what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Ginger · 10-31-2012, 05:19 PM

Don't give up too soon, or stay too long.

(And just when you think you know where those two points of demarkation lie, the rules will change—so consider this advice useless!)

Soon · 10-31-2012, 05:22 PM

Don't avoid discussing difficult topics

Don't be a conflict avoider

txdoc · 11-02-2012, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Soon

Don't avoid discussing difficult topics

Don't be a conflict avoider

True, but at the same time, strike a balance and don't overanalyze and alienate.

girl_dee · 11-02-2012, 03:50 PM

don't sweat the small stuff

sometimes being right doesn't make you the winner.

ruffryder · 11-28-2012, 07:18 PM

"Relation SHIPS sink when they have too many passengers."

girl_dee · 12-28-2012, 07:54 PM

don't become someone you aren't to make it fit.

don't try to compete with others that came before you

have goals and plans for yourself, and don't sell yourself short by giving them up.

listen to your gut.

VintageFemme · 03-20-2013, 02:46 PM

OMGosh I am never going to be someone to give relationship advice on what to do however sadly *lol* in my experience, I am quite able to give advice on what NOT to do...

Don't assume. Ever.
Don't withdraw... you are a couple, that means two.
Don't mistrust without a reason.
Don't bring that third person [exes] into your bed. Ever.
Don't let small problems become monsters. They will if you don't address them. You can't wish problems away & monsters will eat you.
Don't let ego come before your heart.
Don't forget the tiny things... they mean everything.

Blade · 03-20-2013, 03:07 PM

procrastinate telling someone you love them,

s0litude · 03-20-2013, 10:47 PM

Don't lose who YOU are in who you are together. Have separate interests and activities and SOMEONE who understands, appreciates, and RESPECTS this.

Don't CHANGE who you are for that person. Don't be someone you are not or cannot be/become. We all strive to be the best versions of ourselves, but stay the natural course of your life. Row your own boat and hope they are on the same route and not prone to seasickness.

... But be willing to hold her hair out of the way and rub her back if she is.

Soon · 10-31-2012, 05:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IslandScout

Don't give up too soon, or stay too long.

(And just when you think you know where those two points of demarkation lie, the rules will change—so consider this advice useless!)

Ha! You write SUCH truth within the parentheses!

TruBlu · 11-01-2012, 07:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IslandScout

Don't give up too soon, or stay too long.

(And just when you think you know where those two points of demarkation lie, the rules will change—so consider this advice useless!)

And always hold her hand and tell her you love her....... 😊

Talon · 11-01-2012, 08:23 AM

Make her feel like she's on the same level with every other chick that you know. Make her feel like she's a priority....special...and then she will likely return that to you. If you don't, then don't expect her to.

~ocean · 11-01-2012, 09:15 AM

Dont talk about all the ex lovers (just the ones u need to discuss)
Dont make promises you cant keep
Always kiss eachother good night & good morning regardless what went down
Keep your appearence up .. being a frump is a turnoff
Let hym (her) talk .. listen

~ocean · 11-02-2012, 02:15 PM

~ never let your past become your future ~

03-20-2013, 02:46 PM	#7
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	OMGosh I am never going to be someone to give relationship advice on what to do however sadly lol in my experience, I am quite able to give advice on what NOT to do... Don't assume. Ever. Don't withdraw... you are a couple, that means two. Don't mistrust without a reason. Don't bring that third person [exes] into your bed. Ever. Don't let small problems become monsters. They will if you don't address them. You can't wish problems away & monsters will eat you. Don't let ego come before your heart. Don't forget the tiny things... they mean everything. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

03-20-2013, 03:07 PM	#8
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s0litude Member How Do You Identify?: Transman - HRT / No Surgery Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Single, but enjoying the journey.... Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: North Carolina (NE) Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 525 Thanked 1,210 Times in 310 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	What NOT to do in a relationship.... Don't lose who YOU are in who you are together. Have separate interests and activities and SOMEONE who understands, appreciates, and RESPECTS this. Don't CHANGE who you are for that person. Don't be someone you are not or cannot be/become. We all strive to be the best versions of ourselves, but stay the natural course of your life. Row your own boat and hope they are on the same route and not prone to seasickness. ... But be willing to hold her hair out of the way and rub her back if she is. __________________ "There never was any heart truly great and generous, that was not also tender and compassionate." Robert Frost

11-01-2012, 08:23 AM	#12
Talon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Divine Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: . Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: . Posts: 4,921 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,246 Thanked 10,223 Times in 3,305 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Don't.. Make her feel like she's on the same level with every other chick that you know. Make her feel like she's a priority....special...and then she will likely return that to you. If you don't, then don't expect her to.

10-31-2012, 05:19 PM	#1
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Don't give up too soon, or stay too long. (And just when you think you know where those two points of demarkation lie, the rules will change—so consider this advice useless!)

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Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,093 Times in 3,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Don't avoid discussing difficult topics Don't be a conflict avoider

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12-28-2012, 07:54 PM	#6
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	don't become someone you aren't to make it fit. don't try to compete with others that came before you have goals and plans for yourself, and don't sell yourself short by giving them up. listen to your gut.

11-01-2012, 09:15 AM	#13
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,014 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Dont talk about all the ex lovers (just the ones u need to discuss) Dont make promises you cant keep Always kiss eachother good night & good morning regardless what went down Keep your appearence up .. being a frump is a turnoff Let hym (her) talk .. listen

11-02-2012, 02:15 PM	#14
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,014 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	~ never let your past become your future ~