Vanilla thread ... How about a "hook up" thread for us Vanilla folk? ... Vanilla thread

QueenofSmirks · 11-10-2012, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Some of us are kinky as hell, by most definitions. But we do not tie each other up, whip each other, use humiliation tactics as a sexual turn on, or make each other stand in the corner when we are "bad." I am not saying this to be insulting to BDSM people, just listing a few of the practices I have read about on BDSM threads on this site.

Keri, I'm sorry to even be posting in this thread, and I battled with myself for about 20 minutes before I decided to go ahead and do so.

First - I looked for a post in the thread that would have warranted your response. I didn't see one, so I'm not sure what compelled you to say what you did. Having said that, I'm curious as to what you mean by "some of us are kinky as hell" but then you say you do not do X, Y, Z, etc. Well, if you are kinky as hell, what DO you do?

Also, I don't think it's fair to say you aren't trying to be insulting to BDSM people by listing a few practices you read about on the BDSM threads. It would be like me talking about Christians and saying "I don't speak in tongues, burn witches at the stake, or believe that women are "unclean" while menstruating... oh, but I am not saying this to be insulting to Christians." It just doesn't hold up.

I'm sorry you feel that this site has somehow pandered to the BDSM community - it's funny how we're a minority but we're seen as having some special privilege instead of just having equal access.

Martina · 11-10-2012, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by QueenofSmirks

I'm sorry you feel that this site has somehow pandered to the BDSM community - it's funny how we're a minority but we're seen as having some special privilege instead of just having equal access.

It's because we are allowed to speak. That's our special privilege.

nycfem · 11-10-2012, 02:31 PM

MODERATION

Hey, folks, this is a Vanilla Hook Up thread. Let's get it back on track and allow for those who id as vanilla (or what it alludes to) to post and get to know each other.

However, this is a public forum, so if something is posted that you read as discriminatory towards people who practice BDSM, by all means report it. We don't condone that towards any group or identity. Let us discuss in the mod/admin thread and see if it indeed warrants intervening.

By the same token, Keri, if you feel that someone is mocking your thread, instead of striking out in a passive-aggressive way towards those who practice BDSM, report it and let us take a look.

Finally, please do not report the posts prior to my post. Let's just take it from here.

Thanks, everyone!

Jennifer

Nadeest · 11-10-2012, 10:27 PM

I'm sorry, Keri, but I have never been good about talking about myself. I figure that anyone interested in me will learn more in one good convo with me, then I could ever tell them by writing things down. This just seems to work better for me, somehow.

Sweet Bliss · 08-05-2013, 05:13 PM

Geez, wondering if I should post in here. Awful quiet.

Oh well. Yes I'm old fashioned, old school, June Cleaver kinda gal. Have no interest in anything beyond vanilla. Not interested in anyone who claims they left the other team to join the Vanilla scoop. Been there done that, the end.

You can read my posts to figure out if you are interested or not. I'm considered too much by some, not enough for others. If you have an interest in the unusual then we might hit it off.

11-10-2012, 02:31 PM	#3
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	MODERATION Hey, folks, this is a Vanilla Hook Up thread. Let's get it back on track and allow for those who id as vanilla (or what it alludes to) to post and get to know each other. However, this is a public forum, so if something is posted that you read as discriminatory towards people who practice BDSM, by all means report it. We don't condone that towards any group or identity. Let us discuss in the mod/admin thread and see if it indeed warrants intervening. By the same token, Keri, if you feel that someone is mocking your thread, instead of striking out in a passive-aggressive way towards those who practice BDSM, report it and let us take a look. Finally, please do not report the posts prior to my post. Let's just take it from here. Thanks, everyone! Jennifer

11-10-2012, 10:27 PM	#4
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	I'm sorry, Keri, but I have never been good about talking about myself. I figure that anyone interested in me will learn more in one good convo with me, then I could ever tell them by writing things down. This just seems to work better for me, somehow.

08-05-2013, 05:13 PM	#5
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Geez, wondering if I should post in here. Awful quiet. Oh well. Yes I'm old fashioned, old school, June Cleaver kinda gal. Have no interest in anything beyond vanilla. Not interested in anyone who claims they left the other team to join the Vanilla scoop. Been there done that, the end. You can read my posts to figure out if you are interested or not. I'm considered too much by some, not enough for others. If you have an interest in the unusual then we might hit it off.