What attracts you to Ftms ......

[Dance-with-me]

Originally Posted by Gemme

The 50s era was not exactly beneficial to the progress of women's rights. It kinda sucked at it in a big way. But if someone wants to dress in an apron and take care of their man/guy/butch/wife/etc in ways that simulate that time, then what beeswax is it to anyone else HOW they do it as long as it's not abusive? Really? C'mon now.

I have to agree with this. First, I didn't read the "June Cleaver" lifestyle as a commentary on anything other than the image/surface ideal - I certainly didn't read it as a denial of the issues behind that actual time period.

But the main thing is that as a strong feminist, I believe that women have the right to choose, INCLUDING the right to choose to be a "housewife" and meet her spouse at the door with a cocktail in hand, wearing an apron and pearls as she cooks her spouse's favorite meal. Women choices should be respected even if they choose things that were once considered anti-feminist: Posing nude, being a sex worker, modeling as a pin-up girl, rarely if ever going out of the house without being perfectly made-up and coiffed, being a "girl" or "submissive" to a "Daddy" or "Master," etc. If those things are being forced on her by someone who is abusive and controlling, or she's doing them only because of the lack of any viable economic choices, or because of her own lack of self-esteem, or because she's been very conditioned to believe that's the only thing she can do well, that's an entirely different story. But I would like to at least presume that when anyone talks about something like that here, they are talking about a consensual relationship where both parties truly have equal power.

[Canela]

I like that I don't have to be anything other than myself, a girlie girl, a lady, a woman, a mother...and he is my man, bf, mister and doesn't have a problem with me being me and him being him. We just are...

I had a long with term relationship with someone who was soft butch and that person tried to do and control everything and kept me from contributing to our relationship in the way I (a) female, girlie girl, mama, woman like me does...it pretty much cut me out of being a part of the whole thing. I was supposed to just do as I was directed to do instead of directing, as well...I couldn't hang with that. I know not everyone is that way, but for ME, there was no "ying-yang" thing going on there.

I was raised very old school, but with a feminist influence.

I love/enjoy being a care giver, a mother, a lover, and a woman that belongs with a male energy...It just feels right for me. I don't cater to my man because I have to, I do it because I want to. I am that way...if anyone came to my home for let's say a dinner party, I would cater to you as well...it's just the way I roll...not because I am being submissive, but because I care to be good to you and ensure you are enjoying your time visiting me/us. The same with me and my man/bf/FtM...I do it because I want him to be comfortable, make it easier for him to relax...put him in a good frame of mind...I like doing those types of things. (I also like them being done for me...)

That said, I also like to be a strong, empowered, intelligent woman...I like to have a voice in my dealings whether personal or professional. I like to have the power to say yes or no to things in our life that affect us (he and I) and I am not militant about it unless "I" feel my rights or feelings have been violated/overlooked/trampled upon and then you (general you/they) WILL definitely hear from me.

I have found that my voice, my sphere of influence, while not very large does have a deep resonating effect on some and I use it wisely. By wisely, I mean that I encourage all people/genders/lifestyle/etc... to be all they can be, and do all they can do, follow their hearts and dreams and goals and what they want to do to find their own joy in life. Because in the end, it's not about how society, I, or anyone else tells us how to live to be happy. It's our own personal choices that will make us so.

So, back to the topic at hand--okay, so I love me some FtM's.
(One in particular that I'm rather fond of...)