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Old 10-28-2012, 05:52 AM   #1
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I am a Butch in a non-Femme area. I get double takes from women here all the time. They look at me thinking I am a guy. I am sure that if I encountered a Femme I would not know unless she flirted with me. Then again one is never really sure.
I had a woman come in to the store to pick out a watch and she kept asking me which one I liked. LOL She picked the one I said I liked and then told the cashier that I helped her pick out the watch. She had strong eye contact. I think she was just a straight woman liking my energy. Oh well, the life of a Butch.
i hear ya on that.. makes you wonder of shes a femme flirting with you, or if shes a strait woman mistaken you for a guy.. then you wonder maybe shes just a nice person to everyone? should you take the chance and ask her out? if shes a femme it might go well. if shes a straight woman thinking your a guy you get to spend the eve watchung her check out guys that come in and hope she doesnt try to feel you up! if she just a nice person to everyone youll prob have a nice date hearing about her high school sweet heart her mom her sis an that sort of thing.. hmm really want to take that chance? guess a dates a date!
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i hear ya on that.. makes you wonder of shes a femme flirting with you, or if shes a strait woman mistaken you for a guy.. then you wonder maybe shes just a nice person to everyone? should you take the chance and ask her out? if shes a femme it might go well. if shes a straight woman thinking your a guy you get to spend the eve watchung her check out guys that come in and hope she doesnt try to feel you up! if she just a nice person to everyone youll prob have a nice date hearing about her high school sweet heart her mom her sis an that sort of thing.. hmm really want to take that chance? guess a dates a date!
Been there. Done that. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it just becomes a story to share and laugh about with my brothers around the bonfire! LOL
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I have so many wonderful, amazing Butch friends that I adore, and I can assure you, they are NOT a dying breed!!! Butches have such a long, rich history, and are so important to the GLBT community, and I know I sure don't want to see that tossed by the wayside. I *hope* what's dying are the stereotypes and incorrect propaganda - that Butches all want to be FTM, and that all FTMs are ex-Butches... FTM and Butch are two different identities, and it makes me sad how much animosity there is between the two. So PLEASE, to all the Butches out there, don't feel like you aren't super important to this community, and don't feel unappreciated, because I KNOW I'm not the only one who loves and supports you!! (Plus Butches are hot)
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I hope not....I feel pretty alive!
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i hear ya on that.. makes you wonder of shes a femme flirting with you, or if shes a strait woman mistaken you for a guy.. then you wonder maybe shes just a nice person to everyone? should you take the chance and ask her out? if shes a femme it might go well. if shes a straight woman thinking your a guy you get to spend the eve watchung her check out guys that come in and hope she doesnt try to feel you up! if she just a nice person to everyone youll prob have a nice date hearing about her high school sweet heart her mom her sis an that sort of thing.. hmm really want to take that chance? guess a dates a date!
Well now, if a lovely femme smiles at you in Raleys or Trader Joes in N. Cal, it could be me!!!! So, please say hello. Lol

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Just my .02 worth on this topic. I previously posted a longer comment on this issue.

The words "dying" and "Butch" in the same sentence make me uncomfortable first of all. I love my Butch friends dearly. Lots of women are interested in Butch folks. Trust me on this, I hear it all the time.

My experience is that there is no way to tell if a woman identifies as Femme, bi, lesbian..whatever and who knows if she is married, single, poly, looking..you know what? We over process this stuff. If a woman is making eye contact with you she is interested in something. Take a chance and talk to her. Reach out. It could be the best choice that you ever make.
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The words "dying" and "Butch" in the same sentence make me uncomfortable first of all.


I hear you on this part Sun. Everytime this thread is resurrected, my mind goes weird places like:

~who do we petition to have "butches" put on the endangered species lists?

~I see commercials.....similar to the ones where polar bears are trying to gingerly make their way across globally warmed pieces of thinning, fragile ice.....stranded butches searching for stable ground, roaming the world, in a seemingly endless solitary quest.......

~the creation of a non-profit Save A Butch Foundation where in exchange for a donation, you adopt a butch, get photos and letters to keep you informed on how your butch is alive, well and thriving. Also comes with address labels.

~maybe a butch gps system? We get chipped, they download the app, instant visibility and access! Hmm. Or instant stalkerism. I might need to rethink this one.

~"butches as a dying breed" is really the new Tea Party propaganda campaign to undermine gender variance for the benefit of white men with penises. This new campaign will run parallel with their current quest to remake women into barefoot, pregnant, dependent, subservient beings. Okay that was just a slanted reminder to get out and VOTE tomorrow.

~we dont have to worry about butches becoming a dying breed even if we are evolving. If there is ever a shortage, I'm sure ConAgra will find a way to make a large variety of shelf-stable, frozen, and refrigerated reconstituted/re-engineered butch.

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I hear you on this part Sun. Everytime this thread is resurrected, my mind goes weird places like:

~who do we petition to have "butches" put on the endangered species lists?

~I see commercials.....similar to the ones where polar bears are trying to gingerly make their way across globally warmed pieces of thinning, fragile ice.....stranded butches searching for stable ground, roaming the world, in a seemingly endless solitary quest.......

~the creation of a non-profit Save A Butch Foundation where in exchange for a donation, you adopt a butch, get photos and letters to keep you informed on how your butch is alive, well and thriving. Also comes with address labels.

~maybe a butch gps system? We get chipped, they download the app, instant visibility and access! Hmm. Or instant stalkerism. I might need to rethink this one.

~"butches as a dying breed" is really the new Tea Party propaganda campaign to undermine gender variance for the benefit of white men with penises. This new campaign will run parallel with their current quest to remake women into barefoot, pregnant, dependent, subservient beings. Okay that was just a slanted reminder to get out and VOTE tomorrow.

~we dont have to worry about butches becoming a dying breed even if we are evolving. If there is ever a shortage, I'm sure ConAgra will find a way to make a large variety of shelf-stable, frozen, and refrigerated reconstituted/re-engineered butch.

SAVE THE BUTCHES!!!!
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I wonder what prompts this question?

I can't speak for anyone else, but I am certainly not dead, nor am I moving to change My ID.


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I hear you on this part Sun. Everytime this thread is resurrected, my mind goes weird places like:

~who do we petition to have "butches" put on the endangered species lists?

~I see commercials.....similar to the ones where polar bears are trying to gingerly make their way across globally warmed pieces of thinning, fragile ice.....stranded butches searching for stable ground, roaming the world, in a seemingly endless solitary quest.......

~the creation of a non-profit Save A Butch Foundation where in exchange for a donation, you adopt a butch, get photos and letters to keep you informed on how your butch is alive, well and thriving. Also comes with address labels.

~maybe a butch gps system? We get chipped, they download the app, instant visibility and access! Hmm. Or instant stalkerism. I might need to rethink this one.

~"butches as a dying breed" is really the new Tea Party propaganda campaign to undermine gender variance for the benefit of white men with penises. This new campaign will run parallel with their current quest to remake women into barefoot, pregnant, dependent, subservient beings. Okay that was just a slanted reminder to get out and VOTE tomorrow.

~we dont have to worry about butches becoming a dying breed even if we are evolving. If there is ever a shortage, I'm sure ConAgra will find a way to make a large variety of shelf-stable, frozen, and refrigerated reconstituted/re-engineered butch.

OMG Kobi this cracked me up! Thank you, I needed a good laugh.

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This is a great thread topic. I had often wondered the same thing. For years I used to say that "there are only two butches in Connecticut and they're with each other". Not that there would be anything wrong with that but still...
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I vote we reverse engineer this just a little. I don't know about you, but 'visible' isn't much of a problem here. How about we chip the femmes so we can find them?

The techie in me reeally wants this app!

and I'm a super polite stalker...

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I vote we reverse engineer this just a little. I don't know about you, but 'visible' isn't much of a problem here. How about we chip the femmes so we can find them?

The techie in me reeally wants this app!

and I'm a super polite stalker...

I think it would be fun to carry balloons with our vital information on them...are we single...what are we looking for...interests/hobbies....etc....
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I vote we reverse engineer this just a little. I don't know about you, but 'visible' isn't much of a problem here. How about we chip the femmes so we can find them?

The techie in me reeally wants this app!

and I'm a super polite stalker...


Hmmm. I suppose you want a special touch pad configuration femme finding device for the kayak stimulator too?

Ok it still tickles me that I misread kayak simulator as kayak stimulator.

I am heading out into the 66 mph wind gusts. Figuring I should be blown to Boise by 11:15 am est. Please have the coffee ready....cream and sugar.

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