What attracts you to Ftms ......

[weatherboi]

For me, describing everyday kindness and manners under the guise of old fashioned/old school is just antiquated thinking. In my world, none of these things are gender specific, age specific, or heteronormative specific. The days are long gone that I need to adopt herteronormative ideals in order for me validate my relationship or my gender. It is no longer necessary for me.

I know the many reasons why I am attracted to Her and She is attracted to me. The list gets longer everyday and it strengthens the endless nature to attraction and love. It is this endless exchange that grows this Femme led relationship.

Chivalry, manners, and attraction are not dead...they just doesn't always look or act like an old 50's sitcom, nor does it only belong to any gender or culture.

I am not sure why kink was brought up.

[Darbonaire]

Originally Posted by weatherboi

For me, describing everyday kindness and manners under the guise of old fashioned/old school is just antiquated thinking. In my world, none of these things are gender specific, age specific, or heteronormative specific. The days are long gone that I need to adopt herteronormative ideals in order for me validate my relationship or my gender. It is no longer necessary for me.

I know the many reasons why I am attracted to Her and She is attracted to me. The list gets longer everyday and it strengthens the endless nature to attraction and love. It is this endless exchange that grows this Femme led relationship.

Chivalry, manners, and attraction are not dead...they just doesn't always look or act like an old 50's sitcom, nor does it only belong to any gender or culture.

I am not sure why kink was brought up.

Again, your opinion & I respect that. I'm not aware I truly placed manners & common courtesy ONLY in the "good old days" at all. I simply have found that people today aren't as aware or concerned with them....that's been my experience. From the snotty nosed child who bolts past you & runs into you not saying excuse me....to the woman OR man who cuts right in front of you to grab a box of faux mac & cheese & seems completely oblivious to the space that you inhabit.....THAT is what I'm talking about......I was raised to say please & thank you, excuse me, pardon me etc...I was born in the 50's & my friends from then were also taught likewise....I KNOW there are parents & teachers who teach it today also....it just seems to ME it is less prevelant.....that's all.

[weatherboi]

Ok, well I am not speaking of the experiences I have out in the world with a bunch of general you's. I am speaking from a dating and love perspective and I thought you were also. I thought we all were. I don't have an expectation of how strangers are gonna act when I am out running into them. I am sure there are kids in the 50's that acted like asshats...we all do, the good old day were not absent from this. Personally public rudeness for me is more apparent because there are more people in the world trying to get shit done. I was not born in the 50's and I was raised this way. Our kids weren't born in the 50's and they were raised this way. I just always chalked it up to a population problem and not it being less prevelent because I run into way more polite people than I do rude people.

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

Again, your opinion & I respect that. I'm not aware I truly placed manners & common courtesy ONLY in the "good old days" at all. I simply have found that people today aren't as aware or concerned with them....that's been my experience. From the snotty nosed child who bolts past you & runs into you not saying excuse me....to the woman OR man who cuts right in front of you to grab a box of faux mac & cheese & seems completely oblivious to the space that you inhabit.....THAT is what I'm talking about......I was raised to say please & thank you, excuse me, pardon me etc...I was born in the 50's & my friends from then were also taught likewise....I KNOW there are parents & teachers who teach it today also....it just seems to ME it is less prevelant.....that's all.