:43 PM

So I upload my pix and comments. You can see them here: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-418506

Jet · 03-10-2010, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Linus

So I upload my pix and comments. You can see them here: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-418506

I just took a look. Very nice.

Linus · 03-11-2010, 08:06 AM

Thanks for all the comments everyone. Weirdly enough, I got an email from the same editor this morning asking me further about my iReport and would I be ok with my real name being used and what phone number to call me at if they have further questions.

Greyson · 03-11-2010, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Linus

Thanks for all the comments everyone. Weirdly enough, I got an email from the same editor this morning asking me further about my iReport and would I be ok with my real name being used and what phone number to call me at if they have further questions.

Nice job Linus. I like your well chosen message, words. I see you. I am a better person for having seen you, your words these past few years.

EthanGaBoy · 03-12-2010, 11:37 AM

Linus, you are awesome man. Thank you for being that brave!

ETHAN

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Originally Posted by Linus

So I upload my pix and comments. You can see them here: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-418506

Corkey · 03-13-2010, 06:35 PM

Tonight on CNN a documentary called "Her name was Steven" 8 PM eastern.

Soon · 03-13-2010, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Tonight on CNN a documentary called "Her name was Steven" 8 PM eastern.

Thanks--it's on now here and is very interesting.

The Oopster · 03-13-2010, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Tonight on CNN a documentary called "Her name was Steven" 8 PM eastern.

For those that missed that showing it is on at other times so just search for it if you can ... it is showing at 11pm pacific today, sat and i did notice atleast one showing tomorrow, Sunday

Thinker · 03-13-2010, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by The Oopster

For those that missed that showing it is on at other times so just search for it if you can ... it is showing at 11pm pacific today, sat and i did notice atleast one showing tomorrow, Sunday

It's on again on Sunday at 8 pm (eastern time) and 11 pm (eastern time). They may run it again a time or two after that.

Remember that tonight/tomorrow morning is time change: spring forward.

Linus · 03-13-2010, 08:57 PM

And whatever you do, don't go to CNN and check out the article on it (or rather the comments to the article). They are vile and hurtful.

Jet · 03-13-2010, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Linus

And whatever you do, don't go to CNN and check out the article on it (or rather the comments to the article). They are vile and hurtful.

Dayum, I have not checked out the response, but i'm sorry. i guess just being satisfied with our own self is enough and that's what matters. here's to you, bro for having guts to put it out there.

parker

Logicaly · 03-14-2010, 08:09 PM

First time posting in this thread, but been reading along quietly as I contemplate where I want to go with my life...

I know who I am, and what I am. I am male, but very much retain my queer identity at the same time. It is what works for me.

That being said, I have finally made the decision that I am ready to start seeing a therapist, and taking T so that I can move forward with who I am.

First question, how did you go about finding a therapist? I'm in the San Francisco bay area, so I am sure I have a lot of resources available to me, but I am also very secluded, and have for most of my life been a hermit, so I am very unaware of what my resources are around me.

Second question, has anyone looked into an alternative to shots? I have such a huge issue with needles, of any kind, that it is a big deal breaker for me unfortunately. I know there are options such as the patch, or a gel. Does anyone have any experience with these? I've been doing a little bit of reading up on them and it seems they might be viable options for me.

Linus · 03-14-2010, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Logicaly

First time posting in this thread, but been reading along quietly as I contemplate where I want to go with my life...

I know who I am, and what I am. I am male, but very much retain my queer identity at the same time. It is what works for me.

That being said, I have finally made the decision that I am ready to start seeing a therapist, and taking T so that I can move forward with who I am.

First question, how did you go about finding a therapist? I'm in the San Francisco bay area, so I am sure I have a lot of resources available to me, but I am also very secluded, and have for most of my life been a hermit, so I am very unaware of what my resources are around me.

Second question, has anyone looked into an alternative to shots? I have such a huge issue with needles, of any kind, that it is a big deal breaker for me unfortunately. I know there are options such as the patch, or a gel. Does anyone have any experience with these? I've been doing a little bit of reading up on them and it seems they might be viable options for me.

In regards to your first question, if it were me I'd start here: http://www.tgsf.org/ they likely have the resources and contacts you need.

As for the 2nd, once the 1st is addressed they can look into other mechanisms for getting T. I've heard that patch based T tends to be a "lower" dosage (lower being a relative term). There are also "pellets", although these are more expensive they last for 3-4 months at a time (not sure yet if the US allows for those yet). I don't know much about the gel other than it has to be done daily.

Linus · 03-15-2010, 09:44 AM

I was reading a POC TransWoman's blog (http://transgriot.blogspot.com/2010/...ual-white.html) and noticed that she is very right. CNN, although doing some decent work on presenting trans individuals, is leaving out a huge part of the community: trans individuals of colour. My own privilege blinded me to the fact that this part is missing. The reality is they often face greater socio-economic challenges that are otherwise missed by white trans individuals. From my conversations with some trans men of colour they face new challenges (I've heard of trans men being stopped more than white trans men). I honestly do not know of specific challenges that POC trans women face but I would imagine it is similar to WOC and yet, amplified.

Why is it that in our own trans community we ignore this part of the community? It's not a small part (at least not here in NYC in the groups I've been in).

SFFemmePrincess · 03-16-2010, 08:22 PM

So as a follow up to Logic's post... First thank you Linus for that link, we checked it out, and while their mission statement says they are open to people of all gender presentations, they seem to me more geared toward TransWomen. But I did do a little research and found a couple of clinics. Does anyone in the bay area have any experience with the Trans services at the Tom Waddell Clinic, The Lyon Martin clinic, or with New Leaf counseling? I do have a friend that goes to New Leaf and he is really getting a lot out of it, but any other insight would be great. Also, I have done a lot of reading, but am I correct in that the first step he should take in the actual process would be finding a therapist? Are we on the right track?

Thinker · 03-16-2010, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rainbowchick07

but am I correct in that the first step he should take in the actual process would be finding a therapist? Are we on the right track?

I think that is the best first step. That'll help him get his thoughts in order and gain some perspective, and it will also be invaluable down the road if/when he pursues medical and/or surgical intervention.

Good luck!

03-10-2010, 04:43 PM	#165
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	So I upload my pix and comments. You can see them here: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-418506 __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

03-11-2010, 08:06 AM	#167
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Thanks for all the comments everyone. Weirdly enough, I got an email from the same editor this morning asking me further about my iReport and would I be ok with my real name being used and what phone number to call me at if they have further questions. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

03-13-2010, 06:35 PM	#170
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,270 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	FYI Tonight on CNN a documentary called "Her name was Steven" 8 PM eastern. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

03-13-2010, 08:57 PM	#174
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	And whatever you do, don't go to CNN and check out the article on it (or rather the comments to the article). They are vile and hurtful. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

03-14-2010, 08:09 PM	#176
Logicaly Member How Do You Identify?: Transgender Male Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: She is the gamer girl to my gamer boy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California, Bay Area Posts: 683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 395 Thanked 1,742 Times in 513 Posts Rep Power: 8641138	First time posting in this thread, but been reading along quietly as I contemplate where I want to go with my life... I know who I am, and what I am. I am male, but very much retain my queer identity at the same time. It is what works for me. That being said, I have finally made the decision that I am ready to start seeing a therapist, and taking T so that I can move forward with who I am. First question, how did you go about finding a therapist? I'm in the San Francisco bay area, so I am sure I have a lot of resources available to me, but I am also very secluded, and have for most of my life been a hermit, so I am very unaware of what my resources are around me. Second question, has anyone looked into an alternative to shots? I have such a huge issue with needles, of any kind, that it is a big deal breaker for me unfortunately. I know there are options such as the patch, or a gel. Does anyone have any experience with these? I've been doing a little bit of reading up on them and it seems they might be viable options for me. __________________ ~Logicaly~ Geeky guy extraordinaire Always and Forever

03-05-2010, 09:57 PM	#161
alex k Junior Member How Do You Identify?: trans male Preferred Pronoun?: anything other than she Relationship Status: well and truly caught Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: uk Posts: 15 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12 Thanked 17 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 16	in all my dreams i was the bold handsome man. in real life i was the one who held doors open, who walked on the outside of the kerb,who carried bags. i was as much of a boy as my brothers at least on the inside. can't ever remember a time when i looked in the mirror and thought 'thats me' Thi nk the reflections song in mulan was written just for me.

03-06-2010, 10:05 PM	#162
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Thanks to Linus and Greyson for the PMs, link and input. Guess I don't feel so alone in my thinking anymore. Thanks again, jet

03-08-2010, 09:42 PM	#163
TCB Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Male (FTM) Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/His/Sir :) Relationship Status: My heart does not give of itself easily Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Long Beach, CA Posts: 77 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 45 Thanked 64 Times in 32 Posts Rep Power: 931387	Hey All, I wanted to share with you a cool radio program about a variety of trans topics and issues. Great listen, check it out http://kboo.fm/GenderBlender

03-15-2010, 09:44 AM	#178
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I was reading a POC TransWoman's blog (http://transgriot.blogspot.com/2010/...ual-white.html) and noticed that she is very right. CNN, although doing some decent work on presenting trans individuals, is leaving out a huge part of the community: trans individuals of colour. My own privilege blinded me to the fact that this part is missing. The reality is they often face greater socio-economic challenges that are otherwise missed by white trans individuals. From my conversations with some trans men of colour they face new challenges (I've heard of trans men being stopped more than white trans men). I honestly do not know of specific challenges that POC trans women face but I would imagine it is similar to WOC and yet, amplified. Why is it that in our own trans community we ignore this part of the community? It's not a small part (at least not here in NYC in the groups I've been in). __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

03-16-2010, 08:22 PM	#179
SFFemmePrincess Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Lesbian Princess Preferred Pronoun?: Female Pronouns Relationship Status: Single but also non negotiably non monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bay Area Gal! Posts: 142 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47 Thanked 270 Times in 77 Posts Rep Power: 687706	So as a follow up to Logic's post... First thank you Linus for that link, we checked it out, and while their mission statement says they are open to people of all gender presentations, they seem to me more geared toward TransWomen. But I did do a little research and found a couple of clinics. Does anyone in the bay area have any experience with the Trans services at the Tom Waddell Clinic, The Lyon Martin clinic, or with New Leaf counseling? I do have a friend that goes to New Leaf and he is really getting a lot out of it, but any other insight would be great. Also, I have done a lot of reading, but am I correct in that the first step he should take in the actual process would be finding a therapist? Are we on the right track?