What have you learned?

MissItalianDiva · 11-03-2012, 07:31 PM

I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please.

Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

Bèsame* · 11-03-2012, 07:55 PM

Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm

Prudence · 11-07-2012, 08:44 AM

That everyone has an agenda.....

Breezy · 11-07-2012, 09:35 AM

To stop hiding.

MissItalianDiva · 11-07-2012, 02:50 PM

I have learned that sometimes we put too much energy and space into things that really just are not worth the effort.

cinnamongrrl · 11-07-2012, 06:17 PM

I have learned.....

no matter what you do you can't make everyone happy....

no matter how far you go, you can't escape the past.....

despite your greatest efforts you can't always right a wrong....

letting go is sometimes all you can do...........

spritzerJ · 11-07-2012, 06:32 PM

I've learned I am demanding and for good reason.

WingsOnFire · 11-07-2012, 07:17 PM

conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet.

Must learn to stop before I get frustrated.

Sun · 11-07-2012, 07:37 PM

I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains.

I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace.

I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone.

I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me.

I have learned...and I have learned.

Trev · 11-07-2012, 07:40 PM

Inquiring minds want to know, and I like giving the information.

sylvie · 11-17-2012, 09:23 PM

i have learned that while i do not agree with the choices my 16 year old daughter has made, i 'can' make my own choices that will reflect on a healthier mindset in terms of the choices she has made.
i have also learned that it's important to me to keep her close, so that she keeps in touch with me and so i know she is safe. That arguing with her only brings stress on her and myself, and that i will do my very best to help her make positive choices when given the chance.

What is important to me, right now, is that she makes safe choices, and that if she should choose to find her way to go back to school, to come back home, and to her loving family that worry sick about her, We're here..

But the phone calls to check in each night and say she's okay and loves me, means too much for me to push her away.. i believe she needs me more than ever to be in her corner.. And while i 'can' be that, i will not allow her to steal, be disrespectful, or break rules.

i have learned, its okay to respect myself, to have feelings & believe one day she will understand that i love the hell out of her, and this isn't easy on me..but i also recognize this isn't easy on her.. She'll come to me.. in the meantime, i worry every day, i always want to hear from her, and i'll always hope for her finding her way, to happiness, success & safety..

WingsOnFire · 04-11-2013, 01:13 PM

I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home.

I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together.

Glenn · 05-23-2013, 10:21 PM

I have learned that Primal Therapy is beneficial for expressing and releasing emotional frustrations, rather than repressing them, and doing or saying certain things to people you may later regret. For example: Since I live alone in a wooded area with alot of animals, I growl, bark, groan, snort, hiss, hoot, whisle, screech, squeak, cluck, click, coo, caw, crawl, walk on all fours, etc. Tonight, it was very windy, and I put on an overcoat with long sleeves, and ran around in the woods flapping my arms like a bird, making bird sounds. I had alot on my mind, but before long, I started laughing at myself, and the way my cats were watching, and it felt great. I do this therapy mainly at night, before dawn, or when no one's around lol.

Blade · 10-04-2014, 08:46 PM

I've learned that friendship is precious, and you can't share it with just anyone.

I've learned that it's easy for me to give respect, and just as easy for me to take it back

I've learned that helping others as I was taught to do from childhood, is most rewarding, even more rewarding is I was taught to give without expecting or asking for anything in return

I've learned that if you don't ever expect anything out of someone, they will never disappoint you.

I've learned that there are many things in life that make me happy. Most are the very most simple things in life.

firegal · 10-04-2014, 10:57 PM

Reminded about life..... My mother and her dementia ... She would NEVER increase her abilities... Now 10 yrs later fresh diagnosis ..... We need to not try correct him'

firegal · 10-04-2014, 10:58 PM

Ten yes later my father has dementia issues!

firegal · 10-04-2014, 10:59 PM

I,m trying to keep up with the changes

Blade · 10-05-2014, 07:43 PM

I've learned that Geese nor Owls can fly when they are molting. They are very venerable during this time

I've learned you can make some really nice things out of junk, and people will buy it

I've learned that it doesn't matter how many glasses you wash, when you let the water out of the sink, suddenly you'll find another glass

Kenna · 10-06-2014, 10:15 PM

I have learned that knowledge and confidence in myself has given my heart and soul much peace.

I have learned... I am not afraid to face difficult situations head on, because my other mom, Momma D, taught me how and encouraged me to "stop being mousy"

I have learned my value and the value of those I consider important to me.

I have learned I have nothing to be ashamed of, even bad decisions that lead me to reanalyze how I move forward and whom I allow in my circle of close family and friends.

I have learned (thru previous experience with my bio mom who has serious dependency issues) not to be codependent or to sacrifice my health and goals to take care of energy draining people.

I have learned...I have every right to stand proud of who I am and my dignity.

11-03-2012, 07:31 PM	#1
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Epiphany... I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please. Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

11-03-2012, 07:55 PM	#2
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,420 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,168 Thanked 41,013 Times in 10,767 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

11-07-2012, 08:44 AM	#3
Prudence Member How Do You Identify?: "congratulations, it's a girl" Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Second star to the right, and straight on till morning. Posts: 509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,333 Thanked 1,177 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 9187054	That everyone has an agenda..... __________________ "There is a vitality, a life force, and energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique."---Martha Graham

11-07-2012, 07:17 PM	#8
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet. Must learn to stop before I get frustrated. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

11-07-2012, 07:37 PM	#9
Sun Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He, him, his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: N/A Posts: 1,775 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,557 Thanked 5,551 Times in 1,456 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Lessons in Love I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains. I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace. I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone. I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me. I have learned...and I have learned. __________________ “Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” ― Rumi

11-07-2012, 09:35 AM	#4
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	To stop hiding.

11-07-2012, 02:50 PM	#5
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have learned that sometimes we put too much energy and space into things that really just are not worth the effort.

11-07-2012, 06:17 PM	#6
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,246 Thanked 27,602 Times in 6,959 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I have learned..... no matter what you do you can't make everyone happy.... no matter how far you go, you can't escape the past..... despite your greatest efforts you can't always right a wrong.... letting go is sometimes all you can do...........

11-07-2012, 06:32 PM	#7
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	I've learned I am demanding and for good reason.

11-07-2012, 07:40 PM	#10
Trev Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Just a good ole boy Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Somewhere between right and wrong Posts: 3,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,988 Thanked 10,142 Times in 2,400 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Inquiring minds want to know, and I like giving the information. __________________ Trev

11-17-2012, 09:23 PM	#11
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	i have learned that while i do not agree with the choices my 16 year old daughter has made, i 'can' make my own choices that will reflect on a healthier mindset in terms of the choices she has made. i have also learned that it's important to me to keep her close, so that she keeps in touch with me and so i know she is safe. That arguing with her only brings stress on her and myself, and that i will do my very best to help her make positive choices when given the chance. What is important to me, right now, is that she makes safe choices, and that if she should choose to find her way to go back to school, to come back home, and to her loving family that worry sick about her, We're here.. But the phone calls to check in each night and say she's okay and loves me, means too much for me to push her away.. i believe she needs me more than ever to be in her corner.. And while i 'can' be that, i will not allow her to steal, be disrespectful, or break rules. i have learned, its okay to respect myself, to have feelings & believe one day she will understand that i love the hell out of her, and this isn't easy on me..but i also recognize this isn't easy on her.. She'll come to me.. in the meantime, i worry every day, i always want to hear from her, and i'll always hope for her finding her way, to happiness, success & safety.. __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

04-11-2013, 01:13 PM	#12
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home. I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

05-23-2013, 10:21 PM	#13
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have learned that Primal Therapy is beneficial for expressing and releasing emotional frustrations, rather than repressing them, and doing or saying certain things to people you may later regret. For example: Since I live alone in a wooded area with alot of animals, I growl, bark, groan, snort, hiss, hoot, whisle, screech, squeak, cluck, click, coo, caw, crawl, walk on all fours, etc. Tonight, it was very windy, and I put on an overcoat with long sleeves, and ran around in the woods flapping my arms like a bird, making bird sounds. I had alot on my mind, but before long, I started laughing at myself, and the way my cats were watching, and it felt great. I do this therapy mainly at night, before dawn, or when no one's around lol.

10-04-2014, 08:46 PM	#14
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I've learned that friendship is precious, and you can't share it with just anyone. I've learned that it's easy for me to give respect, and just as easy for me to take it back I've learned that helping others as I was taught to do from childhood, is most rewarding, even more rewarding is I was taught to give without expecting or asking for anything in return I've learned that if you don't ever expect anything out of someone, they will never disappoint you. I've learned that there are many things in life that make me happy. Most are the very most simple things in life. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-04-2014, 10:57 PM	#15
firegal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Don't let the gal part of my screen name fool ya I,m ALL butch! Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Tacoma,Washington Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,853 Thanked 11,703 Times in 2,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	. Reminded about life..... My mother and her dementia ... She would NEVER increase her abilities... Now 10 yrs later fresh diagnosis ..... We need to not try correct him'

10-04-2014, 10:58 PM	#16
firegal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Don't let the gal part of my screen name fool ya I,m ALL butch! Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Tacoma,Washington Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,853 Thanked 11,703 Times in 2,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	.. Ten yes later my father has dementia issues!

10-04-2014, 10:59 PM	#17
firegal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Don't let the gal part of my screen name fool ya I,m ALL butch! Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Tacoma,Washington Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,853 Thanked 11,703 Times in 2,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	.. I,m trying to keep up with the changes

10-05-2014, 07:43 PM	#18
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I've learned that Geese nor Owls can fly when they are molting. They are very venerable during this time I've learned you can make some really nice things out of junk, and people will buy it I've learned that it doesn't matter how many glasses you wash, when you let the water out of the sink, suddenly you'll find another glass __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-06-2014, 10:15 PM	#19
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,191 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I have learned that knowledge and confidence in myself has given my heart and soul much peace. I have learned... I am not afraid to face difficult situations head on, because my other mom, Momma D, taught me how and encouraged me to "stop being mousy" I have learned my value and the value of those I consider important to me. I have learned I have nothing to be ashamed of, even bad decisions that lead me to reanalyze how I move forward and whom I allow in my circle of close family and friends. I have learned (thru previous experience with my bio mom who has serious dependency issues) not to be codependent or to sacrifice my health and goals to take care of energy draining people. I have learned...I have every right to stand proud of who I am and my dignity. __________________ **************************** She has been through hell, so believe me when I say, fear her when she looks into a fire and smiles. ~E.Corona~