|
|
|
11-05-2012, 06:09 PM
|
#1 |
|
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: *
Posts: 3,750
Thanks: 6,499
Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855   |
I've been thinking about this a lot, and I'm glad the question came up. I wanted to say that with every label comes the dreaded stereotype. Yet, if we do not have a way to differentiate with 'labels' things get cloudy for some. I like to think of these categories as 'descriptors' rather than labels. Well the emerging generations of Studs, Ags, Aggressives, Machas etc., also deal with being stereotyped within the Community. Just like Butch folks, Femme folks and all under the rainbow folks have. I have 2 links to share for thought One is a U-TooB channel from StudzLife101. http://www.youtube.com/user/StudzLife101?feature=watch The other is this video... 
__________________
|
|
|
| The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Daywalker For This Useful Post: |
|
11-05-2012, 06:20 PM
|
#2 |
|
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
FTM Preferred Pronoun?:
guy ones Relationship Status:
... Join Date: May 2011
Location: chillin' in FL
Posts: 3,690
Thanks: 21,951
Thanked 9,679 Times in 2,875 Posts
Rep Power: 21474854 |
AS for the term "papi"
I've only heard papi referred to for male identified individuals, gay or straight. My girl actually calls me papi = daddy. I also know mostly latin people, male and female, use the term to call younger latin males. . and guys call other guys papi too. At least here in Fl where I am. I'm sure when they use that term "papi" it's not in reference to daddy but instead a male they believe is good looking. Hence the term "papi chulo"
|
|
|
|
|
11-05-2012, 06:28 PM
|
#3 | |
|
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: *
Posts: 3,750
Thanks: 6,499
Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855 |
Quote:
On the other hand, I have a friend of 22 years who is Hispanic and whose Femme calls her Papi and/or Poppi...her preferred pronoun is She. So does not Identify as a male. It's all relative...to me. 
__________________
|
|
|
|
|
|
11-05-2012, 06:39 PM
|
#4 |
|
MILLION $$$ PUSSY
How Do You Identify?:
Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?:
Iconic Ms. Relationship Status:
Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: ** La Reina del Sur**
Posts: 22,488
Thanks: 32,231
Thanked 80,078 Times in 15,670 Posts
Rep Power: 21474874 |
Cause I am to tired to type about it
>LINKYLOO< "Excuse Me Sir" All the shows are actually all very informative, you'll have to look them up on YOU TUBE to watch them.
__________________
"If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden   Last edited by The_Lady_Snow; 11-05-2012 at 06:41 PM. |
|
|
|
| The Following 10 Users Say Thank You to The_Lady_Snow For This Useful Post: |
|
11-05-2012, 06:48 PM
|
#5 | |
|
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: *
Posts: 3,750
Thanks: 6,499
Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts
Rep Power: 21474855 |
Quote:
I know Q-Roc. I heart Q-Roc. 
__________________
|
|
|
|
|
| The Following User Says Thank You to Daywalker For This Useful Post: |
|
11-05-2012, 06:55 PM
|
#6 | |
|
MILLION $$$ PUSSY
How Do You Identify?:
Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?:
Iconic Ms. Relationship Status:
Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: ** La Reina del Sur**
Posts: 22,488
Thanks: 32,231
Thanked 80,078 Times in 15,670 Posts
Rep Power: 21474874 |
Uh huh
Quote:
Me too, when ruffryder mentioned only the cis male version of Papi I remember how lucky I was to have been around a diverse POC queer experience. I really urge folks to read/listen to Q-Roc's stuff it's very informative. I wish more POC gender variant folks would come to BFP to share experiences and culture.
__________________
"If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden |
|
|
|
|
| The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to The_Lady_Snow For This Useful Post: |
|
11-05-2012, 07:31 PM
|
#7 | |
|
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: In the present
Posts: 828
Thanks: 3,156
Thanked 3,434 Times in 660 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852  |
Excellent post Mr. Day. I think of butch, femme, papi and other descriptors as you said as identities. A woman spoke at a conference we went to and she said labels are what others apply to you and identites are what you use to express yourself. I thought this was a great way of putting it. Are labels and identities the same thing? I don't think they are.
Quote:
__________________
Happiness Bubbling! |
|
|
|
|
|
11-05-2012, 08:59 PM
|
#8 | |
|
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Femme Preferred Pronoun?:
She, Her Relationship Status:
On Hiatus 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 690
Thanks: 2,020
Thanked 2,684 Times in 562 Posts
Rep Power: 21474849 |
Quote:
__________________
"Quit trying to reason with unreasonable people. It's like trying to have a meaningful conversation with an end table." ~ Girl_On_Fire
|
|
|
|
|
| The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Girl_On_Fire For This Useful Post: |
 |
| Tags |
| butch, stud |
|
|
Hybrid Mode
